Those two are the best thing to ever happen to me. I will probably never have kids of my own, they haven't had a father figure most of their life...we were so close. And now she says they will just be confused. They are 10 and 15...WTF? love them.
She cheated on me and burned me real bad...so, I have no designs on ever getting back with her. I tried talking to her, but I just get shallow responses if at all. I know I have no legal right to see them, but what is this doing to them? What is she telling them?
2006-11-14 04:13:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
WOW! Such compassion and understanding from the first to posters. Yes, that is sarcasm.
I know I have no legal rights. This isn't about the law, its about those kids and their feelings. How can she just shut me out after all this time...and how is she justifying it to those kids?
2006-11-14 04:19:26 · update #1
BTDT
It seems like she is trying to hurt you using the kids as a weapon. Sounds like she did you a favor by breaking it off with you.
I know it's rough. Believe me. My similar situation happened 6 years ago, and it still hurts sometimes. My ex never even gave me the chance to say goodbye to them. But give it some time. If she has a heart, she will realize that what she is doing is cruel, selfish and wrong.
My prayers are with you.
2006-11-14 04:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by BadWX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever life with ex g/f? Perhaps you do have a legal right to see them. At any rate if you two were together for a long time and you were that close to the kids, then I think you should be allowed to see them, as a father figure, and a friend. Also, she is using her kids to get back at you. And theres no need to put your kids into a situation like that, its highly unfair. I would try letting the kids know if at all possible that you still love them, that you'll be there for them if they need you. Who knows what shes telling them. Just let them know you are there for them. I wish you the best of luck, its a tough situation.
2006-11-14 04:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by SexyLady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you lived with her and helped raise the children from an early age, then yes you do have rights to see them. Why? After living with someone for 3 months you are what they call "common-law" and the same rules apply during the courtship as if you two were really married. Talk to a lawyer who may be able to help you. You could always go to their schools and leave a note, but if you do she could always put in their files that you've threated to kidnap them and then you'd be arrested by going on school grounds in future. Best course of action is to hire a lawyer, explain your circumstances, try to get her to at least allow you to see them (for one last goodbye) and maybe if she sees all 3 of you together she may be a little more sympathetic towards you.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-14 04:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eeek....very nasty. That is horrible, really really horrible and unfair too.
I am talking about the second poster's answer.
As far as your question goes. This is rough. My heart breaks for you my friend. I was in a very similar situation about 10 years ago. She cheated on me, dumped me when I found out and said that the kids had been instructed to hang up on me when I called.
That was the end of it. I think that by not making a stink about it, I didn't make a bad situation worse. It hurt and it was a tough call...but I think in the end it turned it was the right thing to do.
Hang in there pal.
2006-11-14 04:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by Saul Goldberg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this but unfortunately there isn't much that you can do. She is being really selfish and immature. I wish you the best of luck in the future and i hope that one day you become a dad. You sound to me to be stand up type of guy and any child would be lucky to have you as a parent
2006-11-14 08:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try leaving them notes at the front desk at school for them. Just let them know how much you love them and that they can legally see you when they turn 18. or they can talk to there mom. Just be sure not to say anything bad about there mother.... That is one thing that kids don't want to hear.
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-11-14 04:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im sorry, but there really isnt anything you can do at this point. Maybe if you go, one time, to the oldest childs school and talk to explain why you cannot see them anymore, that will at least let them know that you did not abandon them of your own free will. But dont make a habit of this.
Much luck.
2006-11-14 04:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well since your not the father she's allowed to do dat. There's nothing you can do unless the kids go to court asking to see you.
2006-11-14 04:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by Miss k 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, they are her chilldren and she can chose who they see. I know this must be hard on you. time heals all wounds.
2006-11-14 04:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by Jeffery's granny 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Were you married to her ?
Nope ?
Then you probably have no rights...
If you were concerned about your kids,
You should have married her which would
have given you some legal rights..
2006-11-14 04:16:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋