Why is it when a gay couple adopts children, we boo and hiss?

Question

But if someone famous (actor/pop star) adopts one child from another country, we applaud them? What's the big deal about a gay couple helping the children in America? Why do we have to say "gay" couple? Shouldn't we just concern ourselves that a "loving" couple wants to help with the orphaned population in the U.S.? (please answer all questions)

I really appreciate everyone's input. "My" and "Flame" really hit the nail with their responses, especially for those who do not agree on gay parenting. I especially like what "My" said about two heterosexuals raising a gay child. My son is gay. Should he not have the right to adopt? (Right now, he is still young and does not like kids) :) I really wish people would stop thinking gay people will influence the adopted kids to be gay. How many heterosexuals raised children in a home where the children were molested? THAT should be a concern - so let's not stereotype.

Answer 1

Those are a lot of questions to answer - I'll do my best.

Why do we boo and hiss? I'm not entirely sure, but I have heard quite a few saying that "gay parents will raise gay kids" as if it is a value that can be passed along just like saying "please" or "thank you" or not blowing bubbles in your milk. Unfortunately, and obviously, that logic is extremely flawed because if gay people raise gay people, then what happens when a straight couple raises a gay kid? Oops. I think that there is some left over thinking that gay people molest children and live promiscuous lifestyles, as well. (A little know fact is that straight people life promicuous lifestyles as well and those ARE promiscuous typically go out of there way to NOT have children).

As for a celeb adopting a kid from another country...who's to say? Maybe people like the philanthropic idea behind it coupled with the idea that it makes a celebrity "real" and caring. *shrug*

The United States on a whole is really funny about children. It's almost like we don't care. We have awful educational systems, no nutritional food readily available and marketed to kids, no encouragment for them to read, play outside, or not watch TV, a workplace which does not acknowledge paternity, a workplace which does not allow for flexible shifts for parents to care for their children and a million other things. The United States want children but it seems it only wants them as consumers. I mean, for the love of cheese, we have *leashes* to put our children on. LEASHES. We use leashes to walk dogs and train them to stay near - is it really necessary to leash our *children*?

As for distinguishing a "gay" couple - simply, it's a taboo. People are weirded out by the idea of non-heterosexuality as something that can work and be productive and loving. This ties into your last question as well - it is that people are still under the impression that gay people are somehow morally wrong when, at the bottom line, they are people. They eat and pay taxes (but don't get benefits for it), and have some nights when they don't sleep well, get sick, are worried about passing tests, finding love, dying alone, afraid of spiders or thunder or whatever, have pets, like to or don't like to cook, enjoy watching football or the latest reality show just like anyone else. The big deal with "gay" and what the "gay lifestyle" is comes down to misinformation and ignorance regarding what "gay sex" is, I think.

Truly, it is no one's business who you do in the bedroom, but the nosy heterosexual's feel that it should be everyone's business what homosexuals do with their bedroom door closed because everyone already knows what heterosexuals do in the bedroom. There is no mystery and no reason to be weird. It's ignorance, I think.

EDIT: And as for kids being made fun of because they have 2 mommies or daddies - first, it's people like YOU who point that out that will make fun of them, and if you don't make fun of them, you probably wouldn't stop them...genius. Secondly, kids get made fun of for EVERYTHING. As a kid, I got made fun of rather brutally for the stupidest things. I didn't wear jeans (I didn't think they were comfortable) so I got made fun of that. I got made of for having a stupid name (it's not stupid, just uncommon and not an Americanized name). I got made fun of for being smart and for being dumb, I got made fun of for EVERYTHING. Kids are kids and are just enacting what society tells them to. So, kids who make fun of other kids for having 2 mommies or daddies don't really know whether that is "right" or "wrong" but that it is different from them and what they know.

EDIT #2: Whimsical Girl - according to your logic, if gay people were meant to have children they could do it naturally. Not to make a big leap in logic or anything, but by following this logic, this also means that a lot of modern medical science is bunk and not meant to be used. Medications for headaches, join or muscle pain, antibiotics, cold medication, allergy stuff is NOT natural. Some of it may have a base in nature but modern medicine is ALL synthesized, and once again, is just not natural. Therefore, we shouldn't have it/it shouldn't exist/we should not use it because it is not natural. Your logic is also incredibly exclusive of people who might be heterosexual but for some reason are infertile. They shouldn't be able to adopt because they can't do it naturally - their bodies for one reason or another have disallowed them from it. Right?

Answer 2

I mix feeling on this and so I can be the guy in the middle. I think it can confuse the child the way it is and what will happen when the child grows up and doesn't like that there parents are gay. Is it okay for gay women to adopt there own sex or should they adopt a boy . Really I am getting confuse well there are a lot of starving children in this world and if anyone was to help in this area then that is great.

Answer 3

"We" as in gay couples do not boo and hiss when there is an adoption. We rejoice that another child will find the love it will need in life, the guidance to become a loyal American and the ability to learn. There are just some narrow minded people in the USA who seem to think that they are the only suitable parents. You are right, there should be no labels as to what kind of couple did the adoption, it just should be that a couple adopted. Period. I myself, adopted almost 18 years ago, a beautiful daughter who will be graduating in the Spring and then moving on with the lessons I have taught to become an active part of society. I am confident that I did my job correctly, even though I am lesbian.

Answer 4

Bigotry, due to a personal dislike of gay people; and arrogance, thinking that a gay couple cannot raise a child properly. I included links to a few articles about a straight professional baseball player who was raised by 2 moms.

Answer 5

I think people bug out so much because they feel that if a child is adopted by a gay couple it's almost like they'd be forcing the child to be gay, which is the absolute stupidest thing I've ever heard! Straight people have gay children all the time don't they? lol obviously!!! As long as a child's getting love from someone that's what matters. Straight people have kids all the time that get neglected and abondoned and what they want more than anything is a chance at a life and love... if you were starving for it you wouldn't care who it came from, if you needed love to survive normally you wouldn't care if the couple was gay, or straight, or even if it was from a single person.

When I think of someone famous who adopted a child from another country, the first person I think of is Angelina Jolie, since she did it twice. Now I love Angelina but I feel we need to help our country first before we can really help anyone else's. Even though taking a child out of a horrible environment where there's poverty and disease, that's here too. I don't know if they are being applauded so much for bring them into a good home in a prosperous country, so much as they are being applauded for saving a child in a bad situation.

A person's sexual orientation should have nothing to do with adopting a child because your sexual orientation does not show how much love you'd be able to provide for a child. They are suppose to have the applications, interviews and background checks for a reason and that reason is to see if the environment is healthy, stable, and loving for a child. Why people make so much of a fuss when the couple adopting happens to be gay is beyond me because they are so overloaded with children in the system, to be stupid and picky in such an insignificant matter like that is absolutely ridiculous. America as a government really doesn't do as much as they like people to think for children. They put them in orphanages and foster homes so most of them aren't on the street, but those situations aren't that good either. There is a complete lack of stabilty which a child needs in developing stages and what us as humans need throughout our lives. School funding is always getting cut so unless you are in the minority born into privalege, your advancement in society is already altered. They try to compensate lower middle class by saying "Here's WIC for your baby and some food stamps" but won't let gay people who can afford the adoption process do so easily or, in some cases, at all.

We "have" to say gay couple because the government has already drawn that line out for us. There is already a division because of differences in things like rights aside from close-minded people's beliefs. It's society's way of keeping "us" seperate from "them" like some alternate species. Eventually there will be laws prevent this, eventually it will become more of a common place in society, when eventually will come I have no clue because there will always be points of view and fanatics, it just depends on how much longer till we realize that fanatics are fanatics for a reason and maybe not the most reliable sorce to be listening to. This seperation really shows just how backward our system and society really are. We as gays aren't "hiding in the closet" like we use to, we are standing up for ourselves now... being powerful and proud are signs of advancement and people that continually bash and hate are low in society and holding us back. But these people can adopt a child?

Any couple should be allowed to adopt a child regardless of gay, straight whatever. As long as they can show that they can provide the child with a happy, stable life everything should be fine. What they need to do is make it easier for anyone to adopt a child because by the time you get all the paperwork done and bought things for the child, he/she has already cost you a down payment on a house. There is so much love that good people can give and so many children that need that love, America really has to make it so they can have a chance at a better life. The way things are now they prevent people from helping that want to. All these children that grew up going from foster home to foster home are hopefully going to be able to change the way our system works all we need are the voices and persistance to do it.

Answer 6

That's not the way it should be, but some people feel threatened by "gay" couples. Thus, when "gay" couples attempt to adopt, certain "stupid, ignorant" people criticize them. We should all be appreciative that there are couples out there that want to adopt and help and love orphaned children.

Answer 7

I don't applaud celebrities. It's tough enough being a kid without this "I have two Mommies" crap to contend with. Why are people waiting years to adopt a newborn but don't want the kids in orphanages? Because these kids have been through hell and high water and need stability and have special needs. Landing in a gay home hardly fits that criteria.

Answer 8

EXACTLY!!! There are hundreds and hundreds of children in our very own country that are homeless and unwanted. When I hear about a normal, everyday GAY couple wanting to adopt I can't help but applaud them. This is a child that will grow up knowing love and stability REGARDLESS of whether there are two moms or two dads. Who cares! As long as they are loved and wanted and cared for. Isn't that all that matters in the end?

Answer 9

In the first place, I don't applaud a famous person for adopting a child.
I don't boo and hiss when a gay couple adopts... I don't approve, but I figure it's not my business to say anything. That's their little red wagon.

Answer 10

I would think that anyone who wanted to give a child a chance of having a loving, supporting family should be lauded.