This ruins my end of things and this is a new development we have been together 13 years. is he cheating on me or just not attracted to me anymore? Am i destined to be alone now this sucks.
2006-11-14 03:22:57 · 20 answers · asked by korina s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A man that can only have an erection when "he is in control" is a man that is a potently wife beater. If his doctor cannot find a physical reason for his dysfunction, then get out, get a divorce and find someone that will respect you and give you the companionship you deserve.
Another way to look at it is, it's better to be alive and alone than married to a man that puts you in the hospital or kills you.
2006-11-14 03:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by c.s. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first of all you seem to be quite down on him and you, you said three negative things in two sentences,
This could be a medical problem or due to age, 13 years is a long time to be together maybe you need to spice things up a bit for you and him... some saucy underwear, phone calls, dates...and so on.
Also there are things out there that can help him maintain his erection viagra for one or you can go in to Ann Summers and buy a cock ring (its called this in the shop) this goes around the genitals, and helps keep it up,
Maybe he is worried about something and its affecting his performance, talking open and honestly could work wonders
Good Luck
2006-11-14 03:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by sphinxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aside from any medical type problem interferign with his performance, I'd hazard a guess that it is time for the relationship to be totally renewed. In fact any relationship that endures for a few years tends to stagnate a little and even sex can be less than interesting.
thus it is time to revert to the days of your silly teens years when you were always chasing the boys and they were as horny as kittens are playful. Introduce new venues for getting intimate, new ways to enjoy each other and let yoru imagination run wild. Also, flowers, incense, mood lighting, makign out in the back seat of the car and anything else you and he can come up with are now and forever more fair game and absolutely essential.
So, go wild and be free of the burdens of routine. Set yoruselves and your sex lives free to be enjoyed on the beach, on the patio or wherever and whenever they want to be the course of some new thrills.
2006-11-17 03:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have high blood pressure or another medical condition. I would bring it up to him and ask him to go to a doctor. If he refuses then you know something else is going on. My husband and i had a similar problem a few weeks ago and i was really scared it was me. I was also scared to talk to him about it but i did anyway and asked him to go to the doctor and it turned out that it was high blood pressure. We fixed the problem and have not encountered it since. Is there anything else that would give you the impression that he is cheating or not attracted to you anymore? Before you go freaking out, talk to him about it and see a doctor. You guys have beed married long enought to sort this out together. There is no use in worrying for no reason. Good luck and i hope it is just high blood pressure.
2006-11-14 03:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be suffering from some eretile dysfunction, it's normal in men. Ask him to go and see the doctor, he may need Viagara or something else to help him maintain an erection.
2006-11-14 03:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Korina,I think he needs to get a scrip for VIAGRA or CIALIS from his MD.This is common and curable,as many men have and need help.Even if he cannot maintain his erection,he could still get you off,can't he?I don't think you are destined to be alone.Just talk to him and mention going to the dr. and see where this takes you.I hope that he does something to beneit the outcome of your sex life.Good luck.
2006-11-14 03:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by chanet_rogers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's mostly in the mind. Don't criticize him while you are doing the act. The little blue pill could work wonders for you. For your part go into it as it is all for him, if he learns to do the same (all for you) you will be on the right track. Make it a habit of being ready to go at anytime either of you has the desire not just when you have it.
2006-11-14 03:28:41 · answer #7 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not destined to be alone and I doubt that he is cheating. ED (erectile dysfuction) affects millions of men. There are many reasons for ED, some mental some physical. You two should set up an appoitment with a Urologist, they can help you out. For further info check out yahoo health or webmd.
Best of luck to you both.
2006-11-14 03:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A large percentage of men go through it. It doesn't mean he's cheating and it doesn't mean he's not attracted to you. It could be caused by high plood pressure (ironic, huh?) or medications he might be on. The thing for you to remember is that it's probably more frustrating for him than it is for you. Be kind, be loving, take him to the doctor.
2006-11-14 03:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by Spud55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say for certain but I would not assume he is cheating. Talk to a Dr. and get some viagra. Are you both in good shape? That could also be a factor.
2006-11-14 04:04:57 · answer #10 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋