My guy and I have known each other for 3years now... He split up with his gf in the beginning of this year after he found out she had cheated on him with his mate last year, after the break up she found out she was pregnant... Me and my guy have talked about moving in together... We know we get on well as time has told these past few months as we've been so close, closer than ever... He is still close to his ex as she is having his baby, and I don't want to get in the way of that, he said he doesn't want to be with her. Should we move in together or not do you think? I think it would be nice if we did and then the baby can come and stay with us when he/she is born, and come for weeknds to see daddy, I think it will be well cool... Or is it a bad idea moving in together?
2006-11-13 23:51:59 · 10 answers · asked by me_me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Was it your boyfriends idea to move in or yours? This is not clear. If it's his idea and you're happy to move in then go for it. If this is something that you're pushing for because he's about to have a baby then I suggest you back off and let him decide when he's ready. You say the ex has cheated on him. Is he sure this is his child?
2006-11-14 01:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember a few things....the ex will be a part of his life for at least the next 18 years so you will have to learn to develop a relationship with her. It will take alot of patience and understanding on your part. If you feel you can handle it then go ahead and move in together. Alot of people fight over these things, but I think if you keep an open mind and have an open line of communication with your man, it can work out. I wish you the best.
2006-11-14 09:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, if you both feel it is the right thing to do then go for it...but moving in together is hard as well, there will be bills to pay and getting to know each others habits and if you are feeling down or moody you cant just leave and go home...but if you still think it will work out then great also remember you will have to cope with him seeing his ex and being a dad and all sorts of emotions going on in his heart and head...if you feel you are secure enough in your relationship and trust him one hundred percent then things should be good...but you don't want to be thinking he is seeing his ex behind your back or be having a go at him for spending time with his ex to see the baby and neglecting you.
2006-11-14 08:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, it's your life to do as you please with, but people with baggage, especially if you have none, can kill a relationship real fast. Commitment is hard enough, living together and being as one, not two, takes a lot ot work. What kind of a life are you looking at with a guy that had a child, not married and moving on to another person, you, like it's just another day. I'm sorry but that's not my version of true, committed love......
2006-11-14 07:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love each other then why wait?go for it+enjoy.Ive read some of your other questions+its sweet your sticking by your man+he obviously loves you v much but its hard work when a baby from another relationship is involved.So just dont build yourself up for cosy nights in with him+the baby at weekends it rarely runs that smoothly.Ive had relationships with men that have kids+i also have kids so i know.Hope it all goes well for you huni x
2006-11-14 08:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Nellynoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're completely sure that he won't go back with her, i think it would be fine. i'd like to move in with my best friend who is of the opposite sex. we've hooked up a few times, but still just friends.
just always be aware of their relationship. don't stalk or evesdrop on them, but occasionally ask, how is she and the baby doing?
2006-11-14 07:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly think it would be a bad idea at the moment as who knows what your bf will think once the baby is born. is it def his as you said she cheated on him
just watch you dont get hurt being caught in this
x
2006-11-14 07:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by izzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no go for it just make sure that u set the ground rules before u go ahead i.e is it okay if your boyfreinds ex comes over, things like that need to be decided first! goodluck!
2006-11-14 07:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by foxy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no good idea. i respect you for being so open about this and so caring towards your partner. i would talk to him and see what he says. i think he will be so takien back he will love you even more!!
2006-11-14 07:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by Kirsty N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its a bad ideal wait til u get married
2006-11-14 08:04:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋