...confrontational. i think the english reserve causes most people to bite their tongue and not say anything, which might be why the wearers feel they can proceed as they like.
what i find myself doing is staring straight past them, which they can pick up on...but why should i avert my gaze? i suppose more agressive types will give them an evil stare, and force them to avert their gaze, but i dont want to do this: i am not objecting to them as a person- all i want to convey is that i find their hiding of the face to be objectionable and offensive to my culture.
is this a case where openness is the best policy, and i should say what i feel to their face...and hang the consequences, maybe i could write a short sentence on a piece of paper and hand one to each person i come across..or should i complain to the people in charge of the local mosque?
what other options can people suggest to make these people aware of the offence they are causing me, without resorting to any form of viole
2006-11-13 22:50:41 · 14 answers · asked by catweazle 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
That is why these woman wear the veil - so men especially will not look at them so in that case its done its job. I do however like you find it very offensive as this is not part of our culture and many of my ancestors fought and died so I and the majority of people in this country could enjoy our own culture and freedom. Perhaps we should make it law that this cannot be worn and if these people cannot abide by that law they could return to their own culture where it is law.
2006-11-13 23:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You know I am really sorry you feel this way. I do wear the veil and don't see why you have a problem with it. But I do understand the feeling of being offended by something someone is wearing. Like when I see a t-shirt that says Fu-ck Islam. If I can say something with out causing a big problem I do. So if you have a problem and say something to the person in a respectful way then by all means do. I have had people say things to me and I just let them have their say. They are entitled to feel how they do, and I am entitled to feel how I do and wear what I want.
2006-11-14 07:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by Umm Ali 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you realise that this is all about your discomfort? What you should do is ask yourself why this makes you so uncomfortable and what you can do to get over it. It is far easier to change yourself than to force an entire sub-culture to alter itself.
One thing that westerners don't realise is the extent to which western women are influenced by the hyper-sexualization of our culture. A woman can choose to not to expose her cleavage and curves, but then she's deemed dowdy or unattractive. Many girls and young women choose to put themselves on display because their idea of their self-worth is tied up in the male gaze.
Is the reason why you find the veil so offensive because it removes your power over the woman? Are you trying to find another way to assert it?
2006-11-14 06:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want them to know you are offended? More to the point, WHY are you offended? Is it because you dont understand why they wear the veil?
This country is supposed to be a democracy which means that people have freedom of speech and also the freedom to wear what they please.
I agree that the wearing of the veil is not ideal in these security concious times and that at airports and suchlike then they should be asked to remove it. However, if they are just going about their day to day business, they should wear what they like whether we like it or not.
Im more offended by people who wear next to nothing with their bellies hanging out than a woman wearing a veil.
2006-11-14 06:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by Catwhiskers 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone who was wearing a veil approached me to ask me for directions etc. If I couldn't see their lips I would have to say I didn't understand them. That wouldn't be a lie as I do not hear very well. There are a lot of people out there who may not realise they have a hearing problem until you cannot see someone lips move. I don't think anyone should be confrontational to them, I think they should be left alone. Anyone who is that well hidden behind a veil as far as I can see doen't not want to be approached or to mix in our society anyway.
2006-11-14 06:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by patsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the law does not forbid wearing a veil, they have every right to wear one. While I don't agree with what everyone does, I realize that the way I feel is not, in many cases, of any consequence to them or anyone else. The wearing of a veil is their expression of their religion, and they have the right to do it. I practice tolerance and accept others rights.I don't expect perfect strangers to feel the way that I do or to behave in a way that I find acceptable. None of us is the center of the universe.
2006-11-14 07:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The real question is why you get bothered with the way someone is dressing up decently. Consumerism has brainwashed most men in a way that they think women have to expose themselves to be accepted.
2006-11-14 06:58:28 · answer #7 · answered by Pishisauraus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do believe if you find this offensive, you should be able to speak openly about it, it should not be confortatinal. I think the veil has done what it was intended to do, to get you to look the other way.
2006-11-14 06:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by southernboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree,it is intimidating.we should be able to see everyones face,it is our country at the end of the day and these people should be complying with our culture,if we were to visit their country im pretty sure they would want us to respect their ways.at the end of the day you don't know who is under that veil and given that many muslims are terrorists,it is wise to know who you are standing/sitting by.you should tell them how you feel.
2006-11-14 07:08:15 · answer #9 · answered by jumpy789 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The best thing I think is to ignore them, don't acknowledge their presence at all
2006-11-14 06:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by dr evil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋