This is my boyfriend and I's first thanksgiving together and we have to go to his dad's, his mom's, and my family's thanksgiving dinners. Mine starts at 12 and his both start at 1. Mine is about 20mins away from his dads. But his mom's is about a half hour away from his dads. We want to be able to spend time with everyone, and everyone wants to spend time with us. How long should we stay at each place? When would leaving be considered rude, timewise that is?
Thanks!
2006-11-14 05:27:47 · 17 answers · asked by Bobi C 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
I had an answer for this, but it was too close to Cinnamon's. Give her the 10 pts. I've been in this situation enough times - don't even try to over-feed yourself.
It's great to start with intentions of only having one part of the meal at one place, but the next thing you know, the stuffing smells sooooo good, and you're stuffed! :)
Your families should understand that you want to see everyone. What matters is that you're making the effort to visit with them all, and that you're not making anyone wait for you. Have fun!
2006-11-14 07:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pick one to attend and call everyone else to politely decline dinner but that you can make it later for dessert and any leftovers. That would be the most courteous route. Thanksgiving does last all day and evening so you don't have to scramble in the middle of the day.
You also have to account for driving time. If you hurry to eat at one house, which is considered rude even with the best of intentions, you can easily make yourself sick before you get to the next house.
Or else call and ask if they can delay dinner by a couple hours. That means that one family won't be able to start eating until the regular supper hour.
2006-11-14 05:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and decide who you will eat at first. Get there a little a early like 11, help them out with last minute cooking sitting the table things like that. Eat a sparingly since you have two other places to eat. After 20 minutes say your good byes and head to the next place. Eat a little more, spend the time to get to know every one then head off to the last place. They will have left overs and spend a little time once again with the family. I had to do this many times.
2006-11-14 05:41:48 · answer #3 · answered by RedCloud_1998 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appetizers at the first place - go early, before the main meal will be ready.
Meal at the second place - arrive about the time dinner is to be served, enjoy the meal and stay alittle after to visit.
Dessert at the third place - go after they have eaten the main meal and stay as late as you want visiting and munching on pie or whatever they are serving.
Be sure to tell each family what you are doing so they know what time to expect you and to be sure to have something for you. Like the last stop, if they know you will be there for a late afternoon dessert and visit, they will not cut into the pies before you arrive. (Like anyone will have any room right after the main meal anyway!).
2006-11-14 05:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by neona807 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should try to go to all, but since it dosn't look like you will have time. Make it so you can eat at one of them, then go to the next within that same hour of 12-1. The last one go even though its after the time and explaine and the will reason with you and understand cause you still made the effort to stop in.
2006-11-14 07:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jessa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the one that starts at noon a little early - so if you leave, shortly after eating, at least you sent soem time with them
Pick a second one that starts at 1p.m. & tell them that you will show up for the desert - say about 2 p.m.
Tell the other one that starts at 1 p.m. that you will show up for a card game, coctails or something, even if it is just to watch TV about 5 or 6. Or - you will visit them for a leftover lunch on Friday.
2006-11-14 06:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by dmnyco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you cannot clone yourself (LOL) try talking to each family member who is hosting to re-arrange the times, usually picking a time is like picking it out of a hate (for people who don't have more than two places to be) I am sure that something can be done. It is good to be able to spend at least an hour at each.
2006-11-14 05:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by newcovenant0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could call each of the families and discuss how they feel about your stay. Most people will understand that you can't stay long or even come at all until later when there are muliple places to visit. The best thing to do is to discuss it with your boyfriend and with the people who invited you. You shouldn't run yourself to death on such a wonderful day...remember that, too!
2006-11-14 05:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by lilgal22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go to one for Thanksgiving and the other on Christmas. Do not make yourself crazy trying to be in 3 places at once. Been there, done that. He should go to his mom's for dinner, you go to your family for dinner and meet up at his dad's for dessert. This way, everybody is happy.
2006-11-14 06:57:36 · answer #9 · answered by Kabu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
last year i went to 3 thanksgiving dinners (but only 2 started at the same time....)
what i would do is have hors dourves at one, dinner at another and desert at the third.......i wouldn't think anyone would give you a hard time for trying to be fair and spend time with everyone.....and if they do then i'd say "okay, well i guess we'll just have to alternate thanksgivings....we'll see you for every third thanksgiving..."
2006-11-14 05:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋