Well me and my husband have been married for a year and a half now and my husband still isn't passionate. I mean he don't like kissing he don't like hugging he don't like spending time with me. I know he isn't messing around. He just don't make me feel special anymore. Every since I have been pregnant it seems like he wants to stay away from me. I don't understand. I thought sometimes a person is suppose to compromise on somethings even if it is somethings that you don't agree with. Sometimes I wonder if my husband is really happy with me. I don't feel it now. I feel like I am just a romate. Do you think that it is just my hormones?
2006-11-14 03:37:00 · 5 answers · asked by Andrea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It could possibly be your hormones, but you need to bring it up to him, so that there will be a compromise. Are you sure he's not messing around or tired from work(depending on the environment and duty)? But no matter what, he should be happy about spending time w/you, depending on how you 2 get along.
2006-11-14 03:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to consider several things. First, was he different when you were dating? After you got married? Compromise about what? Sex? Was the pregnancy planned or a 'boo boo??"
If he was wonderful before you got married and he is different now, then maybe you have reason to be concerned. If the baby wasn't planned, he may be having trouble adjusting to the fact that his life is going to take a drastic change. Yes, it could also be your own hormones making you feel insecure. Are you all across the board emotionally? Maybe you are making him 'back off'. You have alot to consider, and perhaps you will be able to answer your own questions. Make a romantic evening-dinner, music and then just talk--heart to heart and tell him how you feel. Communication is the key for a successful relationship. Good luck.
2006-11-14 04:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he passionate before your pregnancy??? If not, why did you marry him and are complaining now? If he was, remember that lots of guys have real difficulties when their wives (lovers) are about to be moms.... Children and pregnancies are not binders in a marriage, they are divisive. And lovers then become parents, and their attentions are diverted -- for many years. This is common, and if you want some solutions, the two of you need a few sessions of counselling -- the best $$ you will ever spend on your marriage.....
2006-11-14 04:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I thought sometimes a person is suppose to compromise on somethings even if it is somethings that you don't agree with."
"Every since I have been pregnant "
If he feels that you are forcing him to have a family when he isn't ready it makes sense for him to distance himself from you.
Or
It could be simply that he's trying to adjust to the idea of becoming a father. Becoming a parent is life changing and for some it takes long to get used to.
2006-11-14 03:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be scared of hurting you in your condition. Assure him that you can still have sex even while pregnant.
2006-11-14 03:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by old man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋