I first met cousin when we were both "adults", he was 28 and i was 26. As wrong as it is, we fell inlove. We kissed and did almost everything but fortunately we didn't have sex. I knew it was wrong for us to do that so i called it quits before long.... Now i'm failing to accept his girlfriend, I'm jealous of their relationshp though i have a boyfriend of my own. what should i do
2006-11-14 01:59:55 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
that is a little 2 much!!!!
it is gross!!!!!
anyway i am not trying 2 make u feel worse!!!!
why don't u show your boyfriend off and do lovey, dovey stuff front of him like kissing etc... then u will see how he feels!!!
if u actually show that u r jealous he will see u r in desperation and then he will take advantage and make u even more jealous!!!!!!!!
go on babe u can do it!!!!
try to kill 2 birds with 1 stone!!!!!!
it is an expression!!!!!!!!
2006-11-14 02:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
it all depends on how close of a cousin he is, as long as its not a first cousin you had no problem.
As someone else on this page has also said its practised in many cultures, so why not. I know this will get a lot of snide remarks but its practised in my culture too and it seems to be working fine for everyone that i know.
You need to talk to him and find out if he still feels the same, if he does and will break up with this girl for you go for it, if he doesnt forget about it and start concentrating on other parts of your life. The right person will turn up when you least expect it.
2006-11-14 02:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by life_vamp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you met when you were adults it is normal that you don't feel like relatives. And it may not be morally good but i think it is not so bad what you felt or lived. But now as he has a girlfriend you don't have much to do unless he is trying to make you jealous. Just think you broke with your boyfriend and try not to think he is a cousin. If you want him back fight for him, if you want him go on his new relationship just go and drink. And don't forget life goes on anyways.
2006-11-14 02:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by takeiteasy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Arabs and Jews and Gypsies have been marrying inside their tribes since the beginning of time. It's legal in many states. However, I would refrain from this even if only to be different from the Semites and Gypsies. Lest you think I'm a neo-Nazi, let me tell you that Hitler was inbred. His parents were first cousins. He had an affair with his half-sisters daughter. It is better for humans to marry outside their tribes, in my opinion. But what do I know? When people from different cultures marry, there is difficulty.
2006-11-14 02:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by mouthbreather77 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Follow your hearts otherwise you will have a very sad life,always wondering what if!!!!!You are not breaking the law and if people say things like"your sick"etc,then its there problem,dont take any notice.If you both want to be together then let love find a way,dont fight it,just go with your feelings.Iwish you both all the luck in the world
2006-11-14 04:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to realize that it will never be accepted in the real world. Your other family members would probably have you committed. As far as the gf goes, let it be. You should be more worried about his happiness rather than how you feel. You have a boyfriend anyway. Be happy with him and be happy that your family accepts him. It would not be that way otherwise.
2006-11-14 02:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Manna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not illegal for cousins to be together, legally you can marry. The real problem occurs if you want to have children - you need to be very careful that there are no family genetic problems or defects which would be significantly more likely to be passed on to any child. You can get genetic counselling about this. Also, of course, you may have to deal with disapproving families. But if it's love, it's love...and no, you're not some kind of perverts.
2006-11-14 02:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i dont know where you are from, but in the UK it is legal and perfectly acceptable to marry your first cousin, so you have done nothing wrong. How you get over it is another matter. Time is the healer really.
2006-11-14 04:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like your boyfriend and feel like loving him,go ahead.Love him.Your cousin and his girlfriend,as you know well,have nothing to do with you.Whether you are jealous or not,they have to go their way;you in your way.
When you thought to quit the first relationship YOU did that.That is great.It shows,you can very well keep them away from your concerns.
2006-11-14 02:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by KRMD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he you're first cousin or second or third that answer would save you allot of people saying you're sick and so forth if he's you're sec or third there's not much wrong but if its you're first cousin then yeah you have a slight problem but ask god and he will forgive.As for the girlfriend forget she is even there you don't have to acknowledge her.But don't be to hard on him if you have a boyfriend
2006-11-14 02:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋