Friday my husband's sister told me that he cheated on me about a week after we started dating with one of her friends. She doesnt know if they had sex or not, but the girls bra was off. so something definitely happened. I'm not upset about the fact that this may be true. I'd only met him twice and was barely dating. The part that upsets me is when i asked my husband if it was true he got furious that i would believe it. He eventually denied it, after i asked him why he wasnt denying it. I don't think his sister would make something up like this. What should i do? Just leave it alone. Since at the time it really didnt matter? Or keep worrying myself sick over it.I really just dont know what to do.
2006-11-14 03:01:24 · 8 answers · asked by uh_huh_ok_wassup_shutup 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Baby girl,you need to relax!He probably denied it because it meant nothing to him,obviously you are the one for him,he married you.If you keep worrying,you will make yourself sick and build up alot of resentment towards him.Is that what you want?I believe you need to let it go for good.As for his sister,I hope her heart was in the right place by telling you,but I wonder about her motives.Just take a deep breath and release all the negativity this issue has caused you and I wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-11-14 03:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by chanet_rogers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man who has any respect for women will not speak about things such as this with his wife or anyone else. How would you feel if everything you had done was public information? He glad you have a man who has some integrity and don't put him into the situation of having to chose between honor or responsibility to his wife. If something did in fact happen between you have placed him in the position of having no way to do the right thing. I understand you wanting to know but think of his stance in this also. You are married get on with life and good luck.
2006-11-14 03:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, nothing like digging into the past to cause problems! I think you should ask yourself why you are making such a big deal about this. (Shame on his sister for bringing this up..don't trust her..she has a really big problem) Are you looking for some drama in your life? You continue this garbage and it will be the beginning of the end, men hate this type of junk.
2006-11-14 03:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is whether he is denying it to same you from feelings of embarrassment, hurt,...etc or is he covering up a pattern of behavior. You should decide this for yourself.
Does he have unexplained absences, time periods where he seems to disappear? Does he walk out of the room when taking phone calls or have a separate Internet account?
Good luck
2006-11-14 03:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by ishootpix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care? You had no committment with him at the time. There were no exchanges of love and no exchanges telling each other to be faithful. He was free agent sweetheart, and you need to not ask him about things that are none of your business.
The only thing that concerns you regarding your life with him is what happened after he said, "I want to be with you and only you."
2006-11-14 03:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A WEEK AFTER YOU STARTED DATING!!!
Who the heck is monogamous during the first week of dating anyone?
Men don't even know your name until after two weeks of dating you.
2006-11-14 05:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it alone. He married YOU and not his sister's friend, so why are you worried. Maybe his sister is lying.
2006-11-14 03:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OVER IT !!!!!
IT IS IN THE PAST.
LET HIM KNOW THAT HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY.
WHAT HAPPENED IN THE PAST IS IN THE PAST.
QUESTION WHY YOUR SIL WOULD DIVULGE THIS INFORMATION SO LATE IN THE GAME?
2006-11-14 03:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋