shud i actually tell my mother..?

Question

that i am transsexual or shud i put it off until ive started counselling with a gender psychologist first? i have been in counselling with a sexual psychologist and she said im best seeking a referral from my GP (which ive done) before spilling the beans as it were.

Answer 1

well eventually she will have to find out. she may not like it, but who knows maybe she seen it coming for a long time and was in denial.

Answer 2

Your mother loves you. Yes she probably will be upset, but you are her child, and she has a right to know about your life and the choices you make concerning your life. Being open and honest is the best way to pursue this. This a issue that is more mainstream, so hopefully she can and will be open-minded to this. Just take your time and think about how you will tell her, you know your mom better than me, you have to figure out the best way to break the news to her. Maybe you want to wait until after the holiday's and all the running around and activity dies down so that you two can talk in peace. Be Strong. Take Care. And Good Luck.

Answer 3

Well, to go through with transitioning, and probably to even continue to see your shrink, you'll need your parent's permission. Analyze your situation before coming out and tell her in the presence of the therapist would probably be a good idea. Sometimes parents can react badly, but there are ways to minimize the change of things like getting beaten or kicked out. Also, it will depend on how open-minded your mom is. I know people that have been able to transition with their parent's permission when they were young, and I know of people that were beaten when they outed themselves. Just be smart about it and I wish you the best.

Answer 4

I think it's inevitable that you will have to tell your parents and the sooner the better, especially now that you've already seeked a referral and you're currently in counseling.

When you do decide to tell her, try to do it in a neutral environment, and make sure to do it as gently as possible. Just remember no man is an island.

Answer 5

I would wait until the counselling with the gender psychologist. Perhaps he or she may be able to advise you as to the best way to tell your mother

Answer 6

You need to take things slowly as it is a massive enough thing for you to have to deal with, let alone anyone else. YOur mum should know, if you value any kind of relationship with her, but make sure you are strong in yourself and sure of yourself as you will have to deal (probably for a good few years to come) with your mum's reaction to the news. One point that is a bit more comforting is mother's sometimes know alot more then us kids give them credit for. So, if things are dealt with in a considerate, but honest way you'll both be okay!

Answer 7

telling your loved ones is a personal thing ..my only advise is to trust your gut when the time is right u will know and if it is not u will know. don't rush it .for a time will come were u will tell them and u wont half to ask the question at all u will know the time .... trust only your gut because it could go eather way positive or negatively ....but even if it is neg...time will help ...don't think because they mite have a prob they wont get over it its just something they half to work with on their own give them space on the other hand when i came out it was so positive i could not believe it......

Answer 8

I'd explore the situation yourself first so you're sure. You know what mothers are like - she'll only tell you it's a phase you're going through.

Having said it would be useful for you to have someone close to you that you can talk to - maybe think which of your friends is likely to be the most supportive.

Answer 9

How you think your mother will react is key.

I've known transgendered individuals who've been disowned by their parents because of it.

Eventually they'll have to know, but it's something you might want to figure out the consequences, so you will be emotionally prepared for any unpleasant reactions. Most parents would be upset, but come to accept it because they love you.

Answer 10

I bleive that you should go a while with your sexual psycologist because they will give you good advice. But tell her most definatly. She has the right to know. Your her child, shell love you no matter what.

Answer 11

I told my mum 12 months before i went to see anybody, personally i thought it was the right thing to do, after all she's my mum, she's gotta know. At first she was fine about it,m until i did go see somebody about it, now we don't talk. Shame really, i luv my mum. oh well.