Ahh what to do?

Question

My husband of 4 yrs says things have changed and he does not love me like he use too but yet he wont say lets get a divorce or more on. It has been weeks now and everytime i bring it up he still says he does not know what he wants. This is killen me i love him more then anything. I dont know how to get threw this whats even worse i think there is another women but i cant prove it and he swears there is not but so many things dont add up!! any advice from women or men who have been threw this.

PS. if it does end in a divorce how do i stop myself from loven him so much?

Answer 1

The divorce is coming for sure. Look for some replacement.
No help every love has the end if people are not ment for each other. One side white other black - don't match.

Answer 2

He may not love you; but he wants you to be "the bad guy" and bring up the whole divorce thing. He is trying to get rid of the guilt for wanting to do something that he knows is wrong.

If he divorces you, you are free to grieve and mourn his loss.

But..like anything else--be sure that you take steps to "get over" this guy. Find friends you can hang out with, take an evening course at the local community college, join a church or civic organization, etc.

Answer 3

Read "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "Woman Power". These books will help you IMMENSILY.

Also, stop asking him if there's another woman. Unless you know FOR A FACT about it, then stop suspecting him and stop confronting him. If he said no once, then take the no and move on unless otherwise proved.

You two need to learn to love each other in a different way. Love changes many times throughout marriage. He needs to find a new way to love you, and that's normal. He needs to serve you, and you need to serve him. Don't give up on him, though, there is still probably a chance.

I suggest you guys start dating each other again like you did before you got married.
And if you're overweight WORKOUT A LOT and make yourself sexy and hot (for yourself just as much as for him). You guys deserve to make each other happy sexually.

Build up his self-esteem and give him compliments and mushy comments all the time. let him know without a doubt that you love him.

Answer 4

Every relationship eventually has its problems but he is just being selfish. If he feels that way he should sit down and tell you why so you two can repair it. Instead of sitting around waiting to see if he will leave you even if there wasn't anybody else and i know how it is to be totally in love with someone and it feeling almost one sided, why put yourself through it. Its sad to say but he is grown how can he say he doesnt know what he wants, he either know if he wants this marriage to work or he doesnt not maybe later NOW. Dont let him walk over you sit him down and talk to him, get counseling, but dont let him put everything on you like its all your fault. And if it leads to divorce at least you know you BOTH tried. If he's not willing to he doesn't want your marriage and you need to get out point blank!

Answer 5

Think positively. Be quite and watch the situation. Love him more than earlier and do good to him and try to help him in gaining the love which he lost. Thing will happen to your side and in both. Do not think of divorce again. Think everything is going to be fine.

Answer 6

Men usually don't say they want to break up ....Usually they do things and try to make the woman feel bad , feel unwanted , etc ...

In case of divorce , You will begin stopping from loving him as soon as you will realise how much he hurted you ...

Answer 7

If he doesn't love you but doesn't want a divorce then I'd say he's waiting until he finds someone else. So he's using you. You should divorce him. It's hard but when you meet someone better, and you will, then you'll get over him quickly.

Answer 8

Get to counselling. The better question is WHY would you settle for less than?