2006-11-14 02:18:34 · 29 answers · asked by irishgirlsrule 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not a chance
2006-11-14 02:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by Grant C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is possible - trust me, I've been there too many times to count - but the only way it is possible is if the person who is attracted to the other comes to realise that it will probably never happen. It sounds harsh but it is true.
Occassionally the When Harry Met Sally type romance does work out but the vast majority of the time it doesn't - people put a mental sign post on certain people as 'Out Of Bounds - Too Good A Friendship To Risk Messing Up With Sex' and if one person can't reconcile themselves to the fact that friendship is all they're going to get then the friendship will inevitably disintergrate.
The way I see it, I would much rather maintain a good friendship and know that we were going to stay a part of each others lives than throw it away on the chance of a fling.
Lx
2006-11-14 02:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lauren A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend and I'm attracted to her. I know her too well to think that she'd make a good girlfriend, but given the chance I'd bang her brains out. And she knows it. Every now and again, I remind her, but for the most part, she talks to me about her relationships and I tell her about mine. And we hang out. We're cool and I'm not always trying to get in her pants. I'm always looking at what in'em though. So yes, its possible. But if there are any feelings involved, then its a no go. Being friends will never be enough for the person with feelings and it will just turn into a painful experience.
2006-11-14 03:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure which one you are, however, for the one that is not attracted it would be much easier. For the one that is attracted much more difficult. If you can both keep yourselves in line, you can have a friendship, though as time goes by it will become so difficult for both of you, in different ways, that you both will give up or atleast the one that isn't attracted will. The one that is attracted may not, as this is the only way they can have a connection with the other. I have a friend that is attracted to me, but me not to him and I am pulling away as every time we are around, I can see the hurt in his eyes that I do not want to be with him. Not to mention the pressure I feel from him through his actions. Its easier to just say we are friends and be cordial to him when I see him and not have the constant contact. I also do not want to be nasty so I don't tell him I don't want to be friends I just keep my distance.
2006-11-14 02:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only one is attracted and the other is not then yeah they can remain friends...just that the one that doesn't like the other person needs to be very careful of what he/she does around that person that liked them so he/she doesn't get the wrong Idea....you know. It will be hard for the person that is attracted thought
2006-11-14 02:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by I think of you I touch Myself 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I had this friend that I hung out with when I was in the middle of getting a divorce from my ex-husband and moved back in with my parents. He was an old friend and we would hang out and do things together. When I started dating somebody and wasn't hanging out with him near as much, he went crazy calling me all the time and leaving harrassing messages. He told everyone that we were together as boyfriend/girlfriend. Everyone - except me!! I told him that we were just friends and he knew how I felt. I had to finally tell him not to ever call me again that I couldn't stand him (this is after he tried to sabatoge me and tell my ex-husband things and mostly were lies) and finally he has left me alone for about a year. No love lost on this end. Just be careful. I don't know if it is you or the other person that is attracted but jealousy will arise when the other one starts dating someone else!
2006-11-14 02:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as the friendship with that person doesn't override the relationship with the spouse, then yes in some cases. It's when the friendship begins to be more important than the marriage that problems will occur. I wouldn't reccommend it though. Unless the marriage is built on a foundation of trust and security, it will probably leave the other spouse feeling down, unattractive, and not important. I know this first hand. I try not to interfere with my husbands female friendships. He claims they are only online friends. so, unless he begins going out with them, or spending more time with them than me, I try not to worry.
2006-11-14 02:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by kari w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No..... If their is attraction something will happen.... it's just a matter of time. I found a lot of times with my male friends that I wasn't attracted to at first would start looking cuter in my eyes because of their personality. Its hard to remain "just friends" with the opposite sex and not eventually find them attractive.
2006-11-14 02:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by trixinator 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do believe that men and women can be "Just Friends". However, it has been my experience TWICE in my lifetime that once the feelings of one friend take on a deeper meaning, there tends to be problems.
An example is a friend I had for many years. (a male) I loved him to death like a brother. However, he began to indicate his feelings for me were much deeper and I tried to explain I could not return them. He continued to try and woo me and I was so uncomfortable that we finally had to call the friendship a loss.
2006-11-14 02:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by Dariana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yep. It takes two to tango so one can be attracted all he or she wants to be, but that doesn't mean something has to happen between them. Men and women can be only friends.
2006-11-14 02:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by Didi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men and women cannot be just friends if there is physical attraction on any side.
2006-11-14 02:24:03 · answer #11 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋