what are you expectations, what a guy can do to you to make you feel better and something of that sort, please help?
2006-11-14 04:37:58 · 25 answers · asked by Ayati 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't expect anything from any guy, unless he's my man, of course. In that case:
1. UNDERSTAND and RESPECT -- I am aching, I am bleeding (not to be crude), I am grumpy--- DEAL WITH IT! Besides, I'm the one in this relationship that has to carry the burden of menstruating, appreciate the fact that it's not you.
2. MAKE ME FEEL BETTER-- A hot bath and body massage are always a nice fix.. definetely gets some points.
3. CHOCOLATE -- I dunno, I tend to crave it when its that time of month.
4. SORRY ABOUT THIS ONE GUYS-- Yes, in an extreme circumstance, I might need you to get me some "supplies" from the pharmacy... Stop stressin' so much about it-- everyone KNOWS they're not for you!!! (I'd do it for you!)
NOTE FOR THE GUYS: you'll never truly understand what an inconvenience and pain in the *** having a period is... The mere thought of it grosses most of you out... Just imagine, just once, what we go through... It's not fun or cute, and we don't like it either (and yes, we do get grouchy), but it's just part of life, so work with us a little.. THANKS..
2006-11-14 05:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Every woman is different. And thank you for asking. I would appreciate being asked, personally. For me... Don't keep asking me if I'm all right. If you know I am menstruating, I'm not. I will try to not be a *****, but sometimes the pain is just too much. I promise I will apologize later. It's not that I want to be treated special. Just with respect. You don't really have to know how I feel, as long as you understand that I have feelings that you may never understand.
With some women, having sex will start cramps and spasms. With others, the ensuing mess is just too distasteful for them. Either way, it's not fun for her. So the seed of resentment will be planted.
And finally...
Try to think about how you would like to be treated if you were experiencing discomfort or pain.
2006-11-14 04:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I expect is to be treated with respect and as much understanding as is possible (guys can never really understand how it feels to have a period). Also, I expect him to listen to me whine and complain and say whatever I like without complaining or being grossed out. Hey, guys just have to hear about it, they don't have to go through it!
What I like is to get a lower back massage and some extra cuddling on the couch. Oh and it's extra nice if he fetches me tylenol (or whatever pain killer) if I say I need it.
2006-11-14 04:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guy is like a dream come true when it comes to this. Just this morning he let me sleep in because he knows that I could lay in traffic im so exhausted this time of the month. He always takes extra special care of me but at this time when I am an emotional wreck and so crampy I can barely stay concious he puts me in bed with a cold drink and the heating pad. He gets whatever I am craving to eat, and listens to my sobfests and is just generally great. He truly understands that my hormones have just taken me over and he is patient about waiting for me to come back to normal. He is my blessing in all ways and I am so lucky. Not bragging by the way but this sensitive man is truly special and he deserves all the good things in life.
2006-11-14 04:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by jenkins_nichole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all I know is that if my hubby blames something I say or do on my "aunt visiting" the gloves come off & I'm ready to explode. As long as he's smart enough to not go there then things go pretty well.
I do think that some women expect to be pampered at that time but it really makes no sense. It's a normal part of life & we need to be "big girls" & not be such winey babies about it.
2006-11-14 04:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My partner knows i get cranky a few days before - he understands if I am a bit short tempered with him and doesn't pick a fight.
He also knows that sometimes I cry for no good reason and just gives me a hug and lets me cry and then gets me a hanky.
Then when I get cramps he brings me a hot water bottle and will set up the dvd player so I can watch comforting programmes to take my mind off it.
Chocolate is good too. Also I get sushi caravings that my partner will indulge me with too.
2006-11-14 04:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by Leapling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I started taking evening primrose oil capsules (1 a day). They have completely evened out my hormones so I don't have any RRRaaarrrhhh days! Also told all my friends and work colleagues and it is noticeably calmer in the office.
2006-11-14 07:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by sharon w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
carefully with chair and whip in hand.... only kidding
hot water bottle, hugs, and a lil understanding that yes we do feel like our stomachs are falling out, yes we do feel angry/ frustrated/upset for seemingly no reason what so ever but you men still love us despite that. oh and don't say were being unreasonable because were NOT!!!!
2006-11-14 10:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not all that bad, we like to be pampered, we're in a very vunerable state, we need treats and nice lovely cuddles, but most of all you need to take us seriously when we complain!
if you carn't do that then you need to avoid us 24/7 for the whole time!!!!
2006-11-14 05:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by superstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt keep in mind that...I observed a project about it on one in all those crappy magazines yet concept not some thing of it because most of the stuff on those is unfaithful. i replaced into definitly not waiting for that. xxx
2016-11-24 19:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋