My bf is living with me so that he can get back on his feet. He feels that our positions are the same in the home, like he is not a guest. I have a large basement, and an extra bedroom. He now wants to breed dogs, have a gym, and/or a recording studio in the basement, and he and/or his friends have inquired about renting the extra bedroom. I am not interested in any of the above, however i don't think that he understands that i have the final say as to what goes on here in this house. What should i say to make things explicitly clear that he does not make those types of decisions???
2006-11-13 20:10:40 · 8 answers · asked by prettydebutante 3 in Business & Finance ➔ Renting & Real Estate
You'r boyfriend is a crummy boyfriend. He's taking advantage of your kindness and wanting to further step on your toes. You need to kick him to the curb..... you've done more than your share of reaching out offering help to him and he's being very greedy.
This is YOUR home and YOU set the rules and you are right that you have the final say in YOUR home. If he wants all those things he can get his own place. If he does not have the money for his own place, he needs to be happy just to have a roof over his head and a great woman by his side, which apparently isn't enough for him.
Besides... yous ay he moved in with you to save money until he gets back on his feet. If he cannot pay $700 in rent, how can be buy dogs (food and vet bills can get VERY expensive), afford gym equipment, and purchase recording studio items? These things will run well into many thousands of dollars. Sounds like he's taking you for a ride.
2006-11-14 00:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by deepvioletfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is trying to take over your home with probably no plan for moving out. Make him understand that your extending your home to him does not include all of the above. Re-tell him that it is only until he gets back on his feet and I would put a time line on that.
2006-11-14 04:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is speak to him, explain that you don't want all those things happening in your home. After all, it's your house and you have the final say. If he isn't understanding about that, then maybe you'll need to look at the relationship as a whole. After all, you've given him a roof over his head.
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2006-11-14 04:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by Nikata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know that even though you are living together, you are not married and it is YOUR home and your not willing to let these sort of things take place. he will have to wait until "he's back on his feet" and gets a place of his own. if you go through with what he wants, he'll never leave and you'll be putting HIM in control of the situation. he should have respect for you and understand. good luck to you!!
2006-11-14 08:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by snicker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you own , or rent? If you own, then until he marries you, he has no joint property rights. If you rent, is he on the lease? Only those signed on the lease get to make decisions. So give him the ultimatum, marry or get out.
2006-11-14 04:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by subbie4gb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a pushover, it's your place. Let him know the rules and that you are doing HIM a favor. If he doesn't like it, you will ask him to leave.
2006-11-14 07:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to find another place to live!
2006-11-14 04:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by psalmsinthenight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should either tell him how it is or tell him to hit the road.
2006-11-14 04:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by Damien's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋