how much is she entitled too?

Question

It looks like my relationship is going down the drain, we have lived together for 2 years and we have a 19 month old baby, she has no financial input to the house or our lifestyle, she does not work.
Now if we split what is she entitled too, i will give everything to the baby as i want to do all i can for her but i do not want to subsidise my ex`s lifestyle as you can appreciate.

any help would be great, im in the uk too

thanks

We are not married
i earn 100k a year on average
i am 25 years old
i will pay anything for my baby but i dont want to pay for her to have a good time while she is sh@gging around.

Answer 1

I was watching a top divorce lawyer on the wright stuff this morning!!!

Well a woman called in and she asked,"would she be entitled to anything, she lived with her partner for "9 YEARS" and had a young child with him and the answer to that was "NO"

You will have to pay for the child of course.

Answer 2

Depends on the laws in the UK. Here in most states in the USA you would be considered "common law spouses". If you live as if you are married, then you are married in the eyes of the law. However, according to wikipedia, there is no common law marriage in the UK.

What you have to consider is that your "ex's" life style is also your child's lifestyle. Did she ever work? Can she work? What is her earning power? Was it her idea not to work, or yours? Does she have somewhere else to go where she won't have to pay living expenses until she gets on her feet?

If so then I think you are obligated to pay for half (or your percentage of the relative earning power) of the child care, half of the child's food and clothing, and half of medical expenses and so on. In the future, half of sports expenses, private school if applicable, and so on. If she didn't work just because you wanted her to stay home, then I think you owe her some subsidy until she can get a job and get the child into day care.

What I also think that you are oblligated to do is to put away, in a trust fund, money for your baby's future. Are there higher education savings funds in the UK? Start contributing right away so that 16 years from now this amount will be available directly to your child and only for education.

Answer 3

You could just pay CSA (UK). I believe it would be a couple of hundred a month for one child, depending on what you earn, and you would have access rights too if you pay this way.
You could also remind her if she is finding things tight, that if she works 30 hours a week her money will be made up handsomely by the tax payer and 70% of her childcare cost will also be paid, 25% reduction in poll tax and many other benefits.
It pays to separate in this country.

Answer 4

I don't know about laws in the uk but in the USA, if you aren't married, it's all about the baby. She could get child support if you let her take custody of the baby. But if you are married, she gets half of everything you acquired since the marriage. good luck

Answer 5

Are you married? Can she work???

I think these things matter (esp. married) in certain states.

Besides Child support, you'll probably have to pay for housing and maybe upto 1/2 her living expenses.

IF she can find a job, maybe work out a deal where you pay to get her in an apartment (like pay move in and 6 months rent) and ample child support as opposed to "spousal" support.

Get a lawyer.

Answer 6

Child support

Answer 7

go and see a solicitor in family law.....get everything you have in trust for the baby then she cant touch it....she will probably still stiff you for maintenance but at least she wont get the cash you already have.you could also put any maintanace in the childs name in a bank account which she cannot access. good luck

Answer 8

do moms automatically get child custody in the UK? If not, don't you want the kid?

Answer 9

Try logging onto www.entitledto.co.uk

Just make sure you do right by your daughter