I just found out my baby's father has been cheating on me every since we got together. He is still in a relationship with his so called ex so I guess I was the one he was cheating with. We have a one year old son together and he hasn't done anything for him. He just starting paying child support in August and my baby turned one in October. I checked his voice mail and found out about these other girls and one of them called me threatening to kill me, my family and my son. I can't let this man get my child and take him around this female. What options do I have? I'm about to press charges now.
2006-11-14 04:17:29 · 16 answers · asked by LADY H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unless she directly comes at you and tries to harm you or your child directly you cannot press charges. As far as your childs father goes- he has made some pretty horrible life choices that you cannot do anything about. If he tries to harm you then by all means seek out an OFP (order for protection). You can use that in court to limit visitation if he tries to seek custody of some sort. Since she called you however, keep her number on the caller id. Write down how often she calls you, what she said, tape record her for proof.
If you try and press charges against this person from hearing it on HIS aswering machine, it can be thrown out because it was left on his, not yours. ( i think they would consider it some type of invasion of privacy since messages left on private phones are considered private and unless he said you can check them yourself it is considered snooping) He will do what he wants on the side, and as much as you would like for him not take your child around that other woman, there is a chance he would- hopefully as a father he would not let any harm come to his child.
Take control of your life and your childs by leaving the situation immediately. DO not waste your time trying to follow up behind this person, as it is quite clear that he has no regards to your health or your safety.
I have always learned that when it comes to men (not all), the more you dig for dirt, the messier it becomes. So do not seek out what you already know. Let him pay child support, get a visitation schedule set up through the courts and rebuild your life from the point you are at now. You do not need such drama around you or your child.
It may hurt to leave, but you will be better off in the long run
2006-11-14 04:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, go to the court house and file for full custody if you haven't done so already, that way if he does try to take your son you can file kidnapping charges. Second, document everything, buy a hand held tape recorder and keep it near your phone... when you see the phone number of whomever is threatening you, press the record button, even if it's a number that you don't recognize, that why you'll have evidence and that can help you to prevent unsupervised visitation and also keep this woman away from you and your baby, you can also sue him for back child support if he chose to list himself as the father on the birth certificate... if he didn't you can still sue him but it'll be a little more difficult because you'll have to do paternity tests and what not. For now, try to get a court order stating that he can only have supervised visits to ensure your child's safety.
2006-11-14 04:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very sad to hear but of course not uncommon for the U.S.A I would get as much info of this women that called you and charge her for uttering threats it is illegal even if it is in a fit of rage. If she calls again try to record what she says a little microcassette recorder or a digital one will do the trick. Until you have proof that she is making these threats the police may not get involved. Cover your butt and watch out for yourself and your family. The guy is just a player you are probably one of ten.
God Bless Good Luck.
2006-11-14 04:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off leave this person immediately because you deserve so much better; as does your child. Get court ordered support and a restraining order due to the threats. You want a safe envirnoment for your baby of course so pursue that avenue. Respect yourself and do not look back at this man he is not worth it
2006-11-14 04:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
press charges against the woman. then go to court and file for sole custody of your son. that way you will have the law behind you when you stipulate what your son's father can and cannot do as it relates to your baby.
lastly, don't be foolish enough to keep messing around with him. be strong, i know they can be charming.........but make him respect you since he doesn't seem to want to give you respect on his own.
2006-11-14 04:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still have that voice mail..if so go to the cops and press charges against them and then go for full costody,
2006-11-14 04:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by kelsey b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit having babies with men you aren't married to and you won't have these problems. The term for the father of your child should be husband not "baby daddy".
2006-11-14 04:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by WeaselLuvr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you know who left the threatening msg if you do i would call the authorities press charges,get a restraining order against her and kick this loser to the dirt
2006-11-14 04:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by mart1gon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am so sorry. I feel most sorry for your child for having a father like that, that would even threaten the mother of his child. I hope it works out for you, and next time lets raise the bar, huh?
2006-11-14 04:20:13 · answer #9 · answered by Aphrodite 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
talk to your lawyer
do whatever you can to prevent your son from being in a threatening situation, perhaps supervised visits to start with
talk to child and family services
2006-11-14 04:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋