Now a days my husband fantasize wife swapping during love making. I am very worried, what I should do?

Question

I got married before 8 years. We have very happy married life, but now a days during love making my husband fantasize about wife swapping including his best friend and wife. Does wife swapping exist in real life? Has any body real experience of it...? I am very worried. Please help me.

Answer 1

Here is my advice
First sex is at least 75% mental, Your husband is just trying to spice up your sex life. During sex he probably does like the thought of wife swapping but before and after he would probably not want to try it. The easy way to tell this is ask the question. Does he talk about it when you are not having sex or just when the hormones are flowing during sex? What my wife and I agreed to was this " What we say during sex is not to be taken seriously and only meant to be fantasy" That is a perminate agreement. So we are both fee to bring up all sorts of things during sex without having to worry about how the other will feel about it. It make the fantasy's more real but safe.

Answer 2

Yes It Is Out There, Same As Swingers. He Might Be Haveing His Mid Life Crisis. Let Him Have His Fantasy, If You Do It, You Might Open Up A Gate Way That You Cant Close. Unless You Feel Comfortable With The Idea, Dont Do It. To Many STD's In The World, Thats A Life Time Sentence As You Know.

Answer 3

Yes it does exist and there are many that do it. BUT that is NOT real love when someone does it. It is just a form of cheating. If my husband or bf ever wanted to do this, I'm afraid that they would find them selves alone as I am old fashion and I do not believe in that sort of thing, that is telling me that I am not enough for him and he wants a "little strange" so no I will not be a part of it. I know 2 family's that it has totally destroyed their family's because of it. I can not and will not visualize my self with another man other than my partner. I think that people are loosing the real meaning behind love making. They are acting more and more like animals. But to each is their own.

Answer 4

You should be worried. All of you could get real hurt and possibly end your friendships or marriages. Could you really look at your husband the same way knowing he had sex with someone else? How will you feel letting another man have sex with you? Will you wonder if your husband liked her body better than yours? Did she do sexual things to him better than you ever did and will he want to do her more and more now that you let him do it once? Does he love you enough to just fantasize and not actually do it? I know this is no help but all these questions and more will be on your mind after the damage has been done. Think!!

Answer 5

Let me guess he gets off on you being with someone else. I can tell you it is a fantasy he doesn't really want, he just gets off on it to say it outloud. Go with it but only verbally watch a porn and tell him what all happened but insert yourself in as the girl, but reassure him it is all talk or you will turn him into a real jealous man. If isn't you he wants with someone else, it is him wanting another woman than you be the other woman. I can assure you there is not allot of differences other than attitude and I am sure the guys will agree. Do you some kegals(wikopedia it) use a vinegar based douche' and sit in cold water before you go to meet him let me tell you he will think he just popped your cherry for the first time. I can assure this will keep your marriage together no matter what he says honestly and deep down he don't want you with another man and you can be his other woman if you want to

Answer 6

Yes wife-swapping does exist in our world. But I would caution against participating in this activity since it's unhealthy for most families and married couples and can result in disaster. If you are seriously considering this road, I would recommend that you two seek council from a professional before going through with it.

Answer 7

Virtually every man who has ever lived has had this fantasy at one time or another. It's usually just harmless fantasizing, but yes, some couples have actually gotten into what is called "the lifestyle" and exchange partners regularly with like-minded couples. Many have regretted it, but others - a distinct minority of those who've tried it - have made it an ongoing part of their lives. Simply put - it's not for everyone.
Let your husband know you don't mind a little bit of fantasizing, but let him know your limits. One thing you might think about trying is role-playing. You pretend to be the other woman - dress, talk and act like her when you and hubby get romantic. Pretend that you're that other woman even through actual intercourse. Or get him to pretend he's the other guy; that you're having intense intercourse with a man other than your husband. Quite a few couples, especially older couples, find this kind of role-playing really enhances their relationship with each other. Some go even further, going for instance to the extreme of planning out a complex kidnap/seduction/rape fantasy, where the husband "kidnaps" a woman (his wife, of course), drags her off to some secluded spot and ravishes her.
The couple needs to be very comfortable with each other in order for this sort of thing to work. She needs to admit, for one thing, that women have fantasies about men other than their spouses as often as men have such fanasies.
If this sort of thing is possible for the two of you, go slow. If you jump right into wild, abandoned role-playing, it's easy for one partner - usually the wife - to feel overwhelmed - to feel used and marginalized. He especially needs to understand how toxic that can be to a marriage. If he's unwilling to be very patient and understanding, then perhaps you need to consider whether you're comfortable remaining in a relationship with him.
By the way - hubby's best friend and wife may well NOT know of his fantasy and may well NOT be in the least enthused about it were they to know! Especially the wife! And - it often turns out that hubby finds that actually living out his fantasy does not in reality thrill him quite the way he imagines it. It's one thing to daydream about his wife naked and writhing in passion beneath another man, it's quite different to actually witness it happening! Again - try to accept that hubby likes to daydream - but don't be reluctant to set the limits you're comfortable with.

Answer 8

Oh yes it does exist but it is something you should not do unless you and your husband are really into it. You need to both have a ton of trust in your own relationship before you even consider it. You also have to make sure that in your mind and in his you can separate sex from emotion. That said you have to realize that people fantasize about a lot of things they never plan to make real. I think women do this a lot more then men.

Answer 9

Yea wife swappign does exist and more and more people are experiencing it. Me and my wife have enjoyed it the past couple of years. We have an agreement that we both have to be together to play and we usually go to swinging clubs to play. There you only play when you want too. It can spice up a sex life. Usually me and wife swap and then when we go home we have some of the best sex ever telling each other how it was with that other person.

Answer 10

Yeah, I know the feeling. My husband started that same thing, I have no idea who put it in his head. He became obsessed with it and would mention everyday. Soon it became very annoying and he started coming up with ultimatums. He said that he wanted to start swinging and if I didn't he was gonna cheat. Well needless to say my dumb *** went along with it and we now have been separated for 7 months. We were into swinging for 2 years and I fell in love with another man and am now living with him. So all I can say is that it sounds like he is bored with you and if you are bored with him then do it. If y'all are happily married and want to stay together i dont suggest swinging. We were not happily married, he was a controlling and abusive A**hole, so It worked out for the better in my case. I am now in a great relationship with a man that I truly love and that loves me back.