Why and how did it work out? Thanks.
2006-11-14 01:19:44 · 18 answers · asked by turkman g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope.
Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater..............
2006-11-14 01:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm dealing with this right now. I caught her in early September 2006. I was on a rampage for weeks. My trust in her is at absolute zero.
We are going to a counselor and I'm the person doing obvious things to correct this. To date, I have not seen anything different from her. She's acting like nothing ever happened. This thing was done very stealthily and I had NO idea it was going on however, there were signs.
She would start arguments over stupid stuff. Yell at the kids for no reason. Stiff me on the love making. Always tell me she was tired. I was always the blame for every problem in the house. These are obvious signs, I simply never thought it would happen.
She's also incapable of maintaining her finances and has tricked me into paying off her bills OVER and OVER and OVER!
I don't know what's really going to happen. My love for her has been compromised by this treachery. Time will tell.
2006-11-14 09:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did. But it did not work out. Although I loved him very much and still do things were never the same. There was not any trust and the fighting just got worse. Every realtionship is different. If you are debating whether or not to stay if your spouse has cheated, my advice to you is to try and forgive. Sometimes love and time overcomes. Trust your heart.
2006-11-14 09:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by lysa t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we stayed together. we were married for 4 years at the time, just had a baby. I figured something was going on and he assured me nothing wasnt, then I found evidence (emails) between her and him. I confronted him and moved out with the kids that same night. He begged me to come home.He was sorry, he apologized, he even went as far as saying how he would make it up to me.I came home after a couple of weeks. For a couple of years after the cheating, he would call me constantly, let me know where he was at, at all times, gave me all the passwords to his email or any other accounts. He wanted my trust back. It took me a while to reagain that trust. He knew that he hurt me badly I was depressed for a long while. He helped me through that. In fact, we made our marriage stronger.
He did ALOT to make it up to me. We have now just celebrated our 11 anniversary..I am happy that we fix it..He will never do it again.
2006-11-14 10:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did stay, it continued for about 2 years before I worked up the courage to leave. I filed for divorce shortly after that. He never had much to do with the two sons we had together and he still doesn't to this day. He stayed with the girl that he cheated on me with for a while but then cheated on her and has now remarried a different girl. I have since met the most wonderful man in the world, married him, had a son with him and we all are very happy. My husband treats our two older sons, who are not biologically his, as his own. Things couldn't be better!
2006-11-14 10:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by ddbach1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Still am with her. She still is cheating almost daily. We have a severely disabled child and she is the stay at home mom. I would not be able to work if I left her and took my son and I do not want to leave him. So I put up with her cheating.
Believe it or not it is kind of working out. She is like 1,000 percent better in bed totally uninhibited now. She has fulfilled every fantasy I have had in the bedroom including bringing another woman in the bed to share.
Now unfortunately I am not as emotionaly attached as I used to be...
2006-11-14 11:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have. At first there was alot of resentment, hatred, and bitterness, all results of unforgiveness. But as time went on and my husband actually saw the wrong in his ways, an re-dedicated his life to Christ, me, and our family he has made a complete 180. The person who cheated in the relationship has to want to change, not just because they got caught which is usually the case.
2006-11-14 09:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I stayed the first time. When I found out about the second time I gave him the boot.It is always hard to trust when someone loses your trust. Someone once told me once a cheater always a cheater, I now believe it.
2006-11-14 09:24:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did stay but she continued the affair. we filed for divorce 6 weeks after i found out.
2006-11-14 09:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, we got divorced.....and after 14 years...he decided I wasn't
so bad after all....we've been back together for 11 years now
and I love him with all my heart and soul...people make mistakes
it depends on how much you want the relationship to work
2006-11-14 09:23:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It didn't. They will always do it again and you will never forget about the first time. Trust is gone. Don't torture yourself. I wish I had called it quits the first time.
2006-11-14 09:23:38 · answer #11 · answered by micg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋