Been married for 6 years. I have 2.5 year old whom I adore more than anything or anyone in the world but I'm not happy with my wife and I'm a catholic.My wife has phsycological problem about sex which she neglected to tell me before we got married.Before that, she presented herself as sexually active.I stuck with her, all this while telling her to seek help but she never listen to me.Even while conceiving our son, it was very clinical and stressful for both of us.I grew to resent her for witholding this info from me and for her not taking seeking help(she's not abused in any way by the way).Recently, I've fallen in love with anothe woman.This woman's been very understanding of my problem.My wife found out about our affair and I broke it off. Now my wife wants to get intimate with me, almost forcing herself on me and I can't sense that she's doing it as though it's a chore.I recoil everytime she touches me.. My family wants me to stay with my wife & they are forcing me to do so. So sad.
2006-11-14 01:41:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are an adult---there is no way your family can force you to stay in the marriage. If you were only missing sex with your wife, why not give the marriage another try, for your son's sake? Having an affair was wrong, regardless of the reason. You should both go to marriage counseling and see if you are willing to work on all your marital problems. I agree that your wife was dishonest in not telling you about her sexual problems, but if she is truly ready to work on them, it may be worth a shot. If you are so repulsed by her that you do not want to try, then you should divorce her and move on. Your family does not live you life, so they should butt out.
2006-11-14 01:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The both of you need help. Get counseling and NOW before anymore hard feeling come into play. Regardless of what she did or didn't tell you, you are married to her and have a commitment to her, do everything in your power to make it work, and then if all else fails after you have exhausted every avenue then think of a separation or divorce. You are wrong for putting yourself into the position to fall in love with another woman when you have a wife and a child. Your wife obviously loves you if she is trying to give you the physical things you need. Seek help for yourself, your wife and the welfare of your son. Don't wait another second!
2006-11-14 01:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can force you to stay in a marriage. If you have chosen to stay it is your decision. If you are mature enough to be married you are certainly mature enough to make your own decisions regarding your marriage. Sounds like you need marriage counseling to me. A neutral 3rd party to mediate is a great way to work through your problems. If you still love her, then do the work to make it happen,,,if not then be honest with her and move on with your life. I think you are the only one who can make this decision...it's your life! Think about your future and your child.
2006-11-14 01:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can they force you? It's your life. You are a man. It sounds like you want a divorce. If you do, you should get one. I would. Your family will get over being mad at you. They aren't the one that has to live with her.
2006-11-14 06:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8Love never fails...
2006-11-14 17:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to decide what you really want. it's mean to tell you to leave the 2.5yrs old. the kid needs both parents.
2006-11-15 04:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by Apricot Brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand her emotion.>
2006-11-14 16:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by AH HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋