what if you husband said he was going to texas to do a speech. but you find out it was a woman?

Question

if your husband lied to you about going on a trip what would you do????

Answer 1

I would find it unacceptable! I would want to know why he lied. Then I'd tell him to pack his crap and get the heck out of my house.

Answer 2

If I were sure he was going to sleep with the woman, I would ask myself, am I better off with or without a man I cannot trust as well as risk my health and the health of my children. (You never know what STDs he may bring back to you and your kids.)

For myself, the next thing I would do is find a good lawyer and change the locks on all the doors and call the phone company and have the phone number changed into my own name, the same for all utilities and clean out the checking, savings, and other sources of money. Do this BEFORE notifying cheating husband that you are filing for divorce. If you fail to do this, you'll wind up with nothing.

If you do not have a job, go out and get whatever you can find. You can always change jobs later.

Good luck and be strong for yourself and your kids, if any.

Answer 3

I don't have a husband. but if I did, I would make sure that he never touched me again. Because I could not afford to take a chance that his filthiness could destroy me, my future, my happiness, and the happiness of those that love and care and depend on me.
This is why adultery is so serious. It has the potential to effect anyone in contact with that person in a negative way. It may be possible for a sex offender to change, but the process can take as much as a lifetime.
If you are a victim, go somewhere safe for no less than a year. Get on with your life and don't give into deathly consequences. Protect your life and future happiness at all costs.

Answer 4

confront him and leave him, however if you are not ready to leave him, you need to find out the reasons why he did what he did and if he is willing to stop seeing the other woman. If not then you need to decide if you can live with that. It really comes down to what are you willing to put up with. I had a friend that had her husband cheat. SHe forgave him because of the reasons. He continued to cheat and at one point she did also, however they remained together until he passed away at an early age (disease, non sexual) because of the love they had for each other. Their relationship worked. Of course his cheating was known to her in the back of her mind, but he did not put it in the foreground or right out there obvious for her to know. Easier for her to ignore. Remember everyone is different and so is every relationship. This is not about what your family or friends think you should do but what you think you should do, if they know about it or will ever know about it. If they love you they will support you no matter your decision and it is your decision to make.

Answer 5

If you truly love him, then confront him about the situation and find out why he found himself in the arms of another woman. You are more then likely pissed right off so try and be calm when you talk to him. He may be at a stage in the relationship where he is bored ?? You have to find it in your heart to forgive him and forget it or it will never work out. Follow your heart and you'll find the answers... Take Care

Answer 6

Sounds to me like there is some communicating that needs to happen between the two of you. I would want to get to the bottom of it sooner than later. It is not going to be an easy conversation to approach, remember to keep you head on and not say a bunch of things you may regret later.

Try and work it out.

Answer 7

First thing...if you are going to file for divorce, don't tell him you know about the woman. Make sure you file for divorce before you tell him that you know. If you are the one filing it puts you in a better position when it comes to the divorce settlement.....Also, if he really cheated on you then he is not worth your time and you can find a nice man that will treat you well......

Answer 8

As soon as he came home I would have his sh*t packed and tell him if that's what he wants then bye he's free to go. Or you can tell him he's an asshole forgive him and ask him why he did it.... Either would work but I vote for the first one. If he can come up with this big lie, and plan this all out to go see her then I would take a hard look at if he's worth all this trouble...

Answer 9

Guilt,

I would save it for a rainy day, when i wanted to get something.

Alot of men cheat but make sure he's not planning to leave you.

and make sure you have financial control. and your own bank account.

start planning for the future and withdraw the money little by little.

and save it in a private account. and have the forms sent to your mothers or a friends house.

and then after you have made a great plan, tell him you know.

And see what he says.

even if you don't plan to leave , you need to plan for it Just in case he leaves and with another woman.and everything you've worked for all these years.

Answer 10

Look, your husband has been lying to you the whole time, and he's not going to texas he's going to florida, to be with his other family, sorry to break the news to you this way.