Our 18 months old is still sleeping in our bed at night & when my wife moves her out she will not stop crying.

Question

Put that together with the time she goes to bed there is know time for us

Answer 1

She will stop crying eventually. The trick is to let her cry until she does.

There isnt another option. You have to put her in her own bed/crib and leave her there all night. Putting her back whenever she gets out and comes to you, without saying a word for trying to get her to sleep before you put her down.

She has to realize that she can sleep in there safely and without a problem, she cant do that until she sleeps the night through on her own.

Answer 2

I have a 5 month old who for the past 2 weeks has decided that sleeping with mommy is better then his crib. It's frustrating I know because it's hard to be intimate or even just lay close when there is a baby in between. We usually will put our son to bed first without us and then bring him into our bed when he wakes up later because he like your daughter cries after that and won't sleep more then 10 minutes by himself. And when you work 9+ hours a day you need your sleep. I'm not a fan of the "just let them cry" method. Maybe it will work for you but I just can't do that.

Good luck to you and know you aren't alone in this problem.

Answer 3

OK..She's already learnt about sleep (she has since she was about 3 months old) and for her it happens in Mummy (Mommy)and Daddy's bed. That's her reality and her habit and toddlers really stick to these routines and like consistency. For them security comes from knowing what's going on and you moving her and changing her routine is confusing her terribly. In addition, you are taking her away from you and you are her sense of security and stability, especially while she sleeps.

Sooo.. I'd say it's a matter of changing the routine slowly. At the moment she just cannot understand for the life of her why you are moving her out when she has always slept there. She has no concept of 'that's long enough'.

You need to make progressive changes, such as putting her cot in the room and moving her in there in the morning only, then halfway through the night, then after she falls asleep etc etc. After that you could start moving the cot further and further from the bed then into the hall etc.

I really recommend getting into the cot with her if it's safe and there's room and letting her sleep on your arm for a while. I found this really helpful recently when my daughter dropped a nap.

Your daughter has learnt about the world one way, so to change her habits you need to change things slowly and gently.

Answer 4

Be creative, make love in another room.

She's obviously getting comfort from sleeping close to the two of you, that' a great thing! You can try to phase her out at some point, move the crib up next to your bed (like a sidecar) and take one side off and secure it to the bed. This will give you all a bit more space.

Answer 5

Try this book, "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth, MD. I have a 15 month old that has slept through the night 10-12 hours since 3 months. It was recommended to me by many other mom's that had children with good sleep habits. It can be a little deep at times, research stuff, but I SWEAR it works. It deals with sleep 'training' and how to treat sleep problems similar to what you are experiencing. It is sometimes featured at Barnes and Noble due to it's popularity! Good luck!

Answer 6

She's old enough to understand you when you tell her she needs to sleep in her bed. As for people waiting until the child is 4-5 yrs old before putting them in their own beds...that's INSANE. Try weaning her from it, let her fall asleep in your bed, then move her when she's fast asleep so she wakes up in her own bed, or lay with her in her own bed and wait until she falls asleep. It might take some time, but if that is your goal you might have to listen to her cry for a few nights, she will get tired eventually.

Answer 7

Well the abject lesson here is that when you decided to have children. You also gave up your rights to have undisturbed sex. Now your new life will be made up by a series of quickies. And it does not matter one iota how you feel about that. You Child feels the need for security and sleeping with the both of you gives her that. Yes there are time when you will have to let her cry herself to sleep. But to do it so you can have sex make you really look like a very selfish dad and that should not be the example you wish to set for her. And you can believe that your wife enjoys her company as much as she does. So get over yourself and settle for the quickies. And make up your mind to be a good dad...........

Answer 8

the following is a normal answer: placed a slumbering bag on the floor of your room. tell your daughter even as she wakes up and feels scared, she will be able to *quietly* come on your room *without* waking you or your spouse up and may stay there as long as she needs as long as she does *not* deliberately wake anybody up. After some months, she will be able to not favor to attempt this anymore. No, she doesn't have an rigidity affliction. 3 three hundred and sixty 5 days olds have solid imaginations and may scare themselves stupid. little ones go by stages the position they're extra connected to at least one make sure or the different. For quite a few months as a toddler, our now 17 three hundred and sixty 5 days previous daughter purely needed her dad. flow make sure. : )

Answer 9

u and your wife is going to have to team up together and get the baby to sleep in her own bed. for me during waking hours i put my son first. at night i like to be with my husband.

i feel what is best for my son is for him to have parents with a healthy rltp and lots of love.
i know a woman who sleeps with her husband and four year old son. and her 8 year old daughter sleeps in a toddler bed in the room. her husband hates it and i see this causing many issues.

Answer 10

I know how frustrating it is...I have a 9 year old that is having a "nightmare" problem and is scared in our new house...and I'm not married but it STILL drives me crazy at times!! For your situation it's best just to let her cry...babies, luckily, learn to adapt a lot easier than older kids- so nip it in the bud now. And while it may be frustrating NOW, it will be resolved soon enough and life will be back to normal for you and your wife.
Good luck! :) Hang in there with it!