my mate has just found out that she is pregnant , and i know i can't make any decisions for her but the father of the baby is violent , she had problems with him before and they arn't together anymore, I don't think. I love her to bits and i don't want him to hurt her or the baby , she has been such a dear friend to me and been a shoulder for me to cry on , and has always been there for me. i love her to bits. Congrats babes. x
2006-11-13 22:13:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
that mate she is talking about is me i appreciate her caring for me but i have to learn from my mistakes i love you loads kyz i just don't want him to kill this baby aswell so i am staying away love ya loads xx
2006-11-13 22:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by Bipolar-Bird88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is real hard to be strong in a violent relationship and the fact she is away from him i commend her. I guess long term now is the fact that possibly the father is going to want her back and wether she can stay strong for this and protect herself and her unborn child. And also after the child is born for visitation rights it would be good for her to be in contact with a counsellor so if he can have visitation the counsellor may be able to step in and say supervised access only.Unfortunatley now matter how much you love her you can only be there for her and hope she feels strong enough to do this on her own but if she chooses to go back you cant control that either. Best of luck
2006-11-13 22:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the others say just be there for her, tell her how you feel and give her advice and just hope she takes it. She will need you even more when the baby arrives. If by any grim chance she is still in a relationship with him, and i hope to god she is not then she will need your love and support even more. You sound like a very sincere friend and they are hard to come by so just keep on doing what you,re already doing and give my best wishes and congratulations to your friend. God bless you both.
2006-11-13 22:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by lelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people have this problem no one can do any thing about it just only forget i know it is not easy to do. the time is change everything have to change you can not stop it can you try to make she feel better much you can and her baby let she take care she is mother now ,you are not ,she will find out. the baby will grow up to be young people and will under stand if she try to explain to her child
2006-11-13 22:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by 2Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said you can't make her decisions for her and she has done that herself.all i think you can try to do is countine to love and be there for her am sure you guys willl pull thur think and thin together, that what counts most..just take care of her and the baby.
2006-11-13 22:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi sab its missy just tell sab that we will always be here for her no matter what happens we will stick by her throw thick and thin we will take care of her all the way if she lets us and we got to make shure she dont think we are trying to take over
i love you sab and be strong no matter what happens
i will always be there bbz xxxxxxxxxxxx
2006-11-13 22:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure she will do just fine if she has a friend like you!! just make sure ur their for her as it will be hard..... and the thing with the bloke situation, their isnt really much you can do, just keep reminding your friend that your here for her!!
im sure she will be a great mum just like u are a great mate
xxxxx
2006-11-14 00:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by sweetchick18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just advise him the consequence of continue with the relation ship of the father of the baby and if she agree with you fine otherwise she has to bear the consequences, and you will have nothing to do.
2006-11-13 22:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by theodory z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her, you dont need to do anything but be there for her
2006-11-13 22:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by hanumistee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her thats all you can do.
2006-11-13 22:28:09 · answer #10 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋