He hasn't cheated in over 3 years though, since our first daughter was conceived. He says that she changed his life and that he would never cheat again because he wouldn't want our daughter to blame him for not having both parents and hurting her mother.
2006-11-14 03:44:15 · 34 answers · asked by mama4e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know him best. Sometimes somethign serious needs to be a wake up call to realize what you are in, and a birth of his daughter may have been it. If he has stayed faithful all these years now, I would give him the benefit. You have to just let it all go and truely trust him, otherwise he may feel tempted again. Although, lssing a daughter he loves may be too valuable.
2006-11-14 03:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by lilnuttbutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're staying in hopes that he has "changed", you're wasting your time, IMO. Of course he's going to say what he's saying; NO ONE will ever be honest and admit an urge to cheat, even if they had it. But the fact that he has done it not once, but twice (that you know of, let me add), would lead me to believe that there aren't any internal mechanisms that prevent it from happening. Which means, given a chance, he would do it again - but he'd be more careful not to get caught (he wouldn't want to "hurt you"), and/or he would probably find a way to rationalize it to himself ("I did it because she didn't have sex with me on Thursday").
Which is not to say that he hadn't truly changed. I just think that there's a good chance he hasn't, and will revert to his old ways once the "novelty" of having a child wears off.
2006-11-14 04:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with him for 3 years since he cheated why ask the question. Anyone can cheat at anytime. You appear to have 3 good years and no reason that I can see to let this question raise it's head now. Live you life realistically but set the paranoia aside. It isn't reasonable to try to retry a 3 year old case that you obviously set aside at that time. Let your relationship make it or fail on it's merits now not the past.
2006-11-14 03:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by dano 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no changing a cheater's heart. If he is attracted to someone else and is internally driven, with the correct persuasion, he will be out the door again. I tried to change a cheating boyfriend's ways once...It never works. Let's hope it's different for you...
2006-11-14 03:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by RussianGoddess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a chance that he will cheat again but i think that its very slim he's really trying for your daughter and if anything is going to change a man it's going to be his little sweet heart.
2006-11-14 03:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by burdey24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you living together & having kids without being married ?
Yes, your b/f will probably cheat again, and you can do nothing about it and you and your kids have no legal protection because you are not married...
Have some respect & concern for yourself & kids..
You & your kids deserve it...
Don't be left homeless & without care or support after 10 yrs.
of living together, and having b/f find a new g/f...
Of course b/f will says he will never do this...
2006-11-14 04:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope you would know him well enough at this point to figure that out by his actions. The once a cheater always a cheater ideology is not always accurate it is very much dependent on the individual. Good luck and all the best to your family :)
2006-11-14 03:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by brmwk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he will, are mentally retarded or what? You letting him think that it's ok by you if he sleeps with other women and you'll just take him right back. So lay down the law and tell him that if he wants to be a manwhore to find a hooker for himself.
2006-11-14 03:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So he's not cheating on you for you, but for your daughter? How about not cheating on you because of the commitment he made to you?
2006-11-14 03:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by No-Dogg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is your answer: Did he cheat after the first time?
2006-11-14 03:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by Das 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋