i just turned 20 and im almost desperate to have a baby, its kinda like this feeling that i should have a kid. i have no idea how to be a mom or how to take care of a child. I do have a boyfriend and we are very much in love and i know he is the one im gonna marry but why am i having these feelings? I started having them even before i met my current boyfriend, but im so young so im not sure why i feel like this. can any of you help me?
2006-11-14 02:05:51 · 10 answers · asked by luvable6891 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
it happens at a different time for everybody. do whatever you feel is right. what does your boyfriend think about this? i'm 25 and i don't feel like i'm old enough to have a baby. i still enjoy my life with just me and my husband. i'm too selfish. i don't want to wake up in the middle of the night to do anything. nor do i want to wake up earlier in the morning than i already do. i don't want to have to pass up fun events because of a baby. do think about all of this, not just the "ooh a baby" part. think of all the vomit and the fevers and the crying and the diapers and the difficulty of it all.
good luck with whatever you decide.
2006-11-14 02:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to have baby fever and I don't think 20 is too young. In your case, go car lot looking you might find that you get car fever just as easy. Babies are lifelong serious commitments. If we all waited until we were ready there would be no babies!! I do think you should get your life a little more stable, maybe even discuss it with your boyfriend, babies do not solve problems in relationships. Make sure when you do have a baby it isn't just fever. Do it because you and the man you are with are so in love and want to try and continue on the path you have chosen. It takes two not just to make a baby, but to have a better chance at having a quality pregnancy and raising a baby.
2006-11-14 02:13:50 · answer #2 · answered by maudie gras 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married earlier this year, and recently I turned 20, and when i turned 20, i felt like having a baby, but I have to finish school, so that when I DO have a baby, i can give it the best I can, and a better opportunity in life, and education. So, just wait, make sure you can take care of the baby financially, it will be less stressfull, and you wont be worrying so much on the future of your child. So just wait, and enjoy life!!!
Good luck!!!
2006-11-14 02:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by BabyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is possible to want to have a child at this age. As I speak from experience. You really need to question your surroundings. Why is it you feel the need to want to have a child. What is missing in your life. Is your relationship with the men in your life great or is there definite improvements needed. Especially the man in your life when you were ages 10 to 13 years of age. Was that a good relationship. Have you thought about helping out at a childrens hospital as a volunteer. Do that.. Volunteer for 3 months on every Friday and Saturday. See if that is something your willing to do for the next 18 years. This should be able to answer your questions. Good luck with your search of life!
2006-11-14 02:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by halfptnohio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty common. Right after my husband and I got married two years ago, both of my sisters and his sister started having children. We now have 5 neices and nephews (had one niece before the wedding). Having all those little ones around REALLY makes me want to have a baby. But hang in there. It sounds like you've found a great guy, so wait until you get married and then start considering children. For one, you want to look fantastic in your wedding dress (no tummy from a baby) and two, your child deserves a loving mom and dad that can provide him/her the things he/she needs.
It does get difficult, but analyze your life right now and ask yourself if you are REALLY ready for a baby. If you don't know much about taking care of babies, it's probably not time. But, once you do get married and start having children, it will come naturally I'm sure. Best of luck!
2006-11-14 02:16:23 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just a natural instinct. Most women feel like this at one time or another, and some earlier than others.
Just remember that you're not ready to have a child.
Maybe you should try baby-sitting children in your neighborhood. That can put a real damper on your desire to have a child.
2006-11-14 02:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion - WAIT..im 21 and I had my first at 19..i got married at 19 as well..i love my son to death but i kinda wish that I waited longer to have a baby..i would also say wait until your married becasue i know many girls who said that they knew that they would marry their babys fathers but when the baby is born it was a different story..teenage boys dont want to take on such big responsibility..yea they want the title of being a dad but they dont fulfill that title very well..GOOD LUCK on your decision but i think u should wait..its a phase and it should pass..
2006-11-14 04:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by SIBella :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you sound like me-- ill be turning 20 next month and i've had baby fever for about 2 months now--but you gotta realize your young and you got your whole life ahead of you to have kids...enjoy your youth now so when you do decide to have kids you'll have going out and partying and stuff like that outta your system... kids are expensive and though i want one i dont want to spend all my money on one...but im glad to see im not the only one going through this..good luck and think twice b4 you act on your feelings..
2006-11-14 02:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you afford a kid? you don't sound ready at all it's not a walk in the park you gotta put this baby before all of your needs you need to think again when you get more mature.
2006-11-14 02:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by 1 luvly LEO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some girls get it at 13, thank god you waited this long.
2006-11-14 02:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋