What are your opinions on bringing children up in world as it is today?

Question

I want to have kids but am very concerned about bringing them up with all this terrorism and nuclear weapons. Is it safe to do so and am I being silly?

Good grief- enough of the insults peeps!! I was just interested to get other peoples' perspectives- I am planning to have kids! I'm just saying that the world scares me! And sticky Nik, I think you'll find that you mean offspring not siblings!!

Answer 1

Hi
This is low down on you list and you probably won't read this. But having children is always scary and always has been. We have children in hope and love. You're not silly - you're human. And think goodness you're a more thinking person than some of the idiots who responded to you.
You'll make a loving mother. Don't give up.

Answer 2

I don't think you are being silly. You have a valid concern. I have a 12, 10, and 4 year old and it sometimes is scarey. Not just because of the terror threat, but they are exposed to so much at an earlier age than I was. I have my hands full because I screen what they watch, they want to get on the Internet so I have to watch what they are doing there (if you don't watch out there are tons of pop-ups etc. that even go on the children's sites), and there is so much violence in our country aside from the war stuff. I think it would be safe to have children if I were you, as long as you stay interactive in their lives (which most parents do anyway).

Answer 3

I know that me and my partner aren't going to have children. We both feel that with high education costs and not being able to afford or own home that we should never afford them. We both have student debts totalling around £13,000 each and we are now saving up so that he can do another course so he can qualify to work in a legal practise, however the prospect of paying our education bill off and trying to get on the property ladder to have a stable home, is not looking good. We pay or debts off at £100 each a month to bring down the over all bill. But even this will take us years. So we had made a decision that children will never be apart of our lives.

Terrorism or the threat of it didn't factor in to other decision, it's just that we refuse to bring children in to this world, knowing that we can't support them financially. People shouldn't have children and expect the state to pay for them.

I'm happy to say that i have a niece and a nephew whom i adore and I'll look after them instead.

Answer 4

If terrorism and war scares you, don't live in big cities that would be targets. The world is quite scary at the moment but it's also a big, big place. The best you can do is find a pleasant place for families to live, with nice schools, low crime rates and good neighbours. Then they don't have to exposed to too much bad stuff right away. Shelter them as much as possible while they are very young, and educate them well as they get older. It is perfectly possible to raise happy, healthy children in this day and age but I think you want to live away from places like London, where they'll be exposed to too much too soon.

Answer 5

Thinking to when I had my children things were probably as bad but not as obviously so. We also had the threat of nuclear war hanging over our heads. education, health and warring nations were all factors that were cause for concern to parents as it is today.

So my view is that fundamentally the only difference is terrorism. So you must use the same values on bringing up children as most of us have.

You cannot live your life wondering if it is right or wrong for you to have children. You will be a good parent have no fear. And your own children will survive the slings and arrows of outrageous fortunes.

Answer 6

The world is changing at what seems like an exponential rate. I wouldnt want my kids to miss out on learning about new technological breakthroughs, the early days of space travel, and whatever else the future has in store. living with the threat of terrorism is an aspect of the changing world we live in. the threat of nuclear war, suicide bombers, global pandemics etc is not enough to kill the idea of having kids. Your own flesh and blood experiencing love, humility, and embracing technology is something to strive for, no matter what dangers lie.

Answer 7

No one is being silly asking such a question
It is not safe to do most things in our world but we still manage to have it here dont we.
I dont think we have the right to not bring up children in this our world how can we produce the future really smart people who are going to do so much to make this world a better place to live people just like the ones you are going to bring into it.

Answer 8

the world at any point in time has been awash with hurt, destruction, intolerances, hatred and pain, but children are still born. Life is not a sure thing of happiness, safety etc but if you want children then as long as you provide them with the things that matter, good home life, good education, balanced views and understanding then you will have nothing to worry about. You can only do your best in this world.

Answer 9

I think that it is safe to have kids, and you are being a bit silly... the world will always have violence and stuff in it, just keep them informed of what is going on in the world... Don't scare them into thinking that the world is a bad place and that it is going to end soon, just let them know what is going on so that they aren't takin by suprise when something happens.

Answer 10

No, you're not being silly and no, it's not safe to do so. The fact that the world's in such a mess is one of the reasons why I never want to have children. I'd never put a child through all the rubbish that we have to put up with right now. Don't you do it either.