we two understand eachother n also a happy couple we have a amazing sex life and we enjoy it always ,the otherday we were having talks about sex and we were on topic threesome and couple sex..as we talk so much on it he askd if we give it a try once with someone faithful to us...it was a new idea for me as i wasnt think about it,,i want to know is that ok to do like that and what do u guys think about it pls help me in this..pls...
2006-11-14 01:21:18 · 28 answers · asked by zoozy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In my personal experience this is not good. Granted I don't know you or your husband, but I had a horrible experience. I'm no longer married to that man and to be honest I think that in several ways those expeirences had something to do with my decision. I"m not saying that this will happen to you, however you should really really really think about it deep down. Consider how it will make you feel, how many times you are gonna do this. He may tell you it will be a one time deal, but afterwards he may push to do it again. I think another factor should be how long have you been married and together total with marriage. Three-somes are great fun, everytime after my ex I wasn't commited to anyone and had the most fun. But being married is so different. If you do think that you can handle seeing him with another woman, and you can be with a woman than you must set some ground rules about what he can and can't do and what you will and won't do. Stick with those rules and let the 3rd person know what they are. He/She must agree to those rules. At anytime if those rules are broken you and/or your husband must stop it. If it is you or him that has broken the rules than I suggest that you never ever consider it again. If the 3rd person is the one at fault polietly tell them the issue and don't start things up again. Make them leave or try to make light of the situation and have some food or something. You and your husband should talk about what happened and decide if you think you want to try again or just be happy with what did happen. You can always pick up where you left off after that person leaves. After you have made some considerations on this you should also sit down with your husband and ask him about his expectations and what he really wants out of the experience. My new husband would never ask me to do that considering he knows what happend before, however he has no problems watching me with anohter girl. He can watch with out joining and knows that a bout with another woman makes me hotter for him. If you are willing you may ask him what he thinks about taking it in steps and how he'd feel watching you first and then maybe you'll feel better about adding a 3rd person with you and him. Good Luck
2006-11-14 01:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by ribbitt_ribbitt_83 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a question that your morality and what YOU think is ok matters more than a 1000 people's opinions.
As a man I'd probably enjoy a threesome experience if the third person was a woman. If it were a man I don't think i'd be nearly as enthusiastic, and don't think i'd enjoy seeing my fiancee doing it with another man.
You claim to have a great sex life so why fix it if it isn't broken?
2006-11-14 09:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you condsider agreeing to a threesome, the first threesome will be with another man and you expect him to engage in oral and anal sex with the other man. And you expect to let yourself go completely with the other man. After the first experience you will decide if you want to have another and with a woman.
This leaves you in control of the situation.
My guess is this will turn him off from the idea of talking you into a threesome with another woman.
2006-11-14 09:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't believe in bringing a third party into a marriage. It only leads to jealousy, anger and resentment. What may be fun for one night will stay in your mind for a long time. Think about seeing your husband kissing another woman.....does it bother you? If not, maybe you are open minded enough to handle it. I just say really think about it first. You are opening your marriage and letting someone else in. I would never do it but that's just me.
2006-11-14 09:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you or your husband tries something like that and he likes it, then it will lead to break down of your relationship with your husband -- since he will be "addicted" to it and will be looking for more. Could be more than threesome? So just leave it as a fantasy and not make it a reality.
: )
2006-11-14 09:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by ytmaya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say it's up to you. If you say no, it's not okay.
I think you should clear up what he means by everything he says, though. What does he mean by someone who is "faithful to the two of you?" Also, I think you should be the one to find the other girl rather than him. That will help avoid problems of jealousy. Talk about what's okay and what isn't before hand.
2006-11-17 10:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all parties are mutually into the idea and have an understanding of what is going to happen then its fine. I think in these cases if you both trust each other and know that at the end of the night and/or in the morning its going to be just the two of you in each others arms loving each other then go ahead...
2006-11-14 09:25:34 · answer #7 · answered by bree_1384 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask him if it would be Ok for you to go have sex with other men while he waits at home...This way you could get used to other men..Then tell him once youre used to other men you will consider him bringing one of his friends over...If he changes his mind and says this is not what he meant, in other words two women and him , you know it is he who desires the other woman..
2006-11-14 15:22:58 · answer #8 · answered by ray b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know some people doing that ,I suppose they are tired of each other though ,I dont mean they dont love each other ,I mean they feel like having variety in their sex lives ,but in your case I dont see any need to go in to this kind of sex as you said you are both are satisfied with each other and have an amazing sex life.up to you anyway.
2006-11-14 09:26:42 · answer #9 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, I assume its with another man so you get all the attention and pleasure...right?
If its with another woman...then its all about his pleasure and fantasy.
The plan will be you both get really drunk and go find some drunker chick who agrees to do it. Its a drunk f**k and you feel shitty the next day and you never really talk about it again.
A threesome really changes the dynamics of your sexual relationship.
Think hard about it.
2006-11-14 09:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by uzurhead 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋