i have been seeing him for 7 months. im currently going through a divorce and am pregnant with my BF's baby. we only had a casul relationship until now. now he wants to marry me. i said no becasue i think he is only doing it because im preg. do you think im doing the right thing by saying no. also im not ready to get married again. dont know if i ever will be.
2006-11-14 02:23:14 · 9 answers · asked by fire_child 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me like there is a lot of drama in your life and that you are going through a lot. Don't jump out of the frying pan and right into the fire. This is no time to be getting married. If you like this guy them give it some time... date him and see how things go, but I would not consider marrying him until you have had your child and gotten used to that life... if he loves you now he will love you a year from now... good luck.
2006-11-14 02:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready to be married again, then don't, it really doesn't matter why he asked as you are the one not ready and that it the real reason you said no. Talk to him about it and let him know your feelings. When going through a divorce, you must first close one part of your life in order to start another. If you are still not divorced you have not closed off the other part of your life. I also believe that after divorce you need time to figure out your next step and find yourself again a little. Since you kinda skipped that step and really are not able to do so, being pregnant already, I suggest, slowing things down, and finishing the divorce. Then have your baby and of course this is not to say that you need to cut this guy out of your life now or in the future, just tell him you need some time together before either of you make the step into marriage.
2006-11-14 10:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready to get married then you have done the right thing. You have just come out of one marriage and you definitely do not want to rush into another one, especially as you have said that it was only a casual relationship and you think that he is just doing it because you are pregnant.
It's nice that he wants to do the right thing, but make sure that you do what you want to do, have your baby and just get on with life, if he still wants to marry you 5 years down the line and you don't feel ready then don't do it. If by then you have changed your mind then so be it. But remember you have to do what makes you happy
2006-11-14 10:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You played house and got pregnant while already married to another man. This really makes you look bad. You should have waited to get so involved. You my girl, have jumped from the frying pan into the fire.
2006-11-14 10:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are correct in saying no. Sounds like you got a lot of unfinished ends to tie up before starting on another (marriage). If you are interested in him, I would just simply let him know that, but conclude by telling him that you need to get your life straightened out first. If he seems angry or upset by that, then he obviously doesn't truly love you. If he loves you and your child enough, then HE WILL WAIT.
Best of luck.
2006-11-14 10:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by bellebelle113 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are ABSOLUTELY doing the right thing. You don't want to jump from the frying pan into he fire, do you? Trust your intuitions and wait. Good luck with the pregnancy.
2006-11-14 10:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by doggoneit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good answer. I believe it would be best for you to take care of your divorce and other matters at hand. Its important to remember that you will need to to get yourself together mentally, spiritually and physically.
2006-11-14 11:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by pradavee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and have an adult conversation with him and tell him how you are feeling and tell him that you need time and that you do love him but you are not ready yet
2006-11-14 10:29:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kayla P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you answering your question ( i said no) ( I'm not ready to get married again).... ask yourself one more time ... what do you feel... then go ahead
2006-11-14 10:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by NAUDIA B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋