My child is very dramatic and doesn't want to do what she/he supposed to do...when it's time to brush teeth, take a bath, go to sleep, do homework, dress up for school, eat breakfast, etc. What can I do to help motivate my child to do these things?
2006-11-14 02:59:53 · 7 answers · asked by Lisa2006 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
Try not being to harsh on them or yelling at them to get things done. You get more out of a child when you talk stern and soft than when you yell. I have 2 foster kids with ADHD and i have to ask them to do things about 5 times before they do it. They have been doing well since i wake them up 15 minutes earlier than they need to get up. I have their clothes on their bed when they wake. they pick them out before going to bed. I ask them what they want for breakfast and while i am making breakfast i leave them alone to get dressed. I make a big deal out of whoever is done first. After two weeks they both come out the same now because they want to be first. After breakfast I say okay boys time to brush you teeth and whoever is done first gets to choose what to watch on TV ......... I always give them a warning of when and what. example in 5 minutes TV us going off then you need to get your shoes and coat on. This seems to work as long as i give them a time line and tell them what is happening next before it happens. So you can try by saying okay time to get dressed, if you are dressed, have eaten breakfast and brushed you teeth you can watch TV or color for 5 or 15 minutes before you have to get your coat and shoes on for school. it works well !
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2006-11-14 03:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make it fun at first. My son hated brushing his teeth until I bought that new cool blue stuff, and now he does it twice a day with no problems. Let her pick out her clothes for school. Give her choices on when she wants to take a bath. Example : Ok "child" you can take your bath now, or in 15 minutes, which do you want? You don't say how old your child is, but old enough to be going to school means your child is maybe wanting to start making some of her own choices. We, as parents, can let them make decisions about when they are going to do the things we want them to do, within reason of course.
2006-11-14 11:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by Corona 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make it a game give the child a reward everytime he does something without throwing a fit. When he doesn't listen then he misses out on the reward and you should give it to your other child for cooperating if he is the only child then you get the reward and put him in time out. That is what they do at my son's school when he doesn't listen and works with him.
2006-11-14 11:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mean what you say, and if they disobey, there must be a consequence. If the only consequence is you getting upset and them still not doing what they were told, they will never listen. If they know they will suffer a consequence if they disobey, they will straighten up right away. You can not be wishy-washy though. You have to carry out what you say or your words will mean nothing to them. Also, find a punishment that is suitable for them. Some kids respond better to losing things, some respond better to more physical methods, find what is right for yours and stick to it.
2006-11-14 11:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
A smack upside the head might help. Kids are such brats nowadays.
2006-11-14 11:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sanmigsean 6 · 3⤊ 4⤋
You can do what my mom did.. say...
Do it! Or you're going to get spanked!!!
I always behaved.. I don't see why parents can't get a handle on their kids. She spanked me when I didn't do what she told me to.. I turned out okay.
2006-11-14 11:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by punkakski 2 · 4⤊ 6⤋
JUST DONT GIVE YOUR ATTENTION TOWARDS THEM
2006-11-14 11:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by mohan m 2 · 2⤊ 7⤋