2006-11-14 04:59:58 · 12 answers · asked by gisele_homan 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It wasnt as bad as what I thought it would it would be, I just had my first one too 15 months ago. The thing that really helped me to understand what would be happening is all the baby shows they play on t.v. Here are a few: Birth Day, On the discovery health channel (that was my Favorite) Taking home baby On TLC, and maternity ward on TLC, Hope some of these help you. I Strongly recomend you try to watch them, expecially Birth Day it takes you through the whole process of labor and delivery, and it shows pretty much everything, so you'll know what to expect.
2006-11-14 05:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by ANDREA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 33 year old male and I have my first son (almost 9 months old). My wife is 32 now ;).
Your fears are normal. My wife was afraid of the labor part. But to be honest, it's quite safe and relatively pain-free. She had an epidural and didn't really feel the pain during the labor.
She did have an episiotomy, so there was some for a couple of weeks after delivery, but she took her pain relievers like a big girl.
The overwhelming joy over the miracle of birth will more than make up for the pain you'll feel. You'll want to do it again!
Remember, the pain is managable. The experience is invaluable.
2006-11-14 05:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by Cool-K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how scared you must be huni and I'm afraid there's nothing anyone call tell you that'll change that. The only thing I will say is that it doesn't matter how painful the labour is or how scary you find the pregnancy, because at the end of the day you're still going to be a mummy and have a beautiful baby that you're going to love so much that'll scare you itself. I know you're scared huni, but just think about that end outcome and you can face anything.
Congratulations and good luck
2006-11-14 05:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pregnant with my 1st child as well, I'm 30. I was a lil scared in the beginning. My cousin (very close to me) had her 2nd child on November 1st and asked me to be with her during the delivery, of course I agreed. After living that experience with her I am looking forward to having me. The miracle of giving birth to a baby is so awesome! I am no longer scared. I ask ladies everyday and no one remembers being scared (of course they say this after it happened). Each & every pregnancy and delivery is different so we can not know for sure what we can expect. Just be happy and enjoy yur pregnancy every moment!
2006-11-14 05:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by Claudia-Elena's Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try not to be scared. I'm on my third and my labours were bad but that because i guess it's a family thing. my mom had the same problems i do. anyway, what's your plan? set "rules" like if the pain is to much to handle then get the epidural. music helps too. more than anything else having your spouse and/or family will help distract you from the pain. my sisters were there for my first and they were trying to remember childhood songs which turned out to be really funny even though i was in a lot of pain. you will do GREAT!
2006-11-14 05:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by nelly78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared hon. I was so freaked out of the fact of my baby coming out of there! It had me so worried! But I finally went into labor, and yes, it hurts! But it was not as bad as I thought it would be. I will not lie to you, it is a terrible pain, but nothing you cant handle. Just remember that with every contraction you have, you are closer to seeing your beautiful child! That will keep you from realizing how bad it hurts. Its worth it hon! If it was as terrible as some people say, i wouldnt want more, but i do! Cant wait to have another one! My daughter needs a brother or sister. Your a woman, you can handle anything!!!!!!!
Good luck sweetie!
2006-11-14 05:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by Hydimyangel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had two kids and with the first it's VERY scary.. There's not much I can say to make you feel better, but don't think about it now.. I know it's hard, but just concentrate on something else if you can.. And trust me... Once the L & D is over with and you see that baby you're going to forget all about the pain... Good luck
2006-11-14 05:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by Kat0312 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. I can't tell you it doesn't hurt but I can tell you there are options for pain control and whether you choose to use them or not you will forget about teh pain as soon as you hold that gift in your arms. It is wierd but you truly wont remember the pain. It will al be worth it. Practice your breathing techniques and any other techniques you may have. Try to get things ready for the baby so you can focus on the goal and not what will happen to get to it. Good LUck!
2006-11-14 05:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by priss879 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your worry is a hundred% frequent. i know it does not help to permit you already know this, yet you particularly do no longer must be fearful. one million) the epidural can't numb your top physique fairly. you have been lied to on that one... 2nd, the greater under pressure or apprehensive you sense approximately transport, the greater it particularly is going to wreck. surely. think of of the greater severe menstrual cramps you have ever had. it particularly is as undesirable because it gets, yet each and each cramp purely lasts for one minute, no longer for agonizing hours like cramps. then you certainly've minutes between them too the place you are able to relax. You sound to me like an extremely good candidate for hypnobirthing. you ought to look at it quickly too because it particularly is a quite a few month long approach of educating you to hypnotize your self and conquer your worry. I even have heard many people say that they get so good at it they in no way had any discomfort in any respect! For my first baby I employed a doula and it grew to become into the terrific investment I made in my delivery. She taught me approximately childbirth, discomfort, and discomfort administration. I did each and every thing drug unfastened and gently. I also have a severe tolerance for discomfort, yet nevertheless it grew to become into no longer the main discomfort i've got ever been in... I stored watching for it to worsen... look at your concepts and don't get under pressure, it won't assist you at present and it rather won't assist you later. (no count as to if or no longer you opt for for the epidural, you nevertheless ought to dilate some earlier they are going to provide it to you!)
2016-10-03 23:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very scary and painfull, esp. with 1st baby, but believe me, once the delivery is over, you will totally forget about the pain.
2006-11-14 05:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by manny 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋