I am in the process of deciding whether or not to leave relationship in order to benefit bipolar sufferer. I must admit I have really really fallen in love with a divorced bipolar woman who is 11 years older than me. However she is in love with a man more her age however he has been living with his girlfriend for the past 3 years and I can see that he is using her but she can't see this and insists on sticking with him.
I have met her 3 kids and they are really lovely children to be around however the ex husband has just moved back in for some reason I am not sure why and she said she doesn't want to ask him to leave as he is abusive mentally and was in the marriage. I have added to her confusion by telling her how I feel about her but she insists this is stupid and I only want her like this because she is comfortable and I have just started new job. She wants to be friends but it will hurt me because I don't agree with the other man she is seeing, I love her so much.What to do?
2006-11-14 01:42:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate to say it, but go. Get out now while you can. Sounds to me like shes pretty confused anyway. Why in the world would you bring someone who has abused you in the past back into your home? And then not want to make him leave? Maybe she is just using that as an excuse to get rid of you, who knows? I think it would be best to get on with your life, without her. Sorry! Good luck!!
2006-11-14 01:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by Catherine W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone see the light ....they have to see it for themselves. You sound like a good guy so save yourself a lot of misery and let this woman go. She is obviously not done with her ex and who knows why she would continue that relationship, but you can't save her if she doesn't want to be helped. I think she uses you to talk about things, but that's not fair to you. Find a single woman who will appreciate being treated with respect. Bipolar disorder is very difficult to live with...my mother is bipolar and I never know what to expect from her. Move on...you deserve better.
2006-11-14 01:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would leave due to the complexity of the situation. She may be confused at the moment and she is hurting herself and you because as you said the other man she loves is just using her. He more than likely will Not leave his girlfriend for her.
2006-11-14 01:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 12:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, we can't help who we fall in love with. I am sorry, for you, that you have given your love so freely to a woman that doesn't deserve it. For your own sake, let it go. She is way beyond any help you can give her and you do not need to stay around worrying about how things are going to turn out for her. Without even knowing her personally, I can already tell you....things for her will turn out bad.
2006-11-14 01:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I'm going to be very honest here,as I have seen it first hand ... Walk Away....Yes you love her and want to be with her,but the whole situation is a mess,and you are not going to be able to "clean it up" or "make matters any better".....Find yourself a fullfilling relationship!
2006-11-14 01:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by vanislandwitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save yourself alot of grief, let her go. As hard as it is, you will need to let her live her life even if you dont agree. All you can do is be there for her. She will eventually realize her mistake and youll be there to comfort her. If you decide to. God Bless
2006-11-14 01:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know how the pieces fit together,do you love her enough to do whats good 4 everyone?
2006-11-14 01:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by swashbuckler82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you bet find the new girl friend. she is too old for you and she have the kids you don't want to look after her kids do you
2006-11-14 01:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by 2Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋