abortion how do I feel?

Question

My boyfriend dumped me, used to beat me, scream abuse at me,smoke weed,and have sex with other women, he is 41 I am24,and tday I said enough was enough, I already have one son, but know I can not cope with another,I was on the pill and remained pregnant, I am about 2 weeks and want a termination, how do I feel,I know I can not give this baby the best right now, it would not be fair on him or her, to rely on the state, bring him up in circumstances which I know should a baby come along in a year would be different as i am aiming to do a legal practice course following my degree. Menatlly I am exhausted after the fighting and emotional battery.

Answer 1

I know that this is a hard decision, I just recently went through something very simalair. My ex threatened to kill me and my son, and I was pregnant. I made the choice to terminate the pregnancy knowing that if this man ever found out he would surely kill us both. Not saying that this is the right decision for you to make and I know that does not make it any easier. This is a decision that you need to make on your own but if you need someone for moral support and you do not feel like you can tell any one that you know personally feel free to e-mail me.

Answer 2

Look at the situation you are going through. if you see that the best thing for you to do is to get an abortion than that's your choice. I am quite sure that you don't want to go through pregnancy alone. Now I'm not saying go ahead an have an abortion.I just saying it is up to Y O U and no one else. I personally think that if people aren't ready physically or mentally to have a baby don't put your self in the position to carry the baby for 9months of carrying the baby in your body to give it up to some one else.
I think that is whats wrong with the world today making babies and giving them up because of something that went wrong in the relationship. there are some people out there that say " I made that bed and now I have to lye in it." I say please make the right decision. I know that you don't want the child to grow up to wonder why mommy give me up to a bunch of stangers. No one could give love to a child than It's own mother. and you best believe. the choice is you and God. Good Luck

Answer 3

The Lord Jesus Christ and God our Father never gives you more than you can handle. I apologize for the way you were treated, I do understand. From the moment of conception the tiny little baby they like to call "embryo" has a heartbeat. It is a living human being. It has a purpose and a will to live. Each life is a blessing. I myself am 30yrs old and have 4 blessings, and though I struggle on a daily basis , to make life better going to school full time and working. I would never change the fact that I have them. They complete me. Abortion is treated so much like a birth control. but it is not after an abortion you go through post traumatic depression. It ways heavily on you mind, body and soul. I am trying to have another baby and I cant have one, there are many loving couples out there "open" adoption is an option were you keep in touch with your child and thier adopted family so you dont worry or wonder what they are or who they are. Keep the precoius baby and use Gods strength to get you by and know he is always there. Give Him/Her a chance to live the life they were meant for. You are in my prayers.

Answer 4

I just got one question, where is DCF? If you stayed around a man like this you had no buissness having a child in your care.

My friend was in the same situation as you and because of not leaving the guy she lost her 5 month old daughter and it took her several months to get her back, one of the things she had to do was leave the guy she was with.

You should of none better then to just use BC, any educated person can tell you BC can fail which is why if you do not want to get pregnant you use both BC and condoms, I new this when I was just 16 but on the other hand my mom is a GYN.

If you can not handle a baby do adoption, you are the one who was irresponsible and did not fully protect yourself and stayed with a horrible man, truthfully you do not even need the kid you have. If you are worried where the child will end up do open adoption, you still get to see the baby and you get pictures. This way you will be able to be in your babies life and know he or she is being taken care of.

Do not murder a baby because of your stupidity.

Answer 5

The baby is a gift from GOD.
Regardless of everything, the baby is innocent and needs a chance at life. He or she is already living inside of you.
It wont make you a bad mother if you rely on the state for assistance. It will make you a sinner if you have an abortion.

Answer 6

aborting the baby is not the answer, u are killing an innocent victim how is that fair to your child? u are depriving your child of a sibling-of which they may resent u if they ever find out. u are 50% more likely to get breast cancer following an abortion- how is that fair to your living child that u may or may not be around to see grow up. there is always adoption, i would adopt the child in a heartbeat and im sure there are others that would take the responsibilty too. if i could i would even raise the child just until the mother wants him/her back, as i am sure there are alot of others that feel that way too. family members or friends might be able too. there are other options other than abortion, u will feel worse if u had an abortion than u do now. GIVE YOUR CHILD A CHANCE

Answer 7

I'm going to be blunt here, but please understand that it is out of genuine concern for both you and your baby. None of the circumstances of your life are your baby's fault. Your baby is totally innocent in this situation. It is not your baby's fault that your boyfriend is a jerk and that you are mentally exhausted. What's not fair is that you are considering killing your baby when he or she is utterly defenseless. The most important thing you can give your child is LIFE. Poverty and hardship are not good excuses for killing anyone. If your circumstances are going to change so much in a year, then by the time the baby is born, things should be on the upswing anyway.

I am sorry for what you are going through, but your situation is largely the result of choices you have made. Your baby hasn't done anything to deserve death. He or she is depending on you for love and protection. If you wouldn't let anyone hurt your born child, don't let anyone hurt his or her brother or sister. You can do the right thing, and you will never regret it.

You need to make sure you have all the facts and are aware of all the support available for you:

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp (or call 1-800-395-HELP)

Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

Photos of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html

Answer 8

Its great that u left the loser! but its your decision..I am pro choice and i see there are alot of pro life answers here as well...many pple talk about giving the child up for adoption but what pple fail to realize is that many of these children dont get adopted and they wind up living in foster care & group homes until there 18...Im not saying to have the abortion but i think u should go w/ ur heart & if it says to have an abortion ignore what everyone is saying...good luck w your decision..its going to be a hard one!

Answer 9

A better question should probably be : How do you feel about adoption? In my opinion, your feelings about abortion are somewhat silly, it seems that you are trying to find reasons to abort the baby when you deep down know that you do not want to do it. It seems to me that this is not a necessary option for you, and I don't think it should be. I think it's wrong for you to end someone's life because of your own mistakes. I think you think that too. I think you came here wanting support for making this decision, but I doubt you are going to get any, especially when other alternatives exist, as others have mentioned, such as adoption.

Answer 10

Many People would love to be parents and can't have babies. I would look into this. That would be the smartest thing you could do! Give someone else the gift of a child. I see ads in the paper all the time for this. And they will help with the costs before and after.