what do i do?

Question

i am pregnant and with my violent partner about 10 weeks ago my partner beat me up and i had a misscarrige but now i have found out i am prenant agian and am so scared he will do it again any advice anyone can give me please

Answer 1

hello sabrina you know how i feel about the situation, I have told you to leave him but it is up to you whether you do or not. Stay as far away from him as possible, i know he works down the road and you can't avoid going to the place he works as it is our local. Do this for a week and see what happens:
*Avoid his texts
*don't answer if he calls you
*go to our local shop and don't even look at him, just ignore him
* if he says can we meet because we need to talk , say no.
love ya baby girl. x

Answer 2

He will do it again - it is a pattern of behavior that doesn't stop until he is arrested, killed or gets some serious help. And it is not unusual for a woman to keep staying with violent partners - especially if a woman has experienced violence in her home growing up and/or if a woman does not have good support from family and friends. So, you have to be realistic, brave and ready for a change. First, you have to accept that your partner has a serious problem and you are in big danger. Second, you have to reach out for help (like you are doing now) from people who will help you if you let them. This means going to a shelter, a friend's home, to the police, to family, etc. as soon as possible, before you get hurt again or killed. Don't worry about your pregnancy right now - look after yourself first. Third, be prepared to make a life change in order to get out of this situation.
Please get help right away! Best wishes to you.

Answer 3

If you want to have the baby, then you will need to leave him. There are LOTS of places you can go. A simple internet search will help you. Also, your family and friends will be INVALUABLE during something like this. Start by going to them and then the police. Get a restraining order or an apprehended violence order to keep him away from you - if he breaks it, he can land in jail.

If you can't go to family or friends, then a women's shelter or a police station is your best bet. Even a hotel or motel would be a better place than with a man who abuses you.

Good luck with everything

Answer 4

LEAVE HIM NOW!! Stop having sex with him!! Get the hell out of there are go to a family members home or a shelter.. it is very very very important that you do this now. Also contact the police and tell them what has been going on so you can fill out a police report so they can have this on record. Also, get a restraining order. If he lands a hand on you again and you call the police, which you should, they have to arrest him and he will go to jail for the night until he is charged. Do it now!

Answer 5

if he did it once, he will do it again. what advice are u exactly looking for? u know what everyone is going to say basically, leave him and get a restraining order. take pics and document all incidences.
i apologize for the sarcasm but these kinds of questions just irritate me because u know what u got to do.

u can google "domestic violence", there are tons of sites out there that will give u all the information u need. your local police station, church or place of employment can also help u get your self together.

Answer 6

you shouldnt have gone back with him after the first time..... sorry but its true.
if he makes threats or anything then contact the police n tell them the situation that way they can put a order on him wich will mean he has to stay away from you.... do u want a baby? if u do but dont dares cuz of this ex! then the ex situation needs to be sorted out first but at the same time look after your self and your baby... im sure u will be a gret mum xxx congrats xxx

Answer 7

i would tell him and if he says anything bad i would go and get a order out on him so he cant go near u if he does he will get done for harasment that is the only way u are going to go thro with it bbz but be strong and dont let him hurt u again cos u deserve better than that and u know you do bbz i will always be thetre for u no matter what xxxxxxxxx

Answer 8

you need to leave, but when you leave don't go back! b/c then people won't think you are serious and then they won't help you again. i wouldn't tell him that you are pregnant if you want to keep this one. you need to go down to the police dept. and make reports press charges include that he beat you up and made you miscarry. leave get as far away as you can, if he did it once he will do it again. if you let a man take control of you like that he knows he can and will at any time he wants too. please think of your child growing up in that kind of enviroment, if it's a girl she'll she that happening to you and think it's ok for a guy to beat up on her. if it's a boy then he will see that it's ok to beat on a girl and either way that's not a healthy enviroment for a child to be in. and whose to say that he won't beat on your child think of that. that has major effects on children later on in life especially in their relationships. your a woman, your strong, you can be independent without him. you need to find a man, not a boy who thinks he's a man just he can beat on a woman. LEAVE HIM!!! file charges please if not for you for your unborn child!

Answer 9

Please for you and your baby get away from him. The next time he gets violent he may end up killing you and the baby. I hope you have parents are family that can help. If not I would call the police and get a restraing order.

Answer 10

I could give u no advice, because u must decide what you are gonna do...maybe it's a time to leave him...he's violent so...