I was out and drinking alot and got this girl pregnant. I found out shes a month pregnant last week. I have a girlfriend and dont want this girl to have the baby. How do I convince her to have an abortion?
2006-11-14 05:43:32 · 30 answers · asked by Dean 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
And for the record she said she was on her birth control before we had sex, so she lied and I'm 21 and shes 19.
2006-11-14 05:55:56 · update #1
If she doesnt want one then you go with what she wants. You may not want it but she does, is the reason you dont want it because ou have a girlfriend? If you are willing to cheat on her, drunk or not then perhaps its not a great relationship to start with. I do think though that if you are gonna stay with the girl you are with you have to tell her, coz that is something that will come back and bite you in the ***. You may find that even thoguh this girl doesnt want an abortion, she may not want you to have anything to do with it.
2006-11-14 05:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, you are definitely in a hard situation. What you need to do is be upfront with everyone at this point. Dont try to bury the baby because that baby will always be with you in your memories for the rest of your life. Maybe you are not "ready" to face it right now but unfortunately you will have to some day. Dont let the decisions you make now haunt you forever because they will not solve the problem. The problem began with you being irresponsible (which hey, we all are at some point in our lives) and you want to end it being irresponsible. This will not solve your problem but only make it worse. Your life can and will change with a baby but its all how you make it. Dont make this decision based on the fact alone that you dont want your girlfriend finding out or your parents finding out. You may not even be with your girlfriend forever so why end a life so that she wont break up with you when you may not be together forever anyway. Besides, the truth will come out one day, even if its not soon. You will earn a lot more respect in the long run if you take control of this situation and stand up for your baby and protect him/her just like you would a girlfriend or sister. Also try (no matter how hard it must be) to imagine what the girl thats carrying your baby is feeling like. Even if she got an abortion, both you and her would have to live with that and even if its easy for you, she may not be making the best judgements at this point because it definitely is harder and more confusing on the girl. Try to protect her as you would a friend because she most likely may not be making good decisions if she rushes into an abortion. Make sure you guys talk it over, seriously. There is no undoing an abortion. It is a final decision and you must live with that. Just remember that life is about mistakes. Its how you decide to handle those mistakes and learn & grow from them that counts.
2006-11-14 06:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by Onecolegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya know what, you played the game, now it's time to pay the price. If you were man enough to get a girl pregnant, then you need to be man enough to take on the consequences. It makes me sick to know that all you young people look at abortions as a way to get rid of your irresponsible mistakes. That is a life that you created....it is selfish of you to just want to end it, that way your girlfriend doesn't know that you cheated on her and got a girl pregnant. Drinking is NOT an excuse either.....it's just a cop out that everyone tries to use. You are being selfish!! Step up to the plate and deal with the consequences you have created....don't make this baby pay for your mistakes and your lack of responsibility!!
2006-11-14 05:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by autiesmummy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first you should have used better judgment. It is not your call to tell her what to do with the baby. You might want to tell your girlfriend that you are going to be a daddy before she hears about it through someone else. It is not fair for the baby either Now if the other girl wants an abortion then it is her right. good luck with the whole thing and abortion is wrong.
2006-11-14 05:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider the feelings of "this girl." What does she want to do? This isn't about what is convenient for you...
It's a sad situation to have fathered an unwanted child but now you have to step up and support her and your child if that is the decision she makes. If your girlfriend truly loves you, you should tell her the truth and you guys will work it out.
edit to add: even though she said she was on birth control, it would have still been smart to use a condom for protection against std's if nothing else... and realize no birth control is 100% effective.
2006-11-14 05:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by bluestem0916 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the reasons they invented condoms! You should have know better. How old are you? I will not make this about your age but you do need to get it together. The first step is to tell your girlfriend, if you love her than she deserves to hear it from you, if you don't love her than she still needs to know about the possibility that you could be having a child. Wanting to know how to tell a girl to have an abortion is not a good idea. Once she gets pregnant than it is her decision. You could let her know how you feel and that this wouldn't be ideal at all because you don't feel you can be there for her but when you slipped up in her unprotected you signed your rights away. Please let your current gf know, she deserves to.
2006-11-14 05:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by soon2b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her have the baby-abortions are so wrong.And you cannot force this girl to have an abortion-it is her choice-she is the one carrying it.You made the mistake of not wearing a condom-now you need to take responsibility for what you did.You will eventually have to tell your girlfriend-and you will have to be a father in this childs life and pay child support.Hopefully you learned a big lesson about safe sex!
2006-11-14 05:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by mama of 2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not she has an abortion is her decision. You can't really convince her either way. If you're sure it's yours you will be obligated to be in the child's life, even if it's just paying child support. You should have been faithful to your girl. You have to tell her. It will be better coming from you. If she hears it from somewhere else it will hurt a lot more. Think about this a lot before you make a decision. Remember it takes two to make a baby.
Good luck
2006-11-14 05:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by vanessac2006 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It was a BIG mistake not only on your part but on hers... You need to tell your Girlfriend... She needs to know right away... If she leaves you, well you just have to deal with it... DON"T make this girl get an abortion. Abortion is NOT the answer to your problems... Your son/or daughter is not the blame for this and he or she is the one that will have to pay if you make this girl get an abortion... You will be killing your son/daughter. Is that something you want to live with for the rest of your life? I don't know if you are doing this because you are afraid that your girlfriend is going to find out, but if so, you are choosing to kill your child for someone that might end up leaving you when she finds out anyways..Trust me if you don't tell her she will find out eventually... Think things over carefully... Although this is something that should of been thought of before doing what you did... Please don't make your son/daughter pay for your mistakes... You won't be able to live with yourself in the future!!! Good luck and hope you make the right decision...
2006-11-14 05:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont.
You be a man and take care of your responsibilities.
ABORTION IS MURDER.
You may not be ready to be a dad but you were ready to have sex - - we all know the consequences of sex.
God doesnt make mistakes - that little baby could be the greatest blessing you will ever have during your time here on earth.
2006-11-14 05:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by Brey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋