Threesome??????????

Question

Hi, my boyfriend wants to have a threesome with me and someone else..I was just wondering if there is anyone out there that has done and is it a good idea?




Some one once told me that if i wanted to do it,,,go to a BIG city and hire an escort, and do it that way, then there are no ties to that person what so ever..is that a good idea?



does it ruin your relaionship if you bring another women in the bedroom?

Answer 1

It' fun and healthy, and everyone should do it!

Answer 2

First you need to ask yourself if all is right and good in your house right now. Are you fighting more than usual, is there any strange behaviour going on?

If not, then 3-somes can be a lively way to add some spice to your relationship...if done properly and at the right time in a relationship.

The proper way to have a threesome that will not backfire is:
1. Make the 3rd person either someone you know really well that is on a visit but lives in another state, or part of the country OR an professional. A pro is a good hands-off approach that ensures that no love connections will be generated while at the same time allowing you to focus your sexual energy on your partner and yourself, your paying her to be there, she is a work serving you and your partner. This allows for a more selfish experience for the contracting couple.

2. Once you find your willing 3rd, make clear ground rules for you and your partner. Who is allowed to do what to whom..etc, only with communication can hurt feelings be avoided.

3. Make sure your house is in order. Make no mistake if you and your partner are struggling in any part of your relationship a threesome, while a pleasant distraction, will increase the existing tension within the household. Maybe the idea of how easy it is to be with another is too much of a risk right now?

Good luck, use protection even if your not using a pro and remember to keep your arms and legs inside the ride at all times.

Answer 3

My wife and I have had a few threesomes, they've all gone well for us. I'm not sure I'd suggest an escort... for one thing, it might be illegal, for another it's expensive.

What I would recommend is that if you're going to do it, you pick the girl or if you're going with a guy let him pick the guy. It makes things go a lot smoother later. It can be a great learning experience, gives you a chance to actually sit back and watch how he responds when different things happen.

Answer 4

If it is something that you really want to do, the advise of an escort works well, I have done a threesome many times, and It always impaired the relationship, with jealousy when with local "friends".

Just be careful

Answer 5

Threesomes can be fun but can also have a devastating result. If you have been in an existing relationship and are looking to spice it up, it might be a thing to do but be wary of many pitfalls. Another angle to consider is how would he feel about a threesome with two men and a woman.

Consider all the pros and cons of this action.

Answer 6

For sure it is our # 1 fantasy. For most it remains a fantasy. I think Internet connection with an out of towner might be the best choice always keeping safety/health in mind. It would be imperative that there never be a one-on-one meeting as a result of this. Good luck your b/f is lucky. I wouldn't go the escort, use the Internet take your time and be careful.

Answer 7

You need the girl next door type...clean and safe. The way to keep this a good thing for you is to enjoy it more than he does. If the bf views you as bi and senses that he could lose you to a female, then he'll hang on to you with everything he's got. If he feels you trying to cling, he'll want to free himself of those strings. If you just can't bring yourself to do it with another girl, then maybe he's not the right guy for you. Enjoy!

Answer 8

A 3some between a man, his g/f or wife, and another woman is usually not dangerous to the relationship if done carefully.
The wife or g/f must always be the one who invites / provides the
other woman...The man must never contact, invite or speak to the other woman outside the bedroom experience...
I have done many 3somes under these terms and they are usually very enjoyable and have never caused a problem...Sometimes the other woman is simply a "dud" but that is to be expected even in normal dating...

Answer 9

Never a good idea, hon, if you plan to be or become a committed couple. Romantic love is ruined, and it becomes a screwing session, and it will forever leave a bad taste in your mouth, particularly as you get older. NOpe, don't get involved.....and you already know this, because you are asking this question....Not a good thing, not ever..... And if my boyfriend suggested it, I'd evaporate. Disgusting. And it would say to me he really didn't care much for me.........

Answer 10

I have not done it. But my husband has. When he was married to his previous wife. And it wasn't his choice, she wanted to do it. He regrets it. And as you can see that is his PREVIOUS wife. They are divorced. The 3some thing and a number of other issues caused that divorce. He says that is makes a whole bunch of unnessary jealousy issues. And would never, never do it again. And he loves me too much to share with anyone. If your bf loves you, he wouldnt want to share and you would be enough for him

Answer 11

NO one can say if it will or will not ruin your relationship. That's because none of us know how strong your relationship is, how committed you are, or how much value you place on sex. To many people sex is love and love is sex. To many other people sex is religion. But to some people sex is sex. A primal urge no different than eating or sleeping.

If you both are in complete agreement, and you both establish and agree to a set of ground rules, and you both acknowledge the reality that something can go wrong, then likely you will enjoy it, or if you don't you will live on happily. The key here is complete trust and no jealousy. Can I say that louder, complete trust and NO jealousy.