pls help me abort my 4 mos fetus in my womb.. my parents will kill me if they knew it. =(?

Question

i don't want to get pregnant. but then it came to me, and now i'm in big trouble to my parents. i'm still 17 yrs old. and i'm still studying. i don't want to fail the trust of my parents to me. and i don't want to stop schooling. pls help me.

Answer 1

the first mistake you made was not using birth control now do not make the second the first thing you should do is speak with your parents and i am sure after the initial dissapointment and most probably anger they will have to accept, your situation, abortion at this stage is not the answer to solve your problem, it will make matters worse, you could continue your education through corrospondence or take a few months break and you could resume it later, your seventeen you will loose a years of education but it could save your life and the life of the child your now carrying, at four months the child is nearly full baby which will move very shortly aborting now will kill the baby and you can loose your own life too, not only that ths may affect your mentally later,
there are many women in the world that are barren and pray for a miracle to have a child you are a lucky woman that had the ability to conceive but you misused that ability by not practising birth control, you can always give the baby up for adoption,remember you are responsible for your own act and you should take the responsibility for it,the first step is tell your mom , remember one mistake does not call for second one.
i pray to god for your safety and for your parents to support you,

Answer 2

Sweetie, get some counselling. Whatever happens this is a huge decision and sorry to say, it will always be with you either way. Take a bit more time to think.

It's OK to be scared- most of us are when we're pregnant. Think about your decision very, very carefully. I wanted my baby at age 30 and I was still petrified. Things look so frightening now but in time you will probably see it differently. It will be the same about telling your parents - it seems petrifying now but once you ride out the initial shock it will be 'old news'. I think you should tell them because it will increase your options and hopefully give you the support you need, as much as they may not be happy at first to hear the news. I don't think that this is something you can 'cover up' because it will change you and you do need proper medical help which will be very hard to hide.

Technically I don't know if it's "too late" but I think the risks for you must be pretty high and this is certainly something you need to get professional help with if you decide to go through with it. Whatever you do don't try to end the pregnancy yourself- you could hurt yourself very seriously. From the other perspective the foetus is well-developed and responding to the world at this stage and as hard as it is to hear this you need to acknowledge that and really take them into your decision.

What does the father of the child think? Will he support you if you have the child?

Sweetie....this is one of those times you need to consider 'what is the worst thing that can happen?'. Maybe it's not disappointing your parents. Maybe they will surprise you after the shock has worn off and be very supportive, forgiving and understanding. Maybe you finish your schooling a little later? Is that really the end of the world? I know a lot of people who did it very successfully...Maybe you move out, but hey, you're 17 - you can cope with that. Maybe even really enjoy it. Really, it may not be as bad as you thought.

And even so, you will spend a lot more of your life regretting a bad decision than you will spend worrying about what your parents think of you.

Take care of yourself. Keep yourself safe whatever happens.Get counselling. Don't make a quick decision. Trust in your parents - at least give them a chance- they may surprise you! If you were them wouldn't you want to know about your daughter's health and safety? This is also their grandchild and they would probably want to know. Maybe have a backup plan like a friend's house where you can stay for a few days until their first reaction passes? - and it will pass. Trust me on that.

Good luck sweetie.

Answer 3

Sweetie,i encourage you not to take this action.Later down the road,it will haunt you.You will always think about the "What If's".There are other alternatives to abortion,and i urge you to look at those.Please,do not abort this child.Your parents are not going to "Kill you".At first,they may seem disappointed,but in five months when this child is born they will have came around.Be realistic,every mother wants her daughter to go to college,marry a doctor,and have a family.Sometimes,it happens in a different order than planned but it doesnt mean you cant achieve your dreams and goals.This child is a blessing,and even if you do not see it now,you will realize that once this child is born.Now,having said that,in my opinion there are two options.Abortion is not one of those options,but thats my opinion.
Your first option is adoption.There are so many familys who long for the love of a child yet they cant seem to conceive themselves.They would love the child reguardless as to what the circumstances were in which it was brought into this world.They would love this child like their own.They have what is called an "Open Adoption".This simply means you keep in contact with the child throughout his/her life and you keep in touch with pictures,email,phone calls,and visits even.
You also have the option to keep this child.It will be hard,and your parents may seem a little "disappointed" at first but it isnt impossible to do.You can keep this child and your family will come around.It wont be easy,but with help you can do so.You can continue to go to school and get a job.It isnt impossible,as many females do it daily.
Now,ultimately this is your decision.No one can force you into any decision that you do not want.Speak to your family and the father of your unborn child,take their opinion into consideration.Do not allow them to make you do anything,but consider what they have to say and then make the decision.Normally,i would say you have 9 months to make this decision,however in this situation you have 5.Which is still a pretty decent amount of time to make a choice.Dont rush into a decision,but consider each aspect of each choice.Remember,they arent going to kill you so you need to put that thought out of your mind.
Right now you should be getting some form of prenatal care.So,i urge you to go to an obgyn in your area because they must make sure you and your child are in good health.Good luck hun,and have a good day.

Answer 4

Abortion in the Philippines is illegal. I don't think it will be easy for you to get a doctor to perform abortion on yourself. Tell your parents NOW. There are always consequences to everything that you choose to do. Do the right thing.

Plus at 4 mos--if you should get the chance to see the ultrasound, the baby is already formed with an active, fully functioning heart. Just something you should know.

Answer 5

Having an abortion this far along is not what you think. It would have to be partial-birth which may or may not even be legal where you live.

Last week I miscarried a second trimester child, let me tell you there is nothing worse then giving birth to severely premature child. The last thing you want to do is have it killed on the way out.

I'm pro-choice but partial birth is just wrong honey, you've waited too long to deal with this. Start thinking about adoption.

Answer 6

sweet heart abortion is not the way to go! and besides it's too late anyways to get that done.if your parents love you, they will help you get through this. you can still finish school, and have a baby. but if you really do not want the child that you are carrying inside you then think of adoption that would probably be the best choice. most of all you need to tell your parents what is going on so they can help you make the right decision. just remember they love you you can trust them to help you.

Answer 7

You don't have to stop school just because you are pregnant and if your parents kill you then the problem is solved , right? It is to late to have an abortion, you will just have to live with the consequences and give the baby up for adoption. The life of a child is more important than disappointing your parents!

Answer 8

I wish you didn't feel that way. God gave you that baby in your womb. I don't care how old you are. You had sex and now you are pregnant. This is just one point in your life. You need to face your parents. You will face much more problems in your life. If you get an abortion this could lead to more problems in the future. No one prefect, go to your parents. I got pregnant with my first when I was 17 and in 11th grade. After I had the baby, I had about 3/4th of my senior yr left. You don't have to stop schooling. I didn't! My mom helped me and found a baby sitter and also my friend when she had hers got a private turter from school. They will work with you. Just remember that your parents will be mad with you at first but remember I said it is just a point in your life. Plus you are almost 18, why are you so scared?

PLEASE PLEASE don't get an abortion, got to your parents and your doctor!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good luck!

Answer 9

4 months is a little too far for an abortion...i dont know if its actually too late but it would be for me...why didnt u do this right away...and also i was 16 when i was pregnant and i told my parents, they didnt kill me, yes of course they were upset but after a week they were excited...and u dont have to stop school...i went to my regular high school until i was 8 months then 2 months after having her i went to a school for teen mothers, where they let u bring ur baby to a day care thats actually in the school, and i graduated early, so dont think life ends at having a baby!!!

Answer 10

You don't have to quit school, and you don't have to loose your parents confidence. Now that you are pregnant, you have done the adults thing, you had sex, FACE THE CONSECUENCES, so what you are saying is that you'd rather kill that baby instead of your parents killing you? That is a weak statement. Look, tell your parents about it, have the baby and give it up for adoption. There is help!!