My sister is pregnant......?

Question

My sister is pregnant and she is making me feel responsible. She is 19 and she has 2 kids already. I am taking care of my nephew. I don't know what to do because she is putting this baby up for adoption and I can't even look at her now without crying because if I was her I would want to see the baby grow up. What should I do?

I am 15 and she is able to take care of her kids its just that my mom suggested me to take care of him and ever since then I have.

Answer 1

Wecome to my world! my sister has 2 sons, I take care of the oldest one and our mom has the youngest. A year ago she had a doughter and gave her up for adoption. I was there in the delivery room as I was whith the others, the hardest thing I've had to do was say goodby to that baby, she was'nt my child but I felt guilty becouse I thought that family should take care of there own. I did'nt want this child to grow up thinking that her family did'nt love her or want her. It was an open adoption so we get letters and pictures of her often, however we can't contact them in any way. Looking back now I see that it was the best thing to do for her becouse my sister was never ment to be a mother and the people who adoped the baby are wonderfull, verry good people who love her and are able to provide for her properly. I can tell in the photoes that she is verry happy. Your sister's misuse of birth controll is not your fult! she did this not you. I'm learning now that I can't go around my whole life cleaning up after my sister, you must learn this too. I have 2 daughters of my own and I can't have anymore, so my nephew is ( in all ways that count ) my son, and a blessing to me, not a berdon, however my sister is. i know how cold that sounds but sometimes truth hurts. You must be hard on your sister and let her know that she is an adult now and will be responsible for her self and her actoins and that she must not rely on others to help her out of the jams she gets herself into. You however are not an adult yet and you have to do for you! Graduate! I didn't becose of these same reasons, I regret it now becouse even though it's verry hard to continue school and take care of children, trust me it's mutch harder to get dead end jobs and stuggle that much more. Get help make an annonomous call to a social worker dont give them names just ask your questions. see what the options are, write them down and hand the list to your mother.

Answer 2

What do you mean you feel responsible because your sister is pregnant? She is the one who got pregnant. I think it is admirable for her to put the baby up for adoption if she already has 2 kids she can't take care of. I know that it may be sad for you, but she is making the best decision she can for her baby. You should try to be more supportive of her. Just because you think she should want to see the baby grow up does not mean that that is the best thing for her or for the baby. This is her decision, not yours. The only thing you should do is love your sister and be supportive of her. This is most likely the hardest decision she has ever had to make. It's not about you.

Answer 3

it is not your responibilty to save your sister. i don't mean to be harsh but your a child yourself. your mother shouldn't have put this kind of pressure on you. your sister obivously can't take care of another child, so she is making a good decision for that child. take a moment and look at your sister's two other children, would it really benefit the third child to be adopt by parents that really really want a baby. i know you want to help but as a fifteen year old girl the only way to help is to make sure you get an education, and make a life for yourself before you have a child.

i would suggest that you talk to a counselor at school or a teacher about.

Answer 4

Well you need to be there for her obviously she know she can't handle another baby. What you can do is help her find a family. Make sure they are okay with an open adoption. Someone close to the family so you can go see the baby it’s the best for the baby and the mother.

Answer 5

your not responsible for your sister! Adoption is a very good idea if she is not able to take care of her children atleast she is not going to have an abortion! imagine how she feels to have to give up a child. maybe she can find a local church to see if there are any couples that want to daopt so she and you can see that child grow and prosper. And when she is done having this child make a suggestion to have her tubes tide, its better than birth control if she knows she doesnt want any more children, my mom did it ! after3 kids!

Answer 6

Your sister needs a serious talking to......and after this pregnancy she needs to either have her tubes tied or she needs an IUD or something that will keep her from having anymore unwanted children.

If you really really think that you cant live without seeing this child grow up, consider opening your home to the new baby. I know its not fair to you...........but neither is the alternative. Good luck with your situation and Im sorry youre going through this.

Answer 7

no rely what you tel her or the way you're saying it she's gonna be so harm. you acquire her SISTER pregnant. not merely are you going to wreck your marriage together with her you ruined her relationship together with her sister. with a bit of luck she does not get large depressed or something that could desire to finally end up hurting the toddler. human beings make blunders this could nicely be a sizable one so talk over with somebody you somewhat have faith and get some suggestion. you will probable choose couples counceling after this. sturdy success to you and your marriage.

Answer 8

You could legally adopt the baby, or suggest an open adoption.
That way she can still be in his/her life, but the best will have the best possible life.At least she's not going to have an abortion.

Answer 9

somebody has to teach her a lesson! She can't make babies, and then throw them!!!!!!!!! They are just babies...and you, you are kid, you should live your adolescence, not to grow others children!!! Tell her witch is your problem, and tell your mother to help you. You can search on the Internet for places where the mum and the baby can stay, cause there are places with people that can help you...good luck!

Answer 10

try to keep the new baby get help from your parents and do it legaly some how try to get the baby under your parents name so when you are 18 you can get it under your name remember it is not easy to take care of a kid but it is worth the hassle take care girl and think abouut this a lot!!