Would you have a threesome if you was married?

Question

Well me and my Husband have been together for 2 years and married for 3 months and he wants to bring another girl in our bed. He promises he would just watch and there would be no penis penatraion. Should I trust him? He said he has wanted to do that his while life and he is 41 now and he wants to do it before hes to old. Im 28 and I did stuff like that when I was 17 years old. Its not the fast that I dont trust him, its the fact that I wouldt trust the other person. What should I do? Should it just remain his fanasty? He gets on my nerves! He makes some kind of comment about it everyday. HELP!

He does know about my past and what I have done, I have also made the comment about myself wanting to see him get done up the *** by some guy...lol, and he got all freaked out about it. He has lesbian porno but he seems to what the real thing, but I have seen the problems it has caused me before and I do not want the same thing to happen to my marriage. What should I do? GOD!

Answer 1

I'm not going to comment on whether or not you should do it, or any morality aspect of it, because in my opinion as long as all parties involved in the threesome want to be there, than there is no harm done and thus it is not a morality issue. Those that answer on the morality aspect of it are speaking out of personal bias and not really helping answer your question any.

Allot of guys have a MFF fantasy, he's not unusual. The real question though is: do you want to do it? Not for him, but for you. You already know he wants to see it, so if you want to do it than doing it is for both of you as a couple.

If you don't want to do it and you are only thinking about it to please him than you are doing it for the wrong reason. That is a selfish reason.

Could he really sit it out and not touch? The idea of a threesome is that all three are having fun. It sounds to me like he is trying the angle of easing you into it by saying nothing will happen between him and the other woman. Then as you do it more often he'll start to go for it.

This just seems like total coercion to me. He is coercing you to fulfill his fantasy without any regard to whether or not it is your fantasy or you are game to it.

Aside from how you asked him about having sex with another man, how would he feel about you having a MFM with another guy and him? No MM interaction, just both worshipping you? If this was your fantasy, would he grant it to you in return? If not, than his intentions are purely selfish or he is not ready for the reality of swinging.

Swinging (and yes, a threesome is technically swinging) is a very unselfish act. You are as excited about your partner having a great time as you are about you having a great time. Your partner's happiness is essential to your own (as it should be in all aspects of a relationship). Anything you do as a couple should be done FOR the couple.

Answer 2

You both are having crazy thoughts. And I only say this because marriage is a sacred vow. Both of you need to go back and remember your wedding day and what you vowed to each other.
I remember when my husband was 41, listen he is not old, even at 51. And we are older honey. And we still find plenty of new stuff to do in bed just between us. If you have only been married 2 yrs. he is not looking at you. No wonder the AIDS population is growing.
You both need to think seriously about what you are asking the other one to do. Its not safe, can be with use of a condom, but s***, that takes all of the fun out of it.
Since you have been there, you should know how it made you feel. Conveigh that to him.
My answer is no. You are 28, and you are not hot enough for him? He must be looking past you.
Do something else in the bed to keep him happy, but not that, never.! There is no way your love life should be over at such a young age.
I have read the other answers and is no one thinking of sexual transmitted diseases
Especially you young lady! Why do you think there are so many men with AIDS? It's men f*****ing men!

Answer 3

I think when 2 people are truly committed,then there should be no 3rd person.Love,especially marriage should be based upon 2 ppl.I have been married 17 yrs,we find other ways to spice up our marriage,,And we have a great sex life,,we always have,,,but I also believe it's because we love each other and we always have.We even talk about having sex with other ppl while were having sex,Anything with just the 2 of us.Talk dirty to each other and about what you would do if u had that person there,but fantasies are that ,,,,,,,you can make them real without touching any one else.

Answer 4

The love between your husband and you should not require another woman there first of all. Second of all, its no the other woman you should not trust, what about your husband having thoughts like that in the first place? All it will do is cause problems in the marriage, marriage is a sacred bond and should not be thought of as lightly as that. Then again there are some people who just dont care either way. I wish you luck and pray that God takes this situation in His hands.

Answer 5

Only 2 years and he wants 2 try this already??? U r also a newlywed for Gods sake!! Red flag! I would not trust him. When things get started and heating up his curiosity, male urges and just being a dog will all happen and there is too much at stake here, the percentage of him doing her is sky high!!!! He must be dreaming of it all the time and it is bugging him. Tell him that U wouldn't be able to handle it and afterwards it will always be on your mind, in your dreams and affecting your love life with him if you 3 do it. **** I still cant 4get it!! It hurt both of us deeply in many ways!! Not worth it.

Answer 6

You've only been married 3 months. That's a little early to be bringing someone else into the marriage bed. If you want to do this, then do so, but you choose the lady. If you don't, then don't. He will have to live with the fantasy only.

Just because you've done things in your past does not mean that you do them now. Remind him of that.

Answer 7

This is tricky. I have done this before with my ex-spouse. But it didnt have anything to with our divorce. I think that is your going to do it set some prior rules on it. Depends on who does it too. If your not comfortable with someone else touching him in that way I wouldnt recommend it. In the heat of passion things tend to happen. My ex wouldnt let it die down either and then he wanted to do it more after. So really it depends on you I was young and I didnt have a problem with it but I think that its best left as a fantasy. I wouldnt want to share my husband now with anyone else. So I wouldnt do it. What if you made a compromise it doesnt have to be a threesome what if you were to just do things with a girl, while he watched? And then of course ripped you apart afterwards. That might work out a little better for the two of you.

Answer 8

to respond to you the ultimate i could ought to be attentive to why you're frightened. although, the quick answer is... enable nature take it is direction. in case you're sexually fascinated in her, and her to you, than it is going to likely be merely like having intercourse with the different woman, different than now it is a team attempt to thrill her between you and her husband. do merely no longer forget which you're there for her. they have a MFM fable and that they are residing it out with you, and in turn they're pleasurable your fable of a threesome. do merely what comes clearly, make confident hubby is in touch, and additionally you have an somewhat stable time and additionally you will make her 12 months. For some extra counsel from those that have extremely been there and can communicate from journey, no longer concern and incorrect information approximately intercourse, verify-out The Swingers Board boards.

Answer 9

You've done this in the past? Cool! However, now you're married. That changes the dynamics of the situation. That fact that you have issues with this is a problem in itself.

Did you tell your husband you've done this in the past? If so, it gets really sticky (no pun intended). He could pull the old... "well you are ready have done it, I just want to catch up".

I'm leaning toward no just because you are now married and emotions can come into play.

Now, if you were unmarried... GET YOUR FREAK ON!

Answer 10

NO. I would not trust the act or the people involved, including yourself. Do you want to wonder evrytime you and yur husband are alone if he's thinking about that other person? You already are not comfortable with it or you wouldn't have asked. It is healthy to have a fantasy, but it will be healthier for your marriage if you leave it at that.