I was 7 mos pregnant when my motherinlaw came to "help"us for the next 6 months. Listening to her criticism of others and watching her odd behavior, it landed me two times of admission to the birthing place for high blood pressure--who then became pre-ecclampsia--and then lastly, have my son born at 8 months! And, more painfull things come after that...then she went home when my baby was 5 mos old. But after 4 mos, she's back! For another 6 mos!While staying with us, she rearrange everything in my place, telling me what to do and cook for my son and my son.She treats my husband like she is a very doting wife of him, and treat my son like her own not mine. Everything makes me feel like: I do not need to do anything anymore, just go satisfy my husband in bed when needed!
2006-11-14 02:20:52 · 10 answers · asked by af1795 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have two choices. You can either, just relax and let her do what she wants to do and enjoy some freedom from cooking and cleaning, or you can tell her thank you but I would rather be a wife and mother and your daughter in law, leave the cooking and cleaning to me and you just spend some time with us and the new baby.
2006-11-14 02:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband tell him how she makes you feel and let him know that 6 mo. is too long of a visit. They either have to respect your feelings or you have to take a stand. I personally took a stand and now have a better relationship with my mother in law . He should be the one to stick up for you though!
2006-11-14 02:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by Tina S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground! Its your house too and you husband needs to tell his mom not to come or not to stay for so long. Limit her visits to a week or two. Something more manageable than 6 mos.
Your health is way more important then her "help". Your husband should understand. Good Luck!
2006-11-14 02:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply ask her to leave. How does your husband feel about all of this? Stand your ground! This is your child and your home! You have a say in what goes on where you live and in what affects your life! Best of luck to you.
2006-11-14 02:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by luvbuggies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a new approach to it, she wants to do all that stuff, let her feel like your incapable and let her do it all..cook, clean, wash..whatever, that way you can take time to focus on you and rebuild yourself.
Tune her out, learn to just turn the cheek, as long as she's doing all the work, you're the one having the last laugh at night.
do you know how many recently post partum women wish they had that kind of help..
2006-11-14 02:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to draw the line. Talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. He may be defensive at first, but turn the tables on him and ask him how he would feel if it were him.
2006-11-14 02:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here's what ya do ,tell hubby you don't need his mom anymore,she can come to visit but only for a few hours,tell him this is your home not hers and that you would appreciate it if he would let his mom know this as soon as possible,and you do appreciate the help but it is not needed anymore.
2006-11-14 02:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by davec4real_02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first talk to your husband, let him know how you feel, it that don't work tell him to make a choose of who are going to live there , her, or you and the kids, if he chose her, then take your kids and go to your parents for awhile to see, if it is you he want.
2006-11-14 02:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by queenmidas1014 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her how u feel or tell ure husband to talk to her tell him how u feel and how she makes u feel
2006-11-14 02:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by babyblue1512000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put your foot down. Enough is enough. Just make sure your hubby is behind you!
2006-11-14 02:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by lisasal1229 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋