In a long time relationship(marriage), apart from sex, what other factors are important to keep the relation going as strong as it was since the first or two years of meeting, a love that is still burning for each other each n every day?
2006-11-14 04:46:27 · 16 answers · asked by Worried guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, sex is paramount.
Studies show that women increasingly go off sex as they get more secure in a relationship.
When the sex goes, move on.
What good is a life lived without sex just because you feel guilty about leaving your woman?
2006-11-14 04:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by Pastor Sauce 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Love grows and develops in a healthy long term relationship. The burning desire that you had when you first went out with each other may subside over time, but that is not to say that the relationship is not a strong one. Sex is a major part of healthy marriages and the degree of sex may vary from couple to couple; the main thing is that both of you are satisfied with the sexual part of your lives together. As to what other factors that are important, I would say, mutual support; honesty and trust, respect and friendship. For you to have a good quality living relationship with anyone, those factors must be in place. Sounds as if you are feeling that something is missing. Is it time for you to seek some professional counselling? Good luck, and one more thing...like a garden, a marriage must be tended and nurtured; it just doesn't happen on its own.
2006-11-14 12:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is hard, but very rewarding.
If you look at them as an extension (an alter ego for example) of yourself and communicate honestly with them then you will find other interest (other than sex) that you can share.
Just keep in mind, that at times you may not always agree with decisions that you yourself made. Or that some people that you have loved all your life (ex: your parents), you may not always agree with; therefore be forgiving of your spouse and cut them some slack if they don't act/say/do what you would expect or want.
Sex is important in a marriage, but finding other interest is just as important. Find out little stuff that they have always wanted to do, example: go camping, ride a bike like they were a kid, etc.. You may find a common ground for both to do together.
2006-11-14 12:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Sex is important but it takes more then that too. Trust is a big deal. Still having fun with each other - go out on dates now and then. Talking about things and a big thing is showing appreciation for each other. We've been together almost 4 years now and I think I love him more now then I used to. It keeps getting better and better
2006-11-14 12:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're married and asking yourself this NOW?!
Wow, um... yeah, I'd say there's a lot of other stuff that goes into a relationship. I mean, eventually your naughty bits aren't going to work like they used to, so building a relationship on that is doomed from the start. Can you talk to this person? Do you get easily irritated with them? Do they excite you? I'm the kind of person that demands a constantly evolving lifestyle, SO I generally look for a person that can assist me in doing just that. Some that not only complements me, but I complement them as well.
Don't be so shallow as to think you make something worth while on sex alone.
2006-11-14 12:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by J Bents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex and burning love simply don't carry a relationship long term. You have to make a deliberate decision to gut it out and grow with each other. It's the WORK of COMMITTMENT that makes the deepest love. Sex is a good thing, no doubt. Feelings of love and passion are good things too. But long time love is deeper than that and shows itself in persistance and committment.
2006-11-14 12:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by bdenton2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love communication honor trust passion and a friendship that goes beyond any other but sex is a good thing dint get me wrong but if that's all there is then you two might just be sex partners and not lovers at all
2006-11-14 12:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is important but its not the most important factor. Communication, honesty, respect, patience, and affection are also important factors in serious relationships.
2006-11-14 12:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by gentlgodis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make sure that each other feels important, to the other and wanted. to feel like you can communicate with that person openly, and know that you won't be judged, or ridiculed .because if you don't have those things, your not really going to be that in to having sex, and even if you do it wont be authentic, and it wont be as good as it could be.
2006-11-14 12:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are certainly more things to a relationship.
You can't depend your relationship on sex.
Some people may, but I don't really call that a relationship.
You have to have communication and you have to be able to have fun together in other ways.
You need honesty in a relationship.
2006-11-14 12:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by twylatimestwo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋