Over the past few days I've read so many questions that revolve around the questions am i pregnant, i'm 18? Or should i marry the father of my unborn child, I've only known him for 2 months and we are sort of casual? What is gong on in our society? The thing that scares me the most is that my children will be attneding school and socializing with the children born to these idiots!
2006-11-14 02:47:23 · 16 answers · asked by 1973kimberly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People have lost morals in our society. People think marriage is disposable and that if they have a child from a causual relationship then fine. Fine, hell. I think its best of everyone to know who they are going to be linked to forever. Our society would be a better place if people cared. The order of love, marriage and baby was how it was meant to be, and somehow people think just because times have changed that morals have to change also. Morals should be long standing not like yesterdays news.
2006-11-14 02:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I got pregent when I was 18 had my son when I was 19. I was a idot i married the father to do the "right" thing for teh family. But deep down if you dont know him that well and you arent sure of teh 2 of you then how will you have enough love and paience to deal with the child and work on you 2 as well? You cant. trust me taking care of a new born is stressful enough! If you really love each other then you will wait! See how he is after the baby is born. that is when a father will show his true feelings! Now since I married for the wrong reasons I am going through a divorce. So make sure that it is what you want to do and make sure that all the love is there and the COMMITTMENT! Life always gives us obsticles, we got to be smart enough to make teh right ones. I would rather you be a single happy mother for the childs sake the a not happy stressed out mother. Babys can sense that! You need to keep that in mind as well. Baby's do sense nerviousness and when you r lonley and hurt! Good luck!
2006-11-14 02:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by c_dilleynlancaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have ofter wondered that myself. I am 31 yrs old and fixing to get married so I can start a family. I have been on birth control since I was 18, so that there was no chance of getting pregnant. I have always said I will not have a baby until I am married and I would not get married until I new it would last(I know nothing is set in stone though). That is why I am just now getting married and thinking about having kids. I don't understand where societies head it at the moment. They make all sorts of things now-a-days to help prevent pregnacy. I feel sorry for the babies being born into these situations, especially since some of them I will be working to pay for. Have a good day.
2006-11-14 04:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
AMEN to that,,I ask the same thing.My girls are 16 and 13 and I taught them to wait,if not till marriage at least till their 18.We are very close and they tell me everything about what's going in their life and school. And you wouldn't believe the ages girls are getting pregnant now days.My 13 yr old daughter has a friend at school that is pregnant.I have always been open and honest with my girls and I believe communication is the key.I have also told them birth control better come before they get pregnant.Parents now days seem to let their children do what ever,and think "oh no my child isn't having sex",,so they want put them on the pill. Or they think birth control gives them permission,,but that's not true.Parents should teach their children to be safe not sorry for being a parent too young.
2006-11-14 03:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mother of 2 girls 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the world is not a perfect place there is some difference in how marriage should be done. in some country family choose who you Married and in other there are some men but not Enif Lady's to have.. life is diff rent for every on on this earth i no of a family that there kid need to be married by the time they were 14 year old so that the gods will keep the life in there crops.. people ask all kinds of question on here most are question that there just Turing to find out if there are anyone Else going throw what they went throw.. and all this people are just trying live the best they can on the earth..
2006-11-14 03:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one subject I am on the fence about. I myself got pregnant with my first child before I was married. I was engaged to her father at the time and we were together for two and half years already. So it's not like we just messed around sometimes. On the other hand I have several friends and family members whom have gotten pregnant and are/were having to ask themselves the same questions. I know things happen, and that birth control is not always totaly effective, but if you don't think you could see yourself bringing up a child with this person you should keep your pants on.
Thankfully, things worked out wonderfully for my family. I couldn't imagine my life if something had happened before I came to this conclusion.
2006-11-14 02:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by Kerri E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not an idiot but I'm also a single mother and I'm not married to my child's father. I don't think anything is wrong in our society. I wish I could have ended up with my son's father but that isn't what happened. I don't necessarily think you have to do everything in order. What is marriage anyways but a piece of paper that says you are married. You can have a life with someone and have kids and not be 'legally' married to them. This is 2006. I'm not married and I'm happy. I'm dating a great guy that cares about me and my son. I'm in college and I'm about to graduate in May. I'm going to school to become a social worker. Does it sound like I'm an idiot? I'm scared that my child will have to attend school and socialize with the children born to close-minded people like you.
2006-11-14 02:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know it's ppl. like you that irritate me. I had my son when I was 18 and have done everything possible to ensure all his needs and wants are met...It was not an easy thing to decide on my own. I'm now 26 and feel that I've done a better job raising my son then most older couples. Everyday of my life I meet ppl. like you who steotype every young single mom. I have an education and a decent job and on top of that I'm a damn good mom. But yet I have to justify myself at every turn to ignorant ppl. like yourself...After reading your question I'm concerned that my child may end up socializing with the prodigy of ppl. like you.
It's because of closed minded ppl. like yourself that I've had to work harder endure more pain just prove myself worthy of mutual respect (which should be given to any living being) but because I'm a young single mom I get none!!!
You should be ashamed of yourself. I would be.
2006-11-14 02:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a prime example of the breakdown of the family unit in our country. When did it become OK for an unwed mother to not be ashamed of her "sin"? Why do we tell our children that they are mature enough mentally and emotionally to handle the responsibilities of parenting? Babies having babies is a real problem. It has happened because in the 60's it became OK to sleep around. And now those same people are running for public office. Scary plight we have put on ourselves in our country.
2006-11-14 02:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
People have lost respect for themselves.
People have no sense of responsibility.
Everyone wants everything now, and have not learned the art of patience, nor do they want to.
Manners are gone out the window in favor of "being real", which is just a way to not be respectful of others and justify it.
Society is turning into the lowest form of humanity possible.
2006-11-14 02:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋