you cant control the way you feel about this person...life is so complicated!!
2006-11-14 01:13:41 · 56 answers · asked by Lydia K 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think I'm in love with Bob......what should I do?
Do you think I have any chance? I may be small, fat and very hairy, but I'm faithful and have a great personality.
The postman is terrified of me, but he's a complete wuss.
2006-11-21 02:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I have liked this guy for 6 years. I can't ask him out..I wouldn't put his employment contract at risk. He is the complete opposite to me. Even though I care for him very much...I wouldn't go there, cause it would cause trouble...apart from the fact that I don't know if he is married, gay, single or what.
I am winning through. I said I would close that door and I have. I am nearing the end of my contract of employment...I haven't seen him in ages...he is still at work though, which is good. I planned to walk away and not even say goodbye...cause I can't. Coward I know!
But a mutual friend has invited me to a conference which me and this bloke are giving papers (we will probably end up on the same panel -typical!) I am fed up with this...I shut him out and he comes back! ARRAGGGH!! The bad thing is...he has always been nice to me and pleased to see me...but my feelings for him are sometimes so overwelming they scare me. I do feel a bit guilty being a coward, but I feel I have no other choice.
2006-11-14 07:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right that you can't control how you feel. But that, in itself, does not make life complicated. What makes life complicated is doing the wrong thing. A small person yields to his every desire, whether it be food, booze, cigarettes, drugs, sex, whatever. A person with integrity must fight hard to retain it. Remember, you are the one who will have to live not only with the consequences as they affect others' lives as well as yours, but you will also have to live with yourself. It's a lot easier on yourself when you do the right thing. It is its own reward.
2006-11-14 18:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes hun, women ofetn find themselves having feelings for a man that is already involved with someone else......I wonder sometimes whether thats what makes them more attractive!
You just have to grasp that you can't act on these feelings and try to focus your attention else where....for gods sake don't let him know...............
Either you will end up having an encounter with him..regret it totally but ending up having a full blown affair and definately get HURT
or
You will look and feel like a fool when he tells you the obvious,....that he loves someone else
Get over it babe........you are in a no win situation.
2006-11-14 01:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by EMA 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am right now and I've been married for 31 years !!!! I met him on Friends reunited and we use to go to school together. Met three years ago and now email because life is so complicated, as he has some-one and obviously I do, BUT I'm in love with him all the same. One can't help how they feel. Life's a ***** !!!
2006-11-14 01:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by piggy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes, yes, yes!!! I was in love with this guy that had a girlfriend. She was a cancer survivor and he couldn't find a way to leave her. Once I put myself under control and stopped looking/calling for him, I met someone that I fell in love with. But it didn't stop there, he continued chasing me it was really a messed up situation. Life really is complicated..
2006-11-14 01:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by krystal c 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure - a few times. Sorry but you don't really give enough of an example for offering advice.
However, you're right, life is complicated. Better that than dull tho!
Good luck
2006-11-18 02:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by charlie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. I got in a lot of trouble with this guy. Then my mom finally told me that love doesn't threaten. And that is true. I didn't want to leave the guy but I had to that was the only thing I could do a boy is not worth all the trouble you have to g through just to show that guy that you love them. If they truly loved you then they would show it.
2006-11-14 01:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES, I have been with him since high school and he's that best man. He takes care of me! I have no control for the love I feel for him and it gets stronger everyday! I love him alot!
together 13 / married 6
2006-11-14 01:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes indeed, much younger than me, but that does not preclude having feelings for her. I know her very well and we have a very good working relationship, I am also happily married with a fairly grown up family, so I do not have any inclination to pursue the matter. One cannot but help wondering "What if..." though!.
2006-11-15 01:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Err, a few times. Ok, the last four times I've fallen in love.
First two times, I fell in love with one of my sister's mates. Each time, they came on to me and things started from there. (Wish my sis would believe me, though. She still hates me for it.)
The last two times, I fell in love with someone from work. Things just got awkward between us, and I can't look at them straight now. First one left (she was on a work placement) and the second works at our offices, but works for the council And she probably wouldn't look at me twice anyway.
BTW, if I hear another violin when I tell people this, I'll snap the freaking strings.
Have a nice day.
2006-11-14 01:27:42 · answer #11 · answered by HiFi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋