I love my wife but I am scared and confused. I do not know how I could possibly put the blame on her and make her understand why I did it. I don't want a divorce but I cannot hide this pregnacy from my wife. I believe in doing the right thing so should I contact an attorney before telling her? I think she has cheated on me once. Is divorcing her first the right step to take in a potential case like this?
2006-11-13 20:58:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is so not truth, her pimp would be after you a s s
to pay for the abortion.
2006-11-13 21:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by popo dean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless your are Michael Jordan or rich or something hold the phone. How dare you cheat and start talking about attorneys and divorce and blaming her. Your main priority should be on fixing your marriage. You think she cheated but you are still with her right. Best thing you can do is sit her down and talk to her and she decides there is no repairing your marriage then you start talking about the future but as im sure youve heard two wrongs dont make a right. You never know some wives have actually put up with worse. But it will take a LOT of counseling cheating is one thing but with a prostitute and having unprotected sex with her. Come on you have to tell your wife you never know, if she slept with you unprotected, she may look healthy but what if her others johns aren't and you're taking their diseases home to you wife. Better safe than sorry especially if she decides to forgive you. GOOD LUCK and next time keep it in your pants or give your wife and break and let her move on to someone that can be faithful. Too many noncurable diseases i.e. herpes, HIV/Aids to be playing games.
2006-11-14 05:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by debra_ql 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe that you still really love this woman. If you think that she has cheated on you, may-be you decided to do the same. I think it is childish and dangerous with all the diseases that are invading the world having a one stand stand with one of these ladies. I don't like to use the word prostitute because I think that these women go through a lot satisfying all the sexual requests which there are not words to describe such actions.
You have really been immature to have made this woman pregnant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
However, your marriage is over and whether your wife has cheated or not this is not a healthy relationship. How old are you ? I would first of all take the HIV test and all tests that can determine any of these diseases that you can encounter during this type of situation. Then I would tell her without being pathetic that you want a divorce and tell her to take the HIV test after you have taken it!!!!!! I am woman and if it would have happened to me the divorce would be the only answer and pray to God that you have not transmitted any type of disease to your wife!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I understand we all have weakness but when a man or woman is not for marriage why get married??????????????????? Good luck to you and to your wife!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-14 05:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by marque1717 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you really loved her then you wouldn't of cheated and second how on earth did you get a prostitute pregnant? Didn't you use protection? The baby's prob not yours anyway. Wait until the child is born before you contact an attorney. Tell your wife you cheated. This woman prob is putting the blame on you because she is a pro and has slept with like a million guys and she herself doesn't know who the father is. Don't give this woman a cent! And go and have a blood test for any diseases. You don't want to give them to your wife.
2006-11-14 05:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by rach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
excuse me but I'll try to explain something to you - prostitutes do not get pregnant and if they do they have no problem of getting abortion, so I think that case is different than you stated here, I will try to put it down as clear as I can:
You had an affair with some silly girl (women), told her that you love her and are not happy with your wife, so she imagined that if she got pregnant from you, you would leave your family and marry her (so stupid of her to trust you but it's different story). You were just having fun and thought that everything was great and didn't want to change anything, but there came the problem with pregnancy and now you are scared.
Excuse me but you deserve all of this. So just be a man, go to your wife and tell her everything, if she forgives you that doesn't mean that your problem is solved, you have to act like a real man with this "other" one too because she is going to have "your" baby, tell her that you are not getting divorce and are not going to marry her and live with her but least you can do is take care of child she is carrying - it is human being after all and stop talking about it like "something" that you can decide should exist or not.
BE A MAN
2006-11-14 07:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her first before you make any drastic decisions (besides the one you already took by having sex outside of marriage). It doesn't matter if she's cheated on you. So don't you dare use that against her or an excuse for what you did.
You are an evil man, plain and simple. You must prove yourself to her.
The best thing that you and this ho should do is put the baby up for adoption. PUT IT UP FOR ADOPTION. You wife can choose whether or not she wants to stay with you... but don't you and the other ho DARE keep this baby with you two! Your relationship will never work if you try to make it, so don't make this child suffer for your lack of responsibility. Give it a chance at a much better life. Man, I know so many couples (my own personal friends) who are waiting to adopt babies! They are wonderful people! You and this ho are not wonderful people and you do not deserve to take an innocent, perfect little baby and screw it's life up.
Hopefully you don't have children with your wife cuz if you do, you just screwed up their lives too.
Now, just live with the consequences. Come clean with your wife, tell her your'e sorry, and then do whatever it takes to win her trust back, and if she chooses to stay with you, give her as much time as she needs. It could take years and years and years.
good luck, and stop being so disgusting.
2006-11-14 05:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you love your wife why did you feel the need to go with a prostitute in the first place? If my husband did that to me it would be bad enough that you went with a prossie let alone getting her pregnant(why did you not use a condom)You say you think she has cheated on you,is that just some thing to stop you feeling so guilty or did it really happen?You need to talk to her,but don't be surprised if she does want you to go,means you did not use a condom who knows what you have caught that should also be one of your worries and your wife's.I would say good luck but you brought this on yourself.
2006-11-14 05:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by plumbob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you paid for the prostitute's services, therefore I don't think you're responsible whether or not she's taking any method of birth control. Contact your lawyer and if you are responsible for this child, should this be yours, you should ask for a DNA test.
Secondly, you going to a prostitute and having unprotected sex is indicative of a MAJOR problem. You have problems, dude. Get some counselling, and yeah, let your wife know.
2006-11-14 05:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WEll what you did sucks big time.
I just cant understand how you could get a prostitute pregnant. They are professionals, they are not suppose to get pregnant.
And for you to have unprotected sex with one is unacceptable.
How do you know that its your baby?
Find out all the facts first, before you wreck everybody's lives.
This also means that you are in constant contact with the prostitute. You are suppose to be able to walk away! Hello!
Man I'd advice your wife to take you to the cleaners.
Good luck
2006-11-14 05:15:42 · answer #9 · answered by Low Pro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think she cheated on you? therefore you are not sure. Be honest tell her what happened and step up and take responsibilty for what you did and accept anything that may happen. Its your fault and you are just going to have accept any out come. Did you do this because you assumed she did it to you? You should have talked to her about it. and never did what you did. but too late it happened so now you should say the truth eiether way the damage has been done. Its better to say the truth because hiding will just make it worse.
2006-11-14 05:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by lilborikua 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lmao....gezzz
if your not full of sh!t and your story is true..then you DONT believe in doing the right thing...or you would never have unzipped your fly for a nasty whore. and if i were you id be more worried about any diseases you picked up from that hooker, than your fear of being caught!
you don't love your wife, and your not feeling guilty..your scared of being caught and pissed that you are in a tight spot w/a baby you probably don't want! your selfish and even now your not thinking about what you could have potentially put your wife at RISK for since you more than likely continued sleeping with your wife while screwing the whore....but instead are thinking about legal council...your only worry is, how to cover your own @ss.
i feel sorry for your wife.
2006-11-14 05:06:01 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋