Do you think Homophobic people are in reality gay themselves?

Answer 1

There have been studies performed that show a higher rate of innate homosexuality among homophobic males. I think this very much makes sense because so many people are in denial about who they are. Homophobes are particularly angry and hateful towards gays because they're ashamed of the fact that they may be homosexual themselves. Maybe they feel they need to "work harder" to "prove" they're not homosexual to a society that largely disapproves of nonheterosexuality.

There are a lot of guys out there with wives and kids who actively participate in homosexual acts. None of these guys wanna be found out, so they keep it on the DL. These types bother me because they are not honest with themselves or to their families. But, what can they do in a society that disapproves so much about homosexuality. Most people hold some sort of belief that being gay makes you less of a man, and one's manliness is one of the most important things he can have.

While I don't dislike gays for being gay, I do feel sorry for them and the sh*t they have to go through. But, it's who they are. But at the same time, you have to feel sorry for these in the closet homophobes too. It's easy to say "just be yourself", but these guys risk their manhood and their social acceptance if they come out.

Answer 2

No, I don't agree with this. Maybe in some cases...yes. But in general I'd have to disagree. I think the primary problem is upbringing. If someone is brought up in a closed minded home life then they themselves will be a product of their environment. However....people can change with willingness and that's where the heart of the problem comes in! People don't want to look at things from other perspectives. What many fail to realize is that it doesn't mean you have to agree with it! Just try to look at an issue with more than just a flat NO!!!

Answer 3

Some may be repressing their true sexuality, but this isn't always the case. Some people who grow up in smaller communities, or in very religious families are often homophobic also. It has a lot more to do with the way in which people are raised to feel about homosexuals than anything else.

Answer 4

Psychologically speaking, that's what they claim. However, I think it's a mix of the classic nature vs. nurture debate.

To expand on what I mean, take for instance ANY characteristic of a person that you may not like, not just homosexuality. They claim that the qualities you hate in another person are usually the same exact qualities you are in denial about hating in yourself. A lot of people clash in personalities because they are TOO much alike, but don't want to admit it. Like people say they hate hypocrites, but...have you ever been a hypocrite yourself? Probably, but..what? you don't like admitting it right? See my point?

However, that is not always the case. Sometimes, like others have mentioned it's due to parental brainwashing, also known as "raising" a child. We learn from experience. If what we experience is a negative view of homosexuality, that is what we tend to carry with us, unless we decide not to just accept everything we see and hear, but doubt it and find our own answers and come to our own conclusions.

Answer 5

Only if straight bashers are really hetero.
I tend to think many gays see gayness in places they don't exist.
Just like the tweeker that thinks everyone else is wired.
Yes some may have closet issues, but many just find it sick and immoral.
When I sin I know I am sinning. I do not pretend it is not a sin or that I am somehow doing something good.
I also don't think sexuality and personal identity are the same thing.

Answer 6

I don't think you can generalise, but certainly some are. My first boyfriend was in the closet, and would say very cruel homophobic things in public, and get really violent if anyone suggested he was gay. (Just made life more difficult for himself when he DID come out!)
I'm sure there are other reasons too, but I would guess that's quite a common one.

Answer 7

sometimes yes sometimes no
if a person expresses their homophobism then they could be just wanting to find a reason to pick a fight with someone, but mostly insecure - rather than gay.
if a person doesn't express their feeling and keeps it to themselves, then there is no problem with that.

Answer 8

Without a doubt. Witness Teddy Haggard.

Answer 9

Some, but not all. I think some attack on here simply because they can get away with it, they don't face the possibility of being physically confronted about it so it makes them "brave". The majority of the ones with the most VILE things to say wouldn't have the nerve to say anything of that sort to my face.

Answer 10

A lesbian once told me the she found that the ones who are most vocal about being disgusted by the gay lifestyle are the ones that are more likely to try it out.