my son is almost 11 and we think that he might being bullied at school, he has come home with some bruises and a scratch on his face but when we ask him about it he told us that he think he tripped in the bathroom or he said my friend acciddently pushed me or something like that.we think he is being bullied but he won't tell us, he has always honest with us in a tough situation but this is the first time in his life that is he in this situation.and i don't know where to begin to discuss with him.he gets along with everyone in his class and if something arises his teacher emails us about it.
2006-11-14 01:30:53 · 19 answers · asked by snobboy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Make up fake a fake story that you were also getting bullied and get him to share his feelings, and have an open talk with you. Tell the teachers, or put a tape recorder in his backpack or somewhere he would not notice and you will find out all about his characteristics and problems. Try to tell teachers if you can't do and tell them to keep an eye for that or make your son stand up, and not let be weak, or do something for a day see your son hiddenly, and when someone tries to bully him come and rescue him and scold the other kids.
Getting freed form a bully is one of the hardest thing in the world you know...
2006-11-14 02:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by The Calculus Alchemist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest talking further with your teacher and explain the situation to her so that she can keep an extra special eye out for the culprit. Me son is also Eleven. We have taught him to respect others but not to let others push him around. We have taught him fighting is no good but to defend himself non the less if someone picks on him. We came across a similar situation with our son. Scratches, bruises and lame excuses as to why. We finally found out after some careful prodding (Be gentle) that the bully was not a Boy but a girl. She liked him and this was her way of showing it. I think he liked her too because he kind of stuck up for her. Each child is different and God knows there are enough bully's out there to pick on our children. I hope this helps and Good luck.
2006-11-14 01:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's true that kids tend to hide theses things and from what my 14 yr. old tells me there's not a lot that can't be hidden from a teacher. I don't know how large of a school he attends, whether public or private. He may be afraid of being singled out even more by telling.I would alert his teachers,if you haven't already, and have them to keep a closer but silent eye. Also if you know of any of his friends or friends of yours with children his age who may be able to observe him during school, sometimes girls will be quicker to give up the answers and always ask for them to be discreet on the matter
2006-11-14 03:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by maudie gras 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he have any "good" friends in his class? If so ask them on the QT if someone has been giving him a hard time OR if you don't want to mention your son, ask them if there is/are bullies in their grade or at the school.
Trust me! One of your son's friends or classmates Has a big mouth. You just have to find out Who the little gossip Is and ask that person. After that, THEY'LL do All the taking!
Good luck and Good hunting!
2006-11-14 08:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by thart090 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
May be your son is being bullied by a gang so don;t ask him to fight back, these days you never know what will happen. Just ask few of his friends and go talk to the teacher or principal. Act before its late.
2006-11-14 02:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by Sun2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this happened to my first daughter. She was being bullied by some boy. I was taught that boys or men that hit, bully, or abuse women are cowards. I told my daughter that when he comes to you the next time to make the tightest fist she could, reach back into her mothers womb, and punch him in his eye. Her mom found out and she told me that the boy and his parents have family problems. I told her that they could have all the problems in the world, but they have no right to take it out on our daughter. In psychology, when one takes their anger out on something other than what caused it is called displaced aggression. I don't tolerate that from others and teach my children not to either.
Tell your son to go to the boy and ask him to leave him alone because he is not there to fight, but to learn. Perhaps your son projects himself as being weak, and we know what happens to the weak. Talk to the boys parents, and hopefully that will solve the problem. It didn't work for me, and my daughter ended up giving he bully a black eye and he doesn't bother her anymore. But that was years ago.
2006-11-14 01:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the school............talk to the teacher and the principal.
This should not be going on. Make sure someone is looking out for him at schoo. Invite friends over for him, talk to his friends, get to the bottom of it. Sounds like he is too scared to tell you. Don' t let him know your going to do your own investigating. Then once you know for sure, you can work it out with him.... on how you and your son will handle the situation.
The teachers should be made aware of your concerns!!!!
Good Luck to you and your Son......He doesn't derseve that, he needs your help!!
2006-11-14 01:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really wants to deal with this himself. You might ask a teacher if they have noticed anything and to just keep a little more careful eye. I assume he's middle school so teachers don't watch things as carefully as in elementary school.
Otherwise, watch for cues from your son.
2006-11-14 04:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by meoorr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 19:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just be playing rough with his friends but it sounds kind of like he is being bullied. Sit him down and ask him..say you won't go to school and say anything..because that is the main reason people don't say.. it's embarrassing.
2006-11-14 01:36:03 · answer #10 · answered by Aaron 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋