I love my husband and I don't want a divorce, but he can't make me (you know what) without oral. Would I be wrong if I cheated?
Please no letcures
2006-11-13 21:03:45 · 20 answers · asked by Kia25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have tried talking to him, but that leads to silent treatment (which I hate) I try foreplay but I have to give directions which leads to lose of desire. I guess it didn't matter when we were newly weds, but he has gotten lazy
2006-11-13 21:24:16 · update #1
Well yes I think it would be wrong, but perhaps having an honest discussion with your hubby letting him know you need to be 'satisfied' would help. Maybe he needs to pay a little more attention to you. I have been with my hubby going on 14 years and sometimes we need to add something to spice it up... a new toy, new lingerie, role playing... cause otherwise the same old thing does get boring. Its just that if you do cheat you can't take it back and that could have negative effects on your relationship with him even if he doesn't find out about it (your own guilt could cause negative effects). Anyways I wish you the best of luck :)
2006-11-13 21:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by SexyLady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you'd be wrong if you cheated! You already know that one.
My husband can't give me orgasms in intercourse either. No one has! Only through oral. IT'S TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY NORMAL. Stop thinking otherwise and don't let your mind wander to cheating "solutions". You'll only find disatisfaction anywhere else you could go.
If I really want an O during intercourse I get on top of my hubby while he's sitting in a chair and do all the work myself. It works like a charm.
good luck
2006-11-13 21:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to assume part of the responsibility for not being satisfied. If he's not hitting the mark, you need to tell him. If he still can't hit it after being instructed, then you should go to plan B....power tools!! This is why man (or woman) invented vibrators...and it isn't cheating. If you should choose to go to another man to be "serviced" then you must be prepared for any consequences that may come your way, like your marriage ending. Granted, many marriages do not end with adultry...but many do! I'm not lecturing you...I'm just pointing out the obvious. Bottom line, the decision is entirely yours. If you really love him, buy a vibrator.
2006-11-14 00:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be a bad idea to use oral or masturbation as a foreplay before going for regular sex. Probably it shud help u have orgasm. Another possibility is that u mastubate urself before hand.
2006-11-13 21:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To my experience, satisfaction is a big effect on a happy marriage. When woman or man is not satisfied the stress level is growing and growing. however, my Strong advice would be for you to talk to your husband and try to get him understand that you do love him but you also have sexual needs. and see what comes out of it.
2006-11-13 21:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by evlilover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think so that u would be wrong bcos u are trying to satisfy your physical hunger. If you dont cook good food then wont ur husband go to a restaurant to eat. the same is for love making. so go and enjoy. if you want we can also chat on this topic.
2006-11-13 21:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instruct him what's going to fulfill you. of route he's not psychic and desires to study. do not ask us for permission in case you want to cheat because it appears like you're searching for that validation from the following, for someone to assert "yeah flow ahead and get a chum with advantages."
2016-11-29 03:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wont lecture but to answer youre question yes it is wrong. talk to him about it and try to get professional help to see what other options you have for him. (enlargement??) I dont know what the problem might be. Books? spicy up you life and get a book with help on that subject
2006-11-13 21:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by lilborikua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't that a common complaint amongst women ?
Why not hint of an open marriage and see what his response is?
If you are up front & he doesn't go against it how can it be cheating ?
2006-11-13 21:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by dogpatch USA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah its wrong if you cheated, and how do you know that no guy can please you without oral... i mean how long has it been since a man has satisfied you w/o oral!! Oral is just awesome, giving and taking, but maybe its all in your head and you just want oral..
2006-11-13 21:07:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋