My friend died yesterday, how do i cope with it??

Question

a friend of mine died yesterday AT SCHOOL
he had a seizure, the school called the paramedics & they didnt find a pulse, so the rushed him to the hospital. he died there
and he was a year younger than me, im in tenth grade, he was in ninth.WHY DID THIS HAPPEN?!?!?!?! god it sucks, he didnt deserve it.
he had heart problems
which also sucked, he took meds for that
he was one of my good friends!!!
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he was only like 14

and im almost 16!! i cant deal w/ something like this

i feel so sick. i cant eat
i cant sleep

what can i do?!?!?!?

Answer 1

its hard to deal with i know i lost one for my best friends last year on valentines day and I'm still not over it. i cried for 3 days straight then i talked to my granny which helped alot b/c she was going through it too. he was like a son to her and he was on of my best guy friends ya know he would kill for me. i think wat mad it harder for me was that i didn't get to say goodbye b/c i live in new york and he lived in Georgia... it also didn't help that i didn't find out about it until the day b4 his memorial so we didn't have the money to send me down there. its not going to be easy to get over just surround yourself with people that love you and thank god that you have them. its a process that takes tI'me. if u ever need to talk im usually on myspace or u can e mail me at [e-mail]. my myspace is myspace.com/kaciehand. good luck in the future.

Answer 2

I think losing any one at any age is hard to deal with. I think you should talk to a school counsellor or you parents. Express how you feel don't keep it in inside it will cause emotional problems and other problems. I don't think it's fair that God takes ppl away at such a young age either,,my mom was only 43 when she died, I was only 23. And that was the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with so far in my life. BUT I believe EVERYthing happens for a reason,,,,You know he might had been in more pain than any ones know,,and God said"your pain will end now"

Answer 3

Oh , I'm so sorry, I've never had anyone really close to me die. I guess I haven't been alive long enough, I'm twelve. That is horrible. maybe this will help.

Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you.
It's good to have you back again, you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, They'll be here later on."

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night the day's chores put to flight,
God and I are closest to you... in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years,
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.

But do not be afraid to cry: it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
If I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er,
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
But together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too;
That as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain;
Then you can say to God at night... "My day was not in vain,
and now I am contented... that my life was worthwhile.
Knowing as I passed along I made somebody smile."

God says: "If you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low;
Just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street with me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind."

And when it's time for you to go... from that body to be free.
Remember you're not going... you're coming here to me.

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Yes, cry a little, or maybe a lot. Pray, I'm sure he would not have wanted you to cry and be sad for him forever. Just remember, He's in a better place now. Go eat something healthy and try to catch some sleep. I know you feel like he died to young, but if he had live longer he might have suffered much more than he did. This was God's way of saving himm from greater pain. I'm not sure how much i helped, whether I made it a little better or worse. But I feel that I have said what I should have said. I hope you feel better soon, the pain will never be completly gone, but it will be easier every day.

The best of wishes to you and all of the others who loved him.

Answer 4

Sorry for the loss of your friend. It hurts BAD to lose someone close to you and right now you can't imagine it will get easier, but it will. Talk to your counselor at school and your parents. After that go talk to his parents and family. Believe me it will help. Cry, cry like you never have before. Let the emotions out and let them run for as long as it takes. Then, remember the good times you had with him and know you'll always have those memories. Also think, If it were you to go, What would you tell him? It takes time and alot of tears but it will get better. I promise.

Answer 5

I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. It is perfectly natural for us to ask the "why" questions when someone we love dies, and especially so in the case of someone so young. While we can understand the loss of older people who have lived their lives fully, it seems so unjust and a cruel trick of fate when someone in the prime of life dies. You are going through a normal process of grieving. Let yourself grieve. Help yourself get through it by talking about it and by surrounding yourself with your friends for support. I know that it is easy for me to say that in time you will be able to sleep; to eat and feel better but for sure you will. I remember the very first death I ever grieved for and it was for the accidental death of my good friend who was 14 too; he had been in a car accident and I thought I would never get over these sad feelings. So many years have gone by. I treasure the memories and the pain has diminished. All the best to you.

Answer 6

If he was your best friend there is a couple of hings you can do # 1 you can go see a counselar and #2 you can make new friends on Yahoo or something to talk too. I am sorry for your loss and I hope this helps

Answer 7

I'm very sorry for your loss. It's tough to deal with a loved one's death. My grandpa died last week, but we weren't that close. It's okay to be sad and mad, but you can't just think of the bad. Think of the good times you had. You probably won't get over it, but at least you will eventually learn to live with it. Remember it's a part of life. You will see him again someday. Just stay positive. Again, I'm sorry. Good luck.

Answer 8

My god I feel so sad for you !Keep your head up and please get you something to eat and and get some sleep you don't want to make your self sick.Ask your mom to set you up to speak with a therapist that can help you,and most of all pray your friend can still hear you in spirit .Don't forget about the good times ,but you really do need to get some help.

Answer 9

I am really sorry to hear that you are having to deal with something like this. I have never lost anyone I was close to Try talking to your parents or a school counselor.

Answer 10

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
Please go and see your guidance counselor asap. They will help you deal with your feelings. Realize that grief is a process. Don't expect everything to go away all at once. It is all right to be angry and confused. Most of all, show how you feel. It is dangerous to let your feelings be bottled up inside. Surround yourself with supportive people, and take things one day at a time.