I'm not in one but have recently had to end one.
2006-11-13 20:09:23 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Haven't you already done that if you have ended it?
2006-11-13 20:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by rondavous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there's any such a thing as ending up a relationship nicely.
It's bound to hurt; and quite franckly, it's better not to keep in touch, it only makes matter worse.
If you have made up your mind and are sure about how you feel, then, there's no point in waiting for the right time.
There will never be one for the person concerned anyway.
You don't have to be insensitive, not all truths are helpful, or necessary to hear. The bottom line is, that this is what you want and nothing is going to change that.
I've been on both sides, the receiving end and the other one. None is easy, but it's definitely the way I'd like it to be.
I need to know where I stand. If there could be another chance. If i've done something wrong.
So, be as honest as you can; You don't want to destroy someone; But you want to make sure that if they decide to hang on there, it's not because you gave them any false hopes.
KC.
2006-11-14 05:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly
Tell them what a wonderful person they are and what a great time you've had...but you simply don't feel able to commit further.
Don't use open ended terms like...it's not you, it's me...or I have a problem...because it's so cheesy it's unreal and it leaves them an opening to try and squeeze back through, and that's not fair on them.
Do not make it a special date either, as they will inevitably gone to a lot of trouble to be dumped and that's not fair either.
You could send a nice letter and a bouquet of roses to them and switch your phone off
2006-11-14 04:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by trebs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will never be a nice way if the other person still wants to be with you...
Only thing i could suggest is at least be fully honest, this might be painful at the first stage but its the only way that could establish a nice friendship between you two.
Andy
2006-11-14 04:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by andylondon2006 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well, you need to go on with it in a nice way. organize a time in which only the two of you can talk heart to heart. tell him how you feel about your on going relationship and don't forget to be honest.
tell him that maybe your relationship will work sometime on the future. let him understand it well. if he still doesn't then explain it to him further.
reminder: don't forget to ask for God's guidance!
2006-11-14 04:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi, i guess there is no way to end a relationship nicely either way one of you is going to be upset...i guess the nicest way would be to sit your partner down and explain that you have changed and no longer feel the same and when you have told them as nicely as possible that you are ending the relationship, say tio them if it is going to hurt them or if they feel they can cope with it you would still love tobe their friend as you value them and like them in your life....
2006-11-14 07:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By saying " I've had the most wonderful time with you, but i think it's only fair to tell you I'm not looking for a permanent relationship at the moment. We will always be friends and you will always have a special place in my heart."
2006-11-14 04:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by Helen L 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't think you can end it nicely. but it's best to be honest and not keep someone hanging on till you work out how to tell them. it's better to end than for them to get their hopes up of a lasting relationship
2006-11-14 04:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by String of pearls 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth that love is no more in your heart, but you still want to be friends. some times couples never get to know each other very well during their courtship, and only when they break up and become good friends will they realised what they have missed. i know it will be difficult for the other partner to understand, but you just have to be frank and mean every word you says. just don,t shout or walk away from his or her anger, don,t answer him or her back when he or she tries to talk you into the relationship. stick to your guns until you know the right time to move to the next direction.
2006-11-14 04:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by nyango 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Long telephone discussions quite frequently. Not only e-mail/phone messages. Taking care of the emotions of both partners.
2006-11-14 04:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by silberstein_9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'nice' is not possible,endings are never nice. Be firm kind honest and DO NOT go back or contact. you are clearly a good person to ask this question.
2006-11-14 04:15:12 · answer #11 · answered by wickedsoul132 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋