I recently found out the guy I thought was my sons father isnt. I was married not to the guy mentioned above. I am divorced now and having plans to remarry the same guy i told him about what i found out about my son and I told him I had no idea i was pregnant before I went to my duty station and that i am getting a paternity test done for the other guy soon. So why is he extremely pissed off at me? and should I remarry him or just move on.. oh I do love him dearly. is there anything i can do to fix it or make him feel better?
2006-11-14 00:08:03 · 8 answers · asked by marla b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok my child isnt by my ex husband( he knows this) the guy i thought was my sons father isnt i told my ex husband this and he is mad at me. my sons real father is from a previous relationship before I even reported to me duty station. so my ex husband knows that my son isnt his, it just the fact that i found out that the guy who i thought was my sons father isnt.
2006-11-14 00:31:30 · update #1
I don't know if there's anything you can do to "fix" things or make him feel better but the best advice I can give you is to give him TIME to absorb the information and process the emotions he's feeling. Keep the lines of communication open and realize that his feelings are valid in his mind. Give him the opportunity to talk about how he's feeling without judging him and let him vent if he needs to. Unless the two of you talk this over, with level heads, it's only going to fester. Good luck with your future and remember...what's meant to be will be...what's not, won't.
2006-11-14 00:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Maggie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear...well...we don't want to get into the should-of, would-of, could-of(s)...because the past can not be changed.
But - why is he so pissed at you? HELLO! Did you actually read what you typed or are you in your own world?
If you want to be with him...and he wants to be with you...it will all work out. You just need to keep in mind that he has a lot to deal with too...and he is dealing with this because you have made some choices that he has to come to terms with.
Now. on the flip side...he has the choice too...he could just leave and not have to deal with it at all...
But he seems like he is a good enough man to look beyond your situation right now...but please understand why he is upset.
2006-11-14 08:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by ladydrea2918 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he thought he had a child by you and now all of the sudden your telling him it might be someone elses, why would he not be pissed off? This is something that will take time to work out! Tell him how much you love him and how you do want to be married to him and just try to work it out!
2006-11-14 08:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things really don't go Our way but one thing is for sure that baby in your tummy is the best thing that will ever happen to you so if he accepts you then Thanks to him that way you and your child can have a happy family if not then it's his loss coz Joseph the carpenter accepted Jesus even if he doesn't know who is the father... It's like accepting you for who you are and besides you can find another person to love you but a child that came from your own body and flesh... No one can beat that
2006-11-14 08:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by fhe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you got yourself into a big mess of a situation..
1st thing, get that paternity test done..
2nd thing, make the best decision for both your son's and your future..if this guy is that upset and will never let you live it down, do you want to spend the rest of your life with a guy who is always angry and reminding you that you hurt him?
Your best bet might be just to move on and start over with someone new...
2006-11-14 08:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST FIND THE PERSON YOU WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH .
MARRY THEN HAVE A FAMILY .
2006-11-14 08:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he is not the one with the problem.
2006-11-14 08:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u wont get periods
2006-11-14 08:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by anjali_luckygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋