Please tell me what you would do. Here is my scenario: I am a manager for a small mortgage company. I got my friend a job there where she was assigned as an assistant doing database and postcards for marketing. This happened in Oct of 2005. I got married Mach 2006 and started working part time in May 2006. Well,... these past 2 months,.... my freind/co worker has been taking over my work load. I only work 20 hours a week and before when I would come in to work, I would have work sitting for me,... now I dont have too much work. By the time I get there, she has allready done it. She has done a good job, I am not going to lie, but it seems like she wants to take over. Our 2end manager is NOT a gossiper..... she has never been one but she did talk to me last week and told me that when I am not there my freind is very happy and always trying to help my boss, when I am there, she dosnt seem to be content. I feel ackward now..... and I was just offered a better position but there is...(cont)
2006-11-13 19:12:43 · 6 answers · asked by Photographer 6 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
a catch. I have to start working full time. I spoke to my boss briefly about the way I felt and he was really understanding... the tension got so bad I told him I was going to go out and try to find another job in a different field. He encouraged me to take a weekend off and think about everything and that if I stay out team will go back to normal. Have you ever been in a situation similar? Please share your thoughts. Let me know if you need more details
2006-11-13 19:16:37 · update #1
The full time position I was offered was at the company I am currently working at.
2006-11-13 19:29:21 · update #2
Job-sharing is a viable option for many. It sounds like, unintentionally, you and your colleague have established this informally. Do your research and consider approaching her and your boss to make this more permanent.
Having worked part-time for the last 6 months, you seem hesitant to get back into a fulltime position. Listen to those instincts. Once you pulled back alittle professionally, you were able to see a new perspective. Which included a personal life not worth losing.
If you want to continue to work with this company, contribute to a win-win solution for everyone. It doesn't have to become a competition. Positive encouragement is more productive....
Good luck...
2006-11-14 02:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your scenario it is obvious that your friend is enjoying the work while you are not there, not sure if she is try to take over your position. If you were in her place you would also feel the same. When you are in the office everyone knows that you can do the job but when you are not in the office and your friend takes on the job which she hasn't done it before and is praised for doing a good job, however during your presence she won't as people know that she has been guided by you.
To overcome this situation, you can ask your boss to switch you to another department if it a big firm but again it depends on you if you would want to work in that department or alternatively find another job. It is sometimes self-sacrificing to make your friend a co-worker but if you really think your friend needs the job and you don't want hurt your friend in any aspect then it is better to switch the job. Anyway you have already gained much experience in your field that find a new job won't be a problem for you. Well just think that you have done something for your friend. Good investments do have good returns!
Hope this helps!
2006-11-13 19:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to simply have a discussion with her and the manager about expectations. If you are happy with the job and do not want to leave, then work to make the relations with others good. If the other position is more attractive then fine, but its always best to leave in good standing with the current work place.
It also sounds like the difficulty is in the fact that you were her superior and now she is sort of yours due to the amount of work you each contribute. With the discussion, the tension will melt away with the knowledge that you are not trying to take back what you've relinquished to her. If you are offering comments on her work, you may be coming off as still in that position of trainer. So, its better to just set up an environment where everybody feels free to say what they feel without fear of retribution. Deal with the issues as they arise.
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2006-11-13 19:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me what started to be a good favor is turning to lemons. Now you must turn that into lemonade,even though you helped a friend out. Your marriage really has nothing to do with this, unfortunately the timing made this scenario very convienent for your friend/coworker. Be a do gooder and look out for yourself. If you were offered a better position, take it. Sometimes as people we must know when to be aggressive or submissive. Which one are you?
2006-11-13 19:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by Vivian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any suicide is terrible and tragic. Plus the emotional scars it leaves on the ones left in the back of. I'm no longer a devout fellow with the intention to say I'd pray for her might be lip carrier to you. But recognise that you just and your buddy Val have my inner most sympathy and speak to Val. She'll want your aid. I'm definite the complete household is thinking about why this occurred and believe responsible additionally. Be a well buddy and permit her lean on you. The exceptional of success to you.
2016-09-01 12:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are going back to work full time and it appears that you have a good relationship with your superior, then this problems solves itself.
2006-11-13 19:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋