Do you think I am being unfair?

Question

Ok, my husband works 5 days a week (Mon-FrI) and every weekned he wanted to go visit his parents. Itold him that it was not right that we could not make plans because I already know that he had something to do (go visit his parents) Well we had a few arguments about this until he decieded that he was going to go visit them only on weekdays he didnt work because of th weather (he works in construction, so its outdoors). Well when he goes byhimself he spends hours at his parents' (maybe 3 or more) and when we go together its only like an hour maximum. THat really bothers me because everytime he goed by himself I keep thinking that he is coming home in an hour or two but he doesnt! Am i doing something wrong or am I right?

When he goes by himself and I call him, I hear his parents on the backgroung talking.

When we go together we just sit and stare at the walls! Its pretty damn boring!

Answer 1

I am totally on your side in this one. That is way too much time. He probably goes over there because he can get treated like a kid again and doesn't have to do anything. Sounds like he still has some growing up to do. Or you could move a little further away so he can't visit them quite so often.

Answer 2

Sit him down and ask him if you can compromise and maybe see his parents every other weekend so you can spend time with him, too. You have to communicate. Tell him how you feel when you both are calm. Don't wait until it builds up and turns into a shouting match.Tell him you would like to spend a little longer time with his parents when you go over there. It's good that you want to see his parents because alot of people don't want to be around their in-laws. Communication is the key. Good luck.

Answer 3

I agree with Sassybree1979. He's already given you the weekends you want, now you want the the days he can't work too? Most girls bi t c h about guys playing too much x-box, not visiting with their family. And one of the things that almost all girls list as an important quality in a guy is strong family values. I think you've got it pretty good over there; be happy.

Answer 4

He wants to visit with his parents. He was going on the weekends, but you argued with him and he changed to going when he doesn't work because of weather. I assume that it isn't every week that he gets to go see them? And when he does he stays more than an hour? Hmmm, he compromised and changed to accommodate what you wanted. And you still aren't happy? I think you're being a little unfair.

Answer 5

Is it possible that when he goes without you he isn't actually going to his parents ? Or is it possible he tells you he is there for 3+ hrs but he's really only there for the first hour ?

Answer 6

it sounds like u just want some time with ur husband let him know u feel neglected and u miss him

Answer 7

yes you are being unfair because when he works all week long that gives him time to himself and not thinking about work.because then he has a couple of days to relax then back to work.let him live.

Answer 8

Mommas Boy. What a punk.. How about you dissappear for 3 hours and say you're at your moms.

Answer 9

find out if he is really going to his moms house or somewhere else. always go with him to his mom's place. and if you cannot go with him then call his mom's place,(not his mobile)to check on him. he sounds really suspecious.

Answer 10

Its not your fault..
seems like ur husband is cheating at you..
if he went to visited his parent alone.
he spends 3 hours..
and when with ur.. only 30minutes ?

seems like u need to divorce with your stupid husband